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If we're reading classics, can we have the ones with the poo-eaters and restroom semen slurpers?
2
Bi-erasure much? The gayfag could actually be a bifag, if you'll pardon the moonspeak.
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Remember kids-

Moses and the CDC agree:

Abstinence followed by Monogamy....
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And the more we deviate from A/M the more STDs we will harvest.

direct correlation.
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Fag Hags? Thought they were called Fruit Flys?
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Exactly, #2...this guy couldn't just be a garden variety bisexual?
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@3: Why don't you stay abstinent for life, so the world has less of your disease?
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"Bisexual"...yeah, right. Men who bat for the other team, and state so to friends/family, DO NOT suddenly find women attractive sexually. However, they do find the het lifestyle attractive for many reasons socially, and being young sometimes decide to give it a go. Rest assured, it will end in disaster, unless Dan's right about her being in on things and approving.
My guess is he's left college and is now seeing what a challenge being gay can be, and is hoping for the anonymity of the het lifestyle.
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I have a cousin who is doing this. I can't figure it out. Either his fiance has seen his FB page yet or she's okay with it.
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as a bit of a domme bi chick who has had a fag-hag/bdsm top relationship with a former gay dude roommate..... lemme just say that things happen.
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Convince them to sign a fair prenup whatever has to be done to bring it about. The one thing as sure as eggs being eggs is that, however enthusiastic she may be now for whatever she's seen or done involving him and another man, come the divorce, she'll use it against him for all she's worth and succeed in cleaning him out financially. It happens quite often enough now, and things should get worse under the incoming administration and increasingly far-right Congress next year.
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You should at least try to read and understand studies before quoting them in support of your biases. First of all, the sample size in the study was extremely small. There were 46 men and 43 women. Of those, there was one straight man who was slightly more aroused by the male erotica than the female erotica. There were two gay men who who were slightly more aroused by the female erotica than the male erotica. There were about two more gay men who showed only a slight preference for the male erotica and about four straight men who showed only a slight preference for the female erotica. Women were much more tightly bunched in the "small difference" part of the graph, but there were definitely both straight and lesbian women who showed marked differences.in their response to male and female erotica. The only real weird gap is there were no straight men who actually showed strong preferences for male erotica and no gay men who showed strong preferences for female erotica, but there were straight women who showed strong preferences for female erotica and lesbian women who showed strong preferences for male erotica. What do I conclude from this? Women who are considerably more aroused by the opposite kind of porn than their stated sexuality appear to be vastly more common than men with the same trait.

What the study absolutely does not prove is any such nonsense as women are all bisexual and there are no male bisexuals. About 10-15% of the male sample showed essentially no real preference. This is tiny compared to the approximately 50-60% of women who showed basically no real preference, but it is certainly not non-existent. And while women with a strong preference one way or another were much rarer than men, they were not non-existent.

For what it's worth, I now consider myself straight and I am happily married to a woman. I have rarely watched gay pornography and have essentially no interest in it. Yet in my adolescence and in college, I distinctly recall having sex with men and enjoying it. If we believe that what kind of porn arouses you is the be-all and end-all of determining sexuality, I have to conclude that I'm a strong heterosexual who was just going through a phase. But, wait, you just said in this post that there's no such thing, because the study apparently proves that, because I'm not aroused by gay porn, I must never have had a gay experience. Or something.
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You see? You post things like this that don't even bring up the *possibility* of bisexuality, and then get your panties in a wad when people accuse you of participating in bierasure?
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like how Liberals murder their filthy spawn with glee?

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OK, gang, let's grade Danny's Sex Ed pop quiz.....

1- Straight people should have more sex (and more sex partners) than they do
FALSE
Straight people should work on being better at monogamy.
At least the CDC thinks so.

2- Gay people should have less sex (and fewer sex partners)
TRUE
(none and zero would be nice......uwahahahahahaha! we slay ourselves....
we joke, of course. what would the world be without a sprinkling of perverts and deviants?)

3- Anal sex is not a first-date activity
True.
unless you are in prison.

4- Use condoms for anal sex with casual partners
FALSE
Do not have sex with "casual partners".
Promiscuous Sex = STD
Condoms do not make unsafe sexual behavior "safe".
They may, if used meticulously, render it less unsafe.
However the real world is full of STDs and pregnancies that were the result of "safe" condomed sex.

5- Use condoms...to protect yourself from HIV and other STIs, known and unknown.
FALSE.
see #4 above.
To protect yourself from HIV and other STIs engage in monogamous sex with a lifelong partner who shares your values.
Sounds like too much trouble?
Go ahead.
Do it Danny's way.
Die of AIDS.
Be our guest.
But please don't be a whiny bitch about it.
And please don't blame Reagan, Republicans, "Christians", Conservatives, Mormons, The Pope, Leviticus, Paul, etc, etc.....

6- Lower your inhibitions the old-fashioned way (therapy and beer)
FALSE.
Alcohol and promiscuous sex are a dangerous combination.
Perhaps not as toxic and lethal as Meth tainted sex but in and of itself a serious problem,
and poor gist for attempts at humor.
As with #4; the real world is full of STDs and pregnancies and regretted actions that were the result of alcohol fueled sex.

7- Stay the fuck away from meth and meth users.
True.

OK, lets add it up.

3 correct answers out of seven.

43% ..... :(

Is that considered an F in Gommorah?

Danny will have to forgo today's skipping and instead spend 2 hours on the CDC website doing remedial study.
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Yeesh. The trolls are out in force today.
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@ 16 - No kidding. =/
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My brother primarily (but not exclusively) dated guys before he met his wife. He was dressed as Sporty Spice when they met and she invited him to move in with her as a roommate, thinking that he was gay. They started dating a month later and have been together for over 11 years now. Many people thought that he was gay before, now most people assume that he's straight. Moral of the story: Just because a guy who likes guys ends up with a woman, doesn't mean he's straight. It also doesn't automatically mean that the relationship will fail. (Although she does wish he would wear drag more often.)
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Forgive me for an unrelated comment. I am a new podcast listener and started from the last archived episode so I'm not quite caught up yet. I listened to the latest podcast to make make sure you guidelines hadn't changed for questions, AFTER I called. Like a dolt. If you would help, I'd appreciate your insight even though I'm a rule breaker. So you know who I am, the last 4 digits of my call back are 1297 and i'm in pennsylvania. Thanks for the great Podcast/blog either way.
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And I just saw you're on hiatus. And I don't know why I was being so secretive about my identity. I'm not leatarded... I had a car accident today and I'm on drugs. yeah it's the drugs.
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Bah, most of my straight male friends (myself included) are suspected-gay by, uh, people who think about that shit a lot, somewhere between "occasionally" and "all the time". Some are unequivocally straight, some pretty-much-straight, some are bi-ish. Some are even surprisingly-gay-seeming (again, if one is paying attention to those sorts of things) and in serious, long-term relationships with women (whom they have great sex with, if stories are to be believed). Greater acceptance of homosexuality also means acceptance of a wider variety of being-male and being-female, regardless of who you like to fuck - which means, a lot more gay-acting straight dudes who /really are/ straight.

It's reasonable to raise questions of someone who's in a position where they're facing significant coercion against being non-straight (from family, friends, religion, unmentioned russian ortho priest dad, self-imposed things). But, if he was comfortable enough to explore same sex things, comfortable talking about it, had people around him that were okay with it, shouldn't we assume if he wanted to be _______, he would be _______? It seems very problematic to privilege people's 1990's-era gaydar (picturing a clunky nokia cell phone that still has "Queer Eye For the Straight Guy" background pics and a Rhythm is a Dancer ringtone) over his OWN ACTUAL (seemingly honest) NARRATIVE about his sexuality. Sexuality is a goddamned mystery, even for people who are married, so the external narrative always covers up complexities - but it seems important that he be given the right to construct that narrative himself, at least. (Again, barring coercion and circumstance, of which there is a lot in the world.)

As for planting seeds in his wife's mind - sure, fine - but I would hope that, if he and his future wife's discourse about his (and her) sexuality isn't 10x beyond the level of web forum support groups, there are more fundamental problems REGARDLESS of how he feels about dudes versus chicks. (That said, the reason such things exist is because lots of people HAVE fundamental problems...)

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@10 - Hot.

@12 - Thanks.

Wow. I'm a straight girl, and just last weekend I had hot protected anal sex on a first date. It was awesome. Am I missing something?
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Moral values?
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Yeah, okay, but you're still misinterpreting that 2003 study. It showed that women experience physiological arousal in reaction to male and female erotica--not DESIRE. Arousal is a dilation/lubrication thing, and the women in the study also exhibited it in reaction to footage of baboons mating. They exhibited it in reaction to erect males but not flaccid males. One interpretation was that physiological arousal is an evolutionary defense mechanism against permanent damage from rape; another was that women were aroused by images of women because of society's equation of women with sexiness. There were others, too. You've really run with this one study that had a lot of different conditions and myriad possible interpretations.
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@23 I've those in spades. What is more immoral about anal sex than vaginal sex on a first date? I, the person penetrated, initiated both, and he enthusiastically obliged--with a condom. If you're not slut shaming me here, I still fail to see the problem.

Dan?
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@22, my interpretation is that the top shouldn't be pushing anal for a first-date activity. If you were the bottom, and you love anal, I don't see any reason why you can't ask for it.
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Thanks, Erica @26! Now that you mention it, that makes sense. I'm always the one to initiate anal, so it's hard for me to imagine as commonplace scenarios in which bottoms are pressured. But if bottoms tend to feel pressured (on a first date or otherwise) that way, I totally see where Dan's rule is coming from. Whew!
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Christ, why can't a guy seem a bit gay without people getting up in his business?
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"Heterosexual and homosexual women, if legit scientific research is to be believed, "tend to become sexually aroused by both male and female erotica, and, thus, have a bisexual arousal pattern," according to the results of 2003 study conducted at LUG-infested Northwestern University. Men, on the other hand, prefer erotica that plays exclusively to their professed sexual orientation. Which means, of course, that female sexuality is a fluid and male sexuality is a solid. Or something."

Sorry Dan, but this "Research" is fake, and I would not call some statistic a "Research", because I am a scientist, a researcher with 4 patents. I am a woman and only attracted and aroused by men, naked or clothed. Seeing 2 chicks doing something together makes me puke, ok not really puke, but I am repulsed by it. And I am tired of being brainwashed by media that I should be attracted to women too, or otherwise it means something is wrong with me.
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My closeted brother married his big fat obnoxious controlling fag hag. He's an idiot.

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