We have family values AND production values. How could we not win?

Damn, that made me cry.

Wow, that was awesome.

Seeing those *very* Utah people (the families, not so much the dancers) be joyful for their gay children, moved me to tears. I lived in Utah until I was old enough to move far away, but I've had to go back at least once a year. To paraphrase Dan, I know these people. They are my relatives, my school teachers, the people I saw every week at church. Seeing them happy at a gay marriage proposal was something I never believed could happen in my lifetime. Aaaaand now I'm crying again.

When the boyfriend came out in the suit I just started bawling, and didn't stop for the rest of the video. What a keeper.

Now I have to get that song.

Got a little teary there. Must be dust in the vent system. Or that damn ficus.

Good looking suit!

I think that guy who wanted us to be happy for them, got his wish. Beautiful.

"We're always happy for them," he said. "Would it kill them to be happy for us?"

I got officially married this year to my partner of over 20 years. We are legally husbands. Yay us.

But you know the thing that hit me most about our wedding? The friends that were happy for us. We had a pretty big wedding, with lots of straight relatives, friends, and coworkers. The legal rights are something we've sought for years—decades, and were expected. That was the point. But the joy and happiness our friends had for us was an unexpected bonus.

I guess I had become jaded and cynical after decades of discrimination. I forget sometimes that not all straight people are homophobic jerks who barely tolerate us. I have to keep reminding myself that we won the right to marry in this state by a popular vote, that most people in this state wanted us to be able to marry. This state didn't have to be dragged into it reluctantly by legislators or courts. This is 2013 now, not the bad old dark days of the 1980s. We are winning not just in rights, but in the love and support of our friends, and increasingly the general public.

We're not there yet, but we're getting closer. And for me one of the happiest moments of our big gay wedding was seeing how they were happy for us.

I, like others, am happy for them and for what this possibly means in Utah for all those mormons who were part of it.

THAT said…I always cringe a bit at these overly public displays. And, doubly so when done in Utah. There's a long history of this kind of thing there. To wit…

I went to BYU. Once I was crossing the middle of one of the largest buildings on campus, when a group of girls dressed in football uniforms appeared out of nowhere. What ensued was very similar to what you see in this video, except that instead of marriage, I was being asked out to a girls choice dance on Campus. After all the fanfare, I had to confess that I had already been asked and accepted going with another girl. Awkward.

I think such displays are a bit unfair to the person being asked; there's so much public pressure to say "YES" that I always find the answer suspect.

So, I hope Spencer and Dustin are both equally committed and happy, but I never want to be asked such an important question in this manner.

"The battle is between people who are capable of loving their neighbors—gay or straight—and people who are incapable of loving their neighbors."

That is the way to frame the debate.

Oh dear, that has set the bar rather high.

The guy sees two video cameras on tripods on the floor in front of him, and he still needs to pull out his phone? That seems excessive.

Oh, wait: Instagram. Gotta send that photo out before the event is over, or it doesn't count. I'm old.

Pretty amazing clip. Yah, if Utah is changing then...the battle is over.

Brian Brown and Maggie Gallagher are mostly just trying to keep a paycheck - a job that depends on raising money based on hate. I've never quite worked out for myself if I think the fact they're only or mostly doing it for money make it worse or better than being true believers. Well, Brian and Maggie seem like self-loathing closet cases, but Dan's the one who's met him - what did your gaydar tell you Dan?

@9, another example of public spectacle gone awry (being Eeyore for a moment): the guy in the "cockumentary" Unhung Hero whose marriage proposal gets rejected by his girlfriend in a stadium full of people, on the Jumbotron KissCam.

Breaking Glass Pictures

http://www.siff.net/festival-2013/unhung…

Trailer

Truly a Xanax For Gay Weddings moment.

We've won the right to make cringe-worthy videos. And, all kidding aside, that's a big deal. Best wishes to Spencer and Dustin.

I agree with #10, even for a "conservative" Christian, that's got to sting.

Thanks, Dan.

Aww what! That one was so freaking lame! CHOREOGRAPHED DANCE!? I would have said no.

Of course the ones I like get similar responses.

This makes me so very happy. This is what winning looks like.

Goldurnit, Dan. You owe me a box of tissues.

My hubby and I had a commitment ceremony in New Orleans about a month before we flew to Canada to have a legal ceremony. We did both so that our familes could see us pledge our love and commitment without having to fly to another country. There were about 90 guests, of whom probably 70 were straight. They ranged in age from my then-80 year old father down to a child of about three.

Two years later, as my mother, my husband, father and I were alone together. My father looked at us and said, "You were very lucky to find each other."

That's probably the best way imaginable to say "Fuck You" to Tony Perkins.

The first straight friend I had who would have been this happy for a same-sex couple and I used to phrase it that winning would look like having a regular Gay Week on Love Connection. Not that either of us would ever have been caught dead on that program - indeed, that was rather the point (although Chuck Woollery did rather play up to same-sexers on Scrabble). But, if one MUST propose in such a manner, at least distressing the NOM crowd goes a good way in mitigation.

After misting up I thought "Dang, Mr. Propser gets to wear the tight suit and Propsee is there in Going-to-Home Depot clothes. It was lovely though. And Proposee with his hands over his heart was just wonderful. Im sure he'll look uber sharp at the wedding. Best wishes guys

Is ANYONE going to think of the children who may be exposed to an unnatural interest in woodworking or construction by this video?

So... in which of the 13 and a quarter enlightened states, or DC, do the happy couple plan to tie the knot in? It's sure not going to be Utah anytime soon.

@14, I'm pretty sure that both of them are in it for the money.

@29, I'm willing to bet that, barring a Supreme Court ruling that imposes it, Utah will move to recognize same-sex marriage before the states that formed the Confederacy, with the possible exception of Virginia.

It's lovely. Best wishes to the fiances !

I'm sure most people in my hometown would love to congratulate gay and lesbian couples who would get married there. Take away unjust laws and religious-based discrimanation and most people are pretty decent underneath - they're happy at the sight of happiness.

@30 Eh, I think Florida would probably beat Utah as well.