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You could start with not making fun of him. Honestly, what he asked for is a little dress up, there's no need to be condescending.
I dunno, those fur butt-plugs don't seem like such a high filth risk to me. Are your pegging sessions with your boyfriend usually filth-encrusted affairs? Because if so, there's stuff you can do about that.
It sounds like she wants to "give back" but only if it's something she likes.
And yeah, she's mocking her partner's sexual desires. What if, when she asked to peg him, he laughed and asked her if she was actually a gay man, and then wrote in to Savage Love asking if he should act gay around her?
She doesn't sound too GGG to me.
But as far as making women meow goes... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DmPFWCoz2… (through 1:15, the rest is funny as hell but not relevant to this particular issue)
And if you even hint that _he_ must be masturbating "wrong" because _you_ can't make him come when you do it, I hope he laughs you right out of bed.
Unless you are underage or a Martian, YOU have fur near the anus. Shave it or wax it if you are so squeamish, but I'll wager hygiene worries of that sort never entered his mind. Get over yourself. I bet you never have period sex, either.
She could have just dropped the "i don't like this and it's stupid and lol don't you think it's weird?" and spent her letter asking for sincere help.
Bah, I need to stop commenting on SLLOTDs, they're making me feel all judgy. Too much opining.
But I have never given a single moment's consideration to kitten play.
Now an old-standby adolescent phrase has risen unbidden from the depths: "A boner a cat couldn't scratch down."
1: She's going to bring it up. It's just the sort of thing she won't be able to help. And she's going to blame him. My guess is that she has heard Mr Savage counsel variety in the solo routine for those of the male persuasion, and has translated that into his having a PROBLEM, that he needs to FIX.
2: Her problem is that he ended up getting into his GGG indulgence of her, so that it shouldn't count as something she has to pay back with something she knows she doesn't/won't like. She'll feel better when she develops an interest in something that makes him uncomfortable, or he reveals an interest that she can pretend to do for him and "discover" she likes. (It might be interesting to see her partnered by a closeted bisexual, though I shall not wish that estate upon this partner of hers out of respect to straight men who enjoy being pegged and who have enough with which to cope.)
And that's just off the top of my head. Have fun. If the tail looks like a furry turd to you, cuz it kinda does, I'm sure he'd take ears and a bell collar to start.
I mean, seriously, if she were a decent person, this would be pretty trivially easy to resolve. He asks for something, she says, ummm. Okay, what exactly do you want? He explains. She considers and says, well, I'm okay with X, but not Y. Maybe we could both enjoy things if we do Y. And maybe he says, well, would you be okay with Z? For example, she could say, I don't mind meowing during sex (seriously, is her problem that she isn't willing to meow during sex for her partner? When he asked for just that she immediately made fun of him and refused. Is that such a huge and onerous request even if it does nothing for you? I can think of very little that takes less work) and maybe I could paw at you and move in a catlike way, but I don't want a tail buttplug. And he could say, well, okay, how would you feel about cat ears? And she could consider that. And they could talk it through and find a compromise.
Seriously, this is a nothing problem except for the fact that she acted like a huge jerk and then wanted to write in and make fun of him in a huge column. Because do you seriously think she believes he'd be happy if she got a litter box? Or that that was what he was asking for? We have no indication it is, and it seems that she just wants to tease him for having an unusual interest. Not being into something is no reason to mock someone else. I hope he dumps her. And I hope she learns to be sex-positive someday.
Not a problem, physical or otherwise, unless they say it is!
@W -- First off, I myself am a Furry and people making animal noises during sex weirds me out. (On a related note, I know a girl that'd be right up the LW's boyfriend's alley.) The odds of it getting any further than noises and tail plugs are really slim unless the LW really seems to be enjoying it. But coming at it with this "what's next, the laser pointer hur hur" attitude is going to get you in a mindset where you'll wind up offending him and driving him off. And if you've got that much of an interest in pegging, you shouldn't be too freaked out by any care and upkeep of the butt plugs.
DOUCHE BEFORE INSERTION!
For someone that 'shits in the shower' Dan, how could you forget this essential piece of advice?
While I don't find this erotic, I really enjoyed it when his stamina started to fail, and all I had to do was a few authentic sounding pig grunts and he'd perk right up and continue to make me happy.
I'd also throw a few grunts in now and then anyway, just to keep him off balance (in a good way). I tried to master an authentic sounding pig squeal (I hope my next door neighbor enjoyed those practice sessions! I'm sure she heard them), but didn't succeed.
The grunts were fun, anyway, and he always rewarded me for them by doing intense things that made me moan.
He can get off with his hand(s) but not your hands or mouth...yet. Can he get off PIV, anally?
Let him take himself to the 'point of no return' and pounce with your mouth to finish him. Or you can combine your hands with his and trade back and forth. Lots of wholesome amusement to be gained and you might get him 'trained' to your command.
On the blowjob issue: I'm another guy who had great great difficulty reaching orgasm from oral. I had one GF who was pretty amazing at it, and that was a breakthrough - but not until my late 30s! One other lady was pretty talented with her hands and mouth in combination, but most givers just never apply enough stimulation in the areas most sensitive - not enough surface/friction and will often "hit the spot" and then, very frustratingly, move away to something completely not sensitive at all. It's not just clits that people can't find. I think Dan's advice is good - watch him masturbate and see where/what he's touching.
Anyway: three cheers for 1) new letters and 2) something fun and purely sex-related.