Kids these days, always in such a hurry!

Is it weird of me that I find the very notion of polyamory utterly exhausting? Where do people find the time/energy/interest to deal with multiple significant others?

@3 Same. I would never tell people not to do it, but I can barely take care of myself and my 1 partner. I can't imagine spending emotional energy on another human being

@3,
I only have anecdotal experience, but the few poly people I know seem to have ADD. They just like to fuck and are mostly absent in all other regards in all their relationships. Vacant.

But like I said, that's only the people I personally know. I have no idea if it's common.

Fuck anythang that moves!

@3 LTR poly in the same triad for almost a decade, here. Poly can be difficult attention wise, if you don't go into it with a pragmatic approach. It's about balancing your ratio of introverts to extroverts and their needs. I am a very extroverted person who wants to be around people almost 24/7, and my partners are both introverted men who need a lot of time alone to decompress. They essentially switch off who is taking their "me" time, while the other gets partner time. If they both absolutely need to decompress NOW, I go out with friends. If they are both feeling social, the three of us spend time together. On the rare occasion that I need to be alone and they are social, they go have some bro time and hang out. We all accept that each other generally intends and means well as a base premise, and try to advocate for our needs in the moment as best we can.

@9: hey uncreative, here's another request that you register to make it more likely people will read and respond to your comments, as the ones I've happened to see have all been worth reading, unlike the braindead trollery in most of the unregistered comments.

@5 It sounds like you know pretty awful people.

@13,
Well, "awful" is kind of harsh. They're certainly not all that wonderful though, I'll give you that. To me they just come across as selfish, entitled, oblivious, and uncaring about anything except what's currently happening-to-them-at-this-very-moment. Ok, actually that does sound kind of awful. A lot of people are like that though. It's just that the only three polys I know are all exactly like that most of the time.

@14 Okay, I gave you the benefit of a doubt you obviously do not deserve. Now I realize that you are just being aggressive and needlessly cruel. Do you think your comments are going to make me walk away from my dedicated, healthy, committed relationship? Or is this just to get a rise out of someone by dehumanizing them in an effort to feel sadistically superior? It makes you small and weak, and has no impact on my fabulously enjoyable life whatsoever.

@15 I have been lucky enough not to know any poly people that struck me that way. I think there can be an effect where people with poor boundaries, poor judgement, or poor social skills are more likely to out themselves, especially early or to more casual acquaintances.

When I was first meeting poly people (back when I felt like @3 about it -- now I am poly) I felt like all of them were either ragingly insecure, oversexed people seeking to fill a validation hole that would never be full; or amazingly together, chill, wise people with a lot of good, caring perspective.

Obviously there are more poly people than just those two subsets. But it's worth remembering, I think, that the latter people are more likely to be cautious about disclosure, aware of consequences, and other things that make them less visible than some other more offputting poly people.

@ 16 You are awesome.

@uncreative: The advice I was about to give @16--"don't read the unregistered posts"--sort of highlights Chase's point. Everyone who isn't trolling should register, so the rest of us can read what they say, because most of us don't read unregistered comments... for what are usually good reasons.

You don't need to register under your real name (my name isn't Eudaemonic)...