ABC really needs to learn about "starting something you doesn't want to finish".

In all probability, if this other woman is attractive, your fella probably wants to do all the nasty things he does with you and some things that you guys dont to together as well. Do you really want to hear that? To what end - it's not like you are going to authorize him to fuck the shit out of her, come home and get a BJ from you before calling it a night. On the flip side, what does your man have to gain from this? There's a 60% chance you'll leave him for revealing what you already think is true; there's a 39% chance you'll give him major shit for it, and a 1% chance you'll hold the videocamera and make sexy noises while he fucks this other girl. It's a lose-lose-lose all around.

On the other hand, by keeping quiet, it will blow over for a few weeks.

@100 Eudaemonic

Your general position on the toxic effect that masculine gender expectations have on men and boys is a valuable, and probably under reported, viewpoint. The problem is that no one on this thread has made jokes about male rape on this thread. When people asked you to cite an example, you failed to do so. Bringing up male rape on this thread is 100% INSANE, unless you can point to a relevant comment.

@100: Accusing people who disagree with you - or misunderstand you, or merely express uncertainty about whether or not they are understanding you correctly - of being "rape apologists" (or worse yet, accomplices) is a raging asshole move, and it is one that you have done repeatedly, in this thread and elsewhere. That is not acceptable behavior and you need cut it the fuck out. There are NO people in this thread, or in the previous threads you've shat all over, who have argued that "as long as you're male, you don't get any say in what people are allowed to do to you". Zero. It has absolutely not happened, and to claim otherwise is intellectually dishonest, delusional and paranoid.

I have watched Alison Cummins repeatedly, patiently, painstakingly attempt to find common ground with you, to understand where you are coming from, and to extract meaning from your vitriol, in the face of utterly unwarranted verbal abuse from you. She has not once told you to "shut up", she has not once said "Isn't it not really rape, as long as it happens to a man?", and she has not once done anything that proves she was not acting in good faith. In fact she has forgiven and excused your bad behavior again and again. In return you have accused her of trying to "trick" you, have accused her of trying to silence not just you but *all* men, and in this very thread have attacked her with the laughable claims that she has a mental disorder and is whoring herself out to get other people to help her shut you up. That is sociopathic behavior.

I'm not going to bother going into your grotesque mischaracterization of nocutename's misunderstanding of you, which she acknowledged at the time, and apologized for, but which you continue to berate her for. Or any of the other people you've abused without cause. It's true that women abuse men and it's true that a lot of this abuse gets overlooked or dismissed by women and other men. But this raging persecution complex you've developed is doing a lot more harm than good, both to you and to the people you are misguidedly choosing to inflict it on. Your experience as a victim does not give you license to act like a bully, and that is what you are doing. No one here helped your abuser rape you. No one here has actually claimed you were not raped. And no one here deserves the abuse you've dumped on them. You are acting like a deranged asshole. Call a therapist, you are way overdue.

One more time: We were straying close to a territory where Nocute was likely to inadvertently imply that women's preferences matter and men's don't, so I mentioned it in advance so we could stay out of that. This was clearly a mistake, as was sharing anything personal in the first place.

Chase, you're a liar and a disgusting piece of human garbage, as your kind invariably are. The positive feedback you get from your performance of gender-role policing helps you pretend otherwise, but it's still just a pretense. You're not really worth talking to, so I'll just point out that yes, I'm aware of the fact that you're lying about what happened in other threads--given that you're clearly reading all of it, it's not possible that you're merely ignorant--and that you are doing most of the things that you both accuse me of doing and claim that no one is doing.

But that doesn't matter, obviously, since I'm not actually the intended audience, am I?

Post an example where someone actually said what you've been accusing them of saying.

You can't.

You. Make. Shit. Up.

Here's what nocutename actually said:

I asked you more than once for clarification and you never gave it; I wasn't saying you were a monster; I was confused. You didn't clear up my confusion and I came to the wrong conclusion though I still believed you and offered you empathy--that was my intent, as a fellow human and a fellow victim of rape.

I apologize if I appeared not to believe you--I simply didn't understand you.

It's called cognitive distortion. Your brain filters, misreads, and overgeneralizes things that have anything to do with conflicts between men and women. And you're too much of an intellectually dishonest coward to admit it and deal with this problem.