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I propose: Cottonmouths
IHBT, if you're reading this, good for you to not have had the same reaction as Dan's. Yes, I'm squicked out, but as far as safety, it's probably the same risk as if he were orally exposed to any other blood of yours. Think blood-borne pathogens. So, if you have something, he's likely to catch it. There is the harm of what else is in the garbage getting through the tp you wrap it in, so maybe if you two work it out somehow, you 1) may want to choose a different receptacle and 2) wear non-chemically treated tampons. There's also the risk of bacteria and the like also finding it's way to the tampons over time, so I think you can infer from that what I mean without having to spell it out for you.
You are a bigger woman than I, I would react in a way which would be utterly destructive to the relationship. I think you get the GGG award.
I will say that eating poo is way worse. I think half the shock here is because we just haven't heard it before and not *necessarily* because it's "worse" than eating poo.
Can I stop saying "poo" for today? Please?
With that said, I'm going to give myself a corkscrew lobotomy now.
No. They're lightly bleached to remove impurities. The toxic chemical claim is pure urban legend.
Is the fetish purely with the blood, or does it actually have something to do with the tampon?
If it's the former, put the kibosh on the dumpster diving and switch to muff diving instead.
If I were IHBT, I'd ask the spouse to give me cunnilingus during my period. I also suggest a menstrual cup, and you two can negotiate when and how he gets your flow. That would remove the gross saturated cotton part, which is probably the most dangerous part of his behavior.
The nature green-freaks who swear clean tampons fresh from the package are full of toxins and bleach should never wear white cotton t-shirts. They should surround themselves only in untreated burlap and leave the rest of us alone. Tampons are safe to use and by the same token, safe to suck on. Menstrual blood, on the other hand, is not just blood. It is bloody tissue which has dissolved and slowly dripped out of a closed cervix into the vaginal canal. The vagina, like many other orifices, is full of bacteria and flora (just like the mouth and anus so no gagging from the rimming and kissing crowd). The fact that a tampon has been clenched up in a bacteria-heavy environment soaking up melted bloody tissue, and then thrown into a trash can that probably hasn't been cleaned or sterilized lately, makes it a little unsafe (and a lot icky) to be gnawing on. But, the fluid in a tampon isn't any worse than the fluid when it's fresh, and plenty of guys (and girls) eat pussy mid-month and we've never heard about it being toxic before (and I like to think Dan would have reassembled his head long enough to mention if it was) so aside from your right to a personalized ick-factor, it should be okay. But if you do have a problem with this thing that your husband is doing on his own, without any involvement from you or demanded of you, you should start flushing the tampons and consider regular plumbing bills as the price for piece of mind. Or just buy your hubby bulk Listerine and WATCH him swish and gargle before you ever kiss him again.
The nature green-freaks who swear clean tampons fresh from the package are full of toxins and bleach should never wear white cotton t-shirts. They should surround themselves only in untreated burlap and leave the rest of us alone. Tampons are safe to use and by the same token, safe to suck on. Menstrual blood, on the other hand, is not just blood. It is bloody tissue which has dissolved and slowly dripped out of a closed cervix into the vaginal canal. The vagina, like many other orifices, is full of bacteria and flora (just like the mouth and anus so no gagging from the rimming and kissing crowd). The fact that a tampon has been clenched up in a bacteria-heavy environment soaking up melted bloody tissue, and then thrown into a trash can that probably hasn't been cleaned or sterilized lately, makes it a little unsafe (and a lot icky) to be gnawing on. But, the fluid in a tampon isn't any worse than the fluid when it's fresh, and plenty of guys (and girls) eat pussy mid-month and we've never heard about it being toxic before (and I like to think Dan would have reassembled his head long enough to mention if it was) so aside from your right to a personalized ick-factor, it should be okay. But if you do have a problem with this thing that your husband is doing on his own, without any involvement from you or demanded of you, you should start flushing the tampons and consider regular plumbing bills as the price for piece of mind. Or just buy your hubby bulk Listerine and WATCH him swish and gargle before you ever kiss him again.
If you want to indulge him, there are organic/non-bleached tampons which would probably be safer.
Hey, there's a huge fucking difference between putting something on the body and sticking it IN the body/vag. Like nail polish.
They should buy a moon cup.
I knew how this was going to end as soon as I read the word "tampon".
Since I long ago watched Stephanie Meyer's "performance art" this did not really bother me. Though for some reason I have a gut reaction of looking down on that guy for some reason, and thinking of him as a little bitch.
If you must deprive the spouse of your tissue, just use a menstrual cup and flush the blood itself, instead of giving the cup to your spouse or putting the tissue into a dedicated container in the fridge.
oh god.
But if this is too weird, she could switch to using a menstrual cup instead of tampons. Nothing to leave in the trash, then.
The vampire pulls out a tampon and says, "Teatime."
Maybe it was just something the idiot guys I went to school with thought up.
Also: yeah, don't ever flush a tampon down a toilet, regardless of plumbing age. Nothing but waste and toilet paper goes down the toilet, ever. Even those "flushable" wet butt wipes are dangerous for plumbing. Like #42 said, it seems unlikely that someone would "forget" this, when every public women's room in the country has a sign reminding you not to do it. That little detail is what makes me think the letter is fake.
...and back to giggling.
The coincidences stack themselves too neatly. "Forgetting" to throw the tampons away, conveniently popping your head in at the precise moment to see what's going on, plus the odd side-facts of the radio, putting the baby down, etc, tells me this is someone trying to make a convincing story, not someone who is looking for help.
The benefits are indescribable - this could be a GOOD thing! Go for a chat about it... you may be more than pleasantly surprised.
C'mon folks - it's not as if she's trying to talk him into it - he's into it already. Just channel it to more mutually pleasurable ends.
As a gay man, I certainly wouldn't be interested in this fetish, but I am not squicked by it at all. The only problem I see is that society is so hung up on fetishes that the hubby couldn't tell his wife about it.
Who knows where this will lead them. More power to them.
I think the main issue here is the age of the blood/tissue, and the risk of cross contamination. Any kind of meat that has been lying around for awhile is going to attract bacteria. This is why we keep steaks in the refrigerator rather than in the kitchen drawer. Eating blood or meat that has been improperly stored can cause everything from
If his wife is willing to support him in his fetish, she may want to think about using a washable fabric pad which she can bleach and sterilize between uses.
Another concern is cross-contamination from whatever else is in the trash can.
If his fetish is tampon specific (rather than just menstrual blood specific), she could put her used tampons into a ziplock bag rather than the trash.
Either way, I'm glad that reading this crap is Dan's job (or that of a designated minion) and not mine.
IHBT, you win the GGG Oscars as far as I'm concerned. I have a hard time seeing myself handling that as well as you do. If you're willing to allow your husband to continue this (or think, probably rightly, that prohibition would lead him to riskier activities on the sly) I would suggest, as others have, natural tampons and also "disposing" of them somewhere other than a trash can that might have actual shit in it (especially with a baby in the house).
I've expended my restraint for the afternoon, so I'm off before I make any off-color jokes.
I agree with that. I always feel sad to find out about an intimate relationship in which one (or both) doesn't feel comfortable to share the deepest, darkest (or blood-cravingest, in this case) parts of themselves. Is this particular interest totally weird? Yes. Should he feel comfortable enough with his wife that he doesn't have to be afraid of her running for the hills, new baby and marital commitment be-damned, if he tells her about his long-term fetish? YES.
Scene
Wife: "What you got in your mouth?"
Husband (closed mouth with string hanging on the right side of hi mouth): "Nunin"
/Scene
Next week on a very special Blossom.....
Like 5280 said, I'm glad it's not my thing either, but acting like it's gross or icky is exactly the same reason that homophobes don't want gays to get married and exactly the same reason so many people are in unfulfilling marriages.
Chill out and let people do whatever floats their boat (with consent of course), just be happy that others can find happiness in whatever their crazy kinks are.
Words cannot contain my anger. I honestly thought all women were smarter than this.
I have to chime in on the sanitation issue. People screaming about toxic chemicals in tampons are crazy.
If a tampon is sanitary enough to stuff inside a vagina, or sanitary enough to be used as an emergency battlefield dressing, it is sanitary enough to put in your mouth.
If going down on a woman during her period is safe, then the blood/tissue should be safe afterward too (at least for a while).
Probably the most unsanitary part of this whole scenario is the fact that it's been sitting in a trash can for a while. The germs in the trash can are more likely to make hubby sick than anything else.
But otherwise, I also call fake. Too many "coincidences", for sure.
I think almost everyone calls it red wings, @46. It's a relatively common term. And no guy I've ever dated has really had that much of a problem with it. None have ever had a fetish for it, as far as I know, but they weren't freaked out by menstruation, either.
I'm honestly not sure what you were getting at with the unfulfilling marriages bit. I guess you mean pretending you're not grossed out in order to encourage openness and comfort? Well, to an extent. I don't pretend my boyfriend's farts smell good, but that's far from saying, "Ew, never touch me again, you smelly freak."
Still, yes, I admit it's probably not great for someone's self-esteem to have a bunch of internet strangers saying how icky his fetish is. But I think the best part is if he sees that the people who think it's gross STILL THINK IT'S OK for him to keep it up (as long as he works out an agreement with his wife and takes precautions against disease, etc). I mean, ideally, yes, everyone would just shrug and say, "That's totally normal!" but if somebody's honestly grossed out, but supportive anyway, that has its own value.
While it's not quite my thing, I don't see it as all that disgusting either. My husband and I have both earned our red wings more than a few times and this is is just a more indirect way to get the same thing. If I discovered that my husband liked sucking on used tampons I think my only reaction would be to put them in a plastic bag instead of wrapping them in TP.
I do wonder what he'll do once she reaches menopause and can't provide what clearly gives him so much pleasure.
Considering 50% of Americans over the age of 13 have some form of gum disease, open sores in the mouth must be pretty common. See pink on your tooth brush? Bleeding gums = open sores. I would definitely suggest the lady get herself (and the kid too) to a doctor so they can be tested for any unpleasant blood-born "gifts" from Mr Menstrual Vampire.
Also, my obgyn told me tampons are generally not ideal for maintaining vaginal health, so I would suggest a menstrual cup maybe? If the husband is specific about tampons, u can always soak one in the blood from the cup and hand it to him fresh from the source. Much safer for both of you. That's what I would do if my bf wanted me to use tampons, it's nice to be GGG but not if it goes against your doctor's recommendations.
um I'm gonna stick to my diva cup thanks.
I mean... eh. Whatever. Dude shouldn't have been sneaking around, pulling 'em out of the trash, but if it's his kink, it's his kink. That's fine. I guess. Kinda icky, but fine. He needs to watch out for staph poisoning - no, seriously, that's what causes toxic shock - but even if there's a lot of Staphylococcus growth in one of the tampons, it's probably not going to give him worse than a bellyache.
Well, shit. Now that you mention it...
How did it take 97 posts for someone to recognize that?