I always thought it meant basically what @1 and @2 said. It really bothers me that it doesn't mean those things, and I have disliked it as a word ever since I learned the awful truth.
Don't be too hard on yourself. It's a showoff word to us now, a stick-on gift bow dressing up arguments meant to sway the easily impressed. Since most everyone using it's a charlatan any more, they'll keep doing with it what they like.
When at least half of the time people incorrectly use the word to mean precisely opposite its actual meaning (i.e. as a synonym for "unfazed") then everyone should just stop using the word altogether. It's been fubared and now it's a worthless word. Well, I guess the only worth it has left is as a warning flag to mark linguistic showoffs.
Yeah, apparently we've all been using it wrong in a similar way. I always thought it meant "unimpressed," which is close-enough to "underwhelmed" and "blasé." Interesting!
I wonder why that is? Is there a famous quotation/movie scene/song lyric that uses "nonplussed" that way, or it it just that it sounds like it should mean unimpressed/underwhelmed?
I'd be interested to know what other words people went most of their adult life (until the last year-or-so) misusing. Mine was "levity," which I always thought meant "seriousness" or "gravity," but which actually means "frivolity," almost opposite what I thought.
I'm speechless.
@1: I always think "bemused" means "amused." Sigh.
I wonder why that is? Is there a famous quotation/movie scene/song lyric that uses "nonplussed" that way, or it it just that it sounds like it should mean unimpressed/underwhelmed?
I'd be interested to know what other words people went most of their adult life (until the last year-or-so) misusing. Mine was "levity," which I always thought meant "seriousness" or "gravity," but which actually means "frivolity," almost opposite what I thought.