I don't know about your strap-on toys, but mine is boiled for sterility and stay warm for quite some time afterward.

@2,

That made me think of a great name for a band: Boiled Dildos

Brings new meaning to the term "hardboiled." Huh huh. Huh huh.

Great suggestion, but what the hell is "hard packing"?

Trust me, you don't want to know.

@7, I think you may have your terms crossed, cause I think in this context it is just someone presenting with a prosthetic bulge.

but hey, if that weirds you out, then umm yeah sure....doot da doo

@6 If a trans man or a woman is "packing" that means they have something in their pants to cause a bulge. Hard packing means you've got something hard in there which could be used for sex, but it usually isn't as big as other dildos so you can leave the house without being arrested.

If you're not grossed out by strap on sex, there's no reason to be grossed out by somebody wearing a dildo under their pants.

@9 i think some people (esp people kicking around here) are more willing to think something kinda not the norm is acceptably not weird if its done in a sexual context. so having a hard pack just so you seem more male, not because you're pounding someone in that moment, seems odd. i get that trans people want to feel more like their presenting gender, so the hardpack makes sense to me (kinda...dont most guys not want their hardons to show?). what trips me is furries who don't do it for sex...i just don't get people who think their true self is an anthropmorphized fox or some shit that ISNT getting nailed...but i guess they never did ask me to understand

@10 and 11, I have nothing against furries, most aren't otherkin. The really out there group of people are the otakukin, last stop on the culture train.

@10 -- Yes, it is weird (and uncomfortable) to walk around wearing a hard strap-on as a packer. Or rather, it's weird to do that on a non-sexy occasion. I might remove my regular prosthetic (soft packer) that's there for the bulge and the occasional grope, replace it with a hard strap-on and put my trousers back on to wander about the house and see how long it takes my boyfriend to notice my hard-on, or to give him a hug and a surprise grind. But I don't wear it to work, or about in public, or anyplace where I don't want to have a stiffy. Obviously trans men who go to sex clubs might want to have stiffies at them, and women who like to do gender-play for sex are probably not interested in soft packers.

@4 -- are you twelve?

And don't forget a decent harness! The Spareparts Joque is the best $80 I've ever spent. Super comfy, great control, the dildo base hits a nice spot, AND it's machine washable.

i had no idea about the toxic toys thing. my dildo totally has that horrible plastic shower curtain smell. i always use it with a condom, so there's that mild comfort, but that shit's going into the trash

What a well-composed letter! It's nice to see that people haven't lost the art of writing. After all the quickie notes, blogs, bad internet articles you see everywhere, it's nice to know a few folks still have the gift.

Good message, too.

@12 Thank you for sending me down THAT little rabbit hole...