How Not to Process Feelings of Jealousy During a Threesome

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1
Might be better to say how not to process jealousy ever. What a moron.
2
That's pretty horrific. Damn.
3
That's really awful. I can't help wondering why the guy attacked with televisions. There must be some sort of psychological issue that made that his weapon of choice.
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Humans are like bears with big brains. They're still bears.
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One might be tempted to ask - what the hell did he THINK was going to happen in a three-way, anyway?
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Great title for your next book: How to process feelings of jealousy during a 3 way.
8
Oh, the answer's easy. DTMFA the husband, run off with the girlfriend.

Honestly, I thought this was the SL letter of the day at first!
9
Dude, way to blow a 3-way. Girl on girl is so hot right now.
10
another day in Gommorah.....
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I hate this guy on so many levels.
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I came in here to see how long it would take an unregistered troll to blame this on Dan.

I was not disappointed.
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12

no.

but you are soooo disappointing......
14
How to rid yourself of religion and the imaginary monster-god....you just read 3 books!:

1.God: The Failed Hypothesis: How Science Shows That God Does Not Exist, Victor Stenger (physicist)

2.Why We Believe in God(s): A Concise Guide to the Science of Faith, Andy Thompson (psychiatrist)

3.Religion Explained, Pascal Boyer (cognitive anthropologist)
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14, Or you could do it in one book. Read the Bible from cover to cover, and see first hand all the contradictions, fallacies, silliness, atrocities in the name of God, etc.
16
Two girls at the same time always require a lot of effort. That part where they go at each other... that's not the time to get jealous, its the time to think "*whew* a break."
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Most of my lady friends agree that the best part of a threesome is the girl on girl. At that point the man really is just there as an observer.

So how did this asshat get not one but two women to agree to have sex with him?
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How did it take 18 comments for somebody to ask the important question: why do they have (at least) two televisions in the bedroom?
19
Men who vociferously hate lesbians can still want "threesomes", this nasty fucker doesn't surprise me.

@18: "why do they have (at least) two televisions in the bedroom?"

Why does anyone have a TV in the bedroom?
20
Was he on meth?
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The multiple televisions is what stuck out to me about this story, too!

Can we somehow blame TV for his violent, crazy-ta actions?
22
When not to try a threesome: When your husband is a fucking lunatic.

I would find it super, duper hard to believe if this guy did not already abuse his wife. I get being insanely jealous, I get having a visceral, even internally violent reaction...but I don't get continuing to beat your wife to the point where you involve heavy electronics when she kissed a girl that YOU GAVE HER PERMISSION TO KISS. Even if he was drunk.
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@18 They probably have plastic slipcovers on the chair, and a padded headboard too. What else could you expect from the country that gave the world Berlusconi?
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@23: Naples, FL.

@22: "that YOU GAVE HER PERMISSION TO KISS"

You're assuming he did. He doesn't seem like the sort of guy who discusses boundaries responsibly, does he?
25
Look, I know you think I'm obsessed about Danny Boy, but I don't have a lot else going on in my life. And if I'm going to be miserable, well, children, then so will you...
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"I know you think I'm obsessed about Danny Boy, but I don't have a lot else going on in my life."

You're obsessed with Dan Savage, AND you don't have anything going on in your life. We know all this, duh.
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He got jealous when the two women started kissing. I guess in his mind the two women would just take turns between kissing him and sucking his cock, and just ignoring one another?
29
Jeeze, when my wife got into kissing with a lasy in our last 4 way, I did what any guy would do: I was kissing the lady's ass and blowing her hubby! OK so maybe some guys would have problems with the bj, but dammit that is what got the girls so hot as to hump each other wildly. I took one for the team!
30
Did the troll just get trolled?

Ok, if that was really you, that comment was like telling us, "the sky is blue."

Maybe you could take up knitting. It's another activity that uses your fingers, but doesn't involve stalking, and at the end of the day you'll have a nice scarf to show for your time instead of all these weird Slog masturbations.
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"And if I'm going to be miserable, well, children, then so will you..."

That's where you're wrong, friendo. I'm already in heaven with my sinful lifestyle. Don't knock it until you've tried it.
32
Well, I suppose none of the three participants (including hubby) anticipated that he would go amok when the women gave each other some attention. I'm going to guess that either (a) he himself thought he'd like it and was surprised by the strength of his jealousy, or (b) they just didn't talk about what was going to happen and he never thought the two women would give each other any attention (as @28 above says).

If (a), he needs to know more about himself before trying anything new. If (b), he needs to talk more about what he wants or doesn't want with his partners. Assuming that everything will be as I always imagined without me having to express my fantasies is really asking to be disappointed.

And in any case... take a bunch of anger management courses, Oh my! This angry reaction is so inappropriate and offensive (and dangerous!), no matter what its cause was. I hope he stays some time in prison to think about how stupid he was. No more threesomes for him, per omnia saecula saeculorum.
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Ah, yes. Another man who said "threesome" when he really meant "two women worshiping my awesomeness".
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Now, now. There is actually a fairly broad middle ground between "worshipping my awesomeness" and "started kissing and wouldn't let him in on it." It isn't a threesome anymore, once it becomes two people making out plus a spectator (an apparently unwelcome one, at that).

Not that whacking someone with a television (let alone two televisions) is ever appropriate, and I hope he gets the book thrown at him for that. But no, if I agreed to a threesome and ended up being told to sit out while the other two went at it, there would be words.
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@32, I think what he needs is to spend a little time in jail. He doesn't need anger management classes; he manages his anger quite well. He only hits his wife.

What he needs is a program specifically for batterers. Those exist, and their focus differs from anger management.
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@33: Yeah, a lot of guys think lesbians or bi women are all kinds of hot, but when it's not male-scripted porn and the hairy biped in the corner is totally ignored, then the violent, entitled male maybe shouldn't be in the room.
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@35, you're certainly correct. I wasn't being specific. But really, I can't imagine that he has no anger issues if he explodes just because he's being ignored. I'll bet he also reacts a wee bit more forcefully when he's wrongly ignored in other situations (at a restaurant, at the bank, at the gym) than he should.

@34, though I agree with what you say, of course the inappropriateness of the reaction is the main point here. If only there were only words, so that this guy could figure out if his expectations were wrong or not, if what was happening was what had been agreed upon or not... but alas, instead of words, he chose TV sets. Not cool.
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Damn. And this asshole HAD to be from Florida. :/