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Oh Danny.

What a punk-assed coward you are.....

Heckling 13 year olds from the safety of a podium is about all you've got, isn't it....

We are impressed, however;
it took your IT Stooges all of two posts to inactivate our latest account.

You're getting quicker than a nervous virgin on his wedding night.

What exactly are you afraid of?

Oh that's right; The Truth.
2
1- You are a Slut

2- Your friend is a Slut.

3- Do your BF a favor- Dump him now.
3
Oh Danny....

can't we pretty pretty please comment on the Corvino video post?

Are you afraid it will prove as shallow and wrong as Rob's "homos are never pedophiles" fiasco?
4
Perhaps there's a difference between an intense curiosity in the situation and a desire intense enough to jeopardize TWAT's primary relationship.
5
@1 & 2: You know you're stalking and possibly harrassing a guy that was solicited for his advice, right? And if you don't like Dan Savage, stop reading Dan Savage's column.
6
Please don't feed the troll. He has a crush on Dan.
7
OOH the "creepy haiku" troll! Haven't read anything from him in quite some time...
8
I dunno, some of us really are are more driven by the urge to please than by the particulars of the proposed acts. If you're torn between pleasing a friends and pleasing your boyfriend, it might be time to consider whether you're sexually submissive. And then bring that to the table, with your boyfriend and any other sexual partners you might have.

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What specifically about the situation makes your boyfriend uncomfortable, especially in light of the fact that he doesn't regard it as cheating, per se? Have you asked him that? Seems to me his answer to that question should go a long way to inform your decision-making.

How would he feel if he was invited along? That ought to tell you some interesting things. What if they say "No, thanks" to that, and he feels bad about being left out, and you want to do it anyway to please them, even at the expense of him feeling bad? That tells you some interesting things about your own priorities and loyalties.

One thing is clear: simply not telling him would be a bad idea, even for a one-time event. This sort of thing will come out eventually, and if he finds out you hid it from him, that will whisper all manner of bad things in his ear about your relationship. I don't know how his logic about it not being cheating works, but in my book, knowing that something would make your partner unhappy and doing it anyway behind their back is pretty much the definition of cheating. You run a much greater danger of it blowing up by keeping it secret.

And yes, I agree with Dan: from the tone of your letter you are pretty seriously (and transparently) downplaying your own interest at the moment. That isn't going to be helpful in figuring out what to do, nor in good faith discussions with Boyfriend on how to proceed.

(once again, seeing as this is three years old news, wanting to know how it all turned out. Calling Letter Writer...)
10
I don't think that I have ever actually felt my ovaries throb, no matter how randy I was. Am I missing out? Has anyone experienced that?
11
@10 dude, all the time. Throbbing away.
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The other thing I wonder about this is whether Blissful Horny Engaged Couple even know about Letter Writer's boyfriend at all?

A) If not, why not? It doesn't speak too highly of your opinion of Boyfriend or your relationship with him, that people who know you intimately don't even know about him. Why are you keeping Boyfriend under wraps? Ashamed to be seen with him? Or is he just inconvenient?

B) If they do know, why aren't they inquiring into his take on the matter themselves? That wouldn't speak too highly of them for conspicuously not giving a shit about your significant other, and it doesn't speak highly of you that you would go along with that.
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Dan, it's generally not our ovaries that get a-throbbin' when the mood strikes. We have this fun bunch of nerve endings called a clit.......

P.S....love you.

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