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And then, there is such a thing as having too much downstairs. Not to put this guy down, because obviously most ladies he meets are enjoying his endowments, just that not every lady can handle that much man, or even wants to try.
2
The big dick bandit strikes again.
3
And don't neglect your cunniligus studies either.
4
Seems to me there's a lot of room between "the complete opposite of cocky" and "sharing my size with the world." People are better off if they project confidence.

"most people's reaction is to say that I'm just so unassuming that they wouldn't expect that from me."
I would take it to heart if this happened more than once: Perhaps he is self-deprecating to an annoying degree. It's just hard to imagine otherwise that people who haven't seen him naked have strong opinions on the size of his cock.

And, yes, as 1 says, in one instance I stopped seeing a fuck buddy because his equipment was so large that every sex act was uncomfortable for me. If I was in love with him, we would have adjusted, but it wasn't worth it for the casual sex we were having.

5
I had an unassuming little French-Canadian nerd of a roommate who was apparently spectacularly endowed. The parade of ladies coming through my otherwise gay apartment proved that yes, women do pass this knowledge around to their friends.
6
I realize that people have different attitudes about this, but I just can't imagine thinking,"Hmm, I hear he has a big cock. I think I'll sleep with him." No, I'm gonna choose the guy I like; which isn't likely to be the one bragging about his endowments.
7
I refuse to offer any advice to big dicked guys unless I can see a picture to know for sure.
8
Be sure you know how to captain that boat under all circumstances. Don't just assume that you can pilot it all conditions. Practice, study, learn. Become an accomplished captain.
9
No, don't do it! Advertising your size yourself will come across wrong, wrong, so very wrong.

It will seem like:
a) You are excessively proud of it and want it worshipped
b) You probably have relied on size and haven't bothered learning to be skillful.

Boasting about your size will make you come across as a dickbag, and will hurt your chances, not help them. Likewise touting your skills. If you go around saying how good you are, people will react with skepticism, and you will have to be twice as good just to live up to your own hype. Even if you are that good, what people will see is "arrogant bastard" and score you more harshly. Let your performance speak for itself, and let the women spread the word for you. Women will believe each other where they would scoff at you.
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@6: Similarly, I can't imagine thinking, "What a quiet, unassuming guy. That must mean he has a tiny dick." WTF? What kind of woman would think that, let alone let a guy know they thought it?
11
I think he should get a notarized statement and print it on a tee shirt. Personalized license plate, too.
12
What @9 said.
13
If you want the world to know, go to a nude beach or something, otherwise let others talk on your behalf.
14
It's not the size of the dog in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the dog. My personal experience has been that most extremely well-endowed guys are kind of pillow princesses - they're really not that great as lovers. They've always relied on their size and never learned any skills. Now, my sample size is admittedly limited, but that's been my experience.
15
One of my most exciting and longest term partners had a very small penis (like unnaturally small). He was forced to learn how to do everything else REALLY REALLY well. Unfortunately, he hates cats...
16
Another thing to consider: Building up people's expectations too high inevitably leads to a letdown.
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Besides, it's highly unlikely he's got the biggest dick ever.

If he stays relatively unassuming, then it's either a pleasant surprise or a non-issue.

If he advertises his primary sexual attraction as being the size of his dick, it's inevitable that he'll pretty soon be dealing with comments like "You call that big? I've had them twice that size!"
18
An old college roomie of mine apparently had a simply enormous dick. He was also kind of a geek, really into industrial music and video games. He was a nice guy. We used to abuse his trust fund and buy groceries with his BP card.

Anyway, one night after he had gone to sleep, my girlfriend and I stayed up to get drunk with his girlfriend Amanda. At some point, Amanda decided to go to bed, and I ribbed her about having sex with said roomie, and she sighed, "He's so fucking big. Sometimes, I can't face it."

She didn't mean the double entendre, but that didn't stop me from laughing my way out of my chair.
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@14 - I can't believe I never heard the term "pillow princess" before. Thank you.
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@ 9, 10, 14, 16, 17: Yes. Thank you.
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@14. My sample size is fairly big, and you're absolutely right.
22
And HOW is it big? Thick? Long? If you're going to advertise your actual size to women, you should specify what kind and how much, if you're looking for women who are measuring their hookups before they hook up. If that's who you want to date.
I love girth but have had (only a few) occasions where it's a little beyond comfortable. Length is less important to me. I have to be (annoyingly) careful if it's really long, lest it bang my cervix at the wrong time of the month and set off unbearable abdominal cramps.
Any guy I've ever encountered who has been more endowed than the expected average has earned a little extra one-eyebrow-raised respect. As opposed to any guy who had already advertised that he was more endowed than average. He earned nothing because I don't know. I never slept with him, cause he seemed like a jackass who would probably suck in bed.
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The big turnoff, and concern here to me would be a partner bragging they'd been with "at least 30" people before you - such an incrediblly tacky, douchebag move to go on about how many people you've had - and since the girl the letter writer is referring to was his first, and he doesn't mention her being older, the likelihood is she was probably really young. I think if you've slept with more than 30 people before the age of 21, this isn't something you wanna really advertise.

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It's so hot when you hear a rumor about a guy being well-hung. But too often the reality is a little mixed -- the cock may be ugly (twisty shillelagh, deformed, etc.) or too big (which is fun to look at and occasionally play with, but just not functional). The much rarer cocks are the truly gorgeous ones -- above-average, well-proportioned, beautiful to look at. If they're attached to a fit body with an an attractive face and a wonderful personality and a big bank balance and a kind family and a decent education and a sense of humor and and and...

Just be a human being. Enjoy the gifts you have. Put away the T-shirt with an arrow pointing at your crotch.
25
As a woman who spent some time in chat rooms in her teenage years, you can't discuss sex with a guy online for a very long time before he starts bragging about his cock. Of course, they're all ridiculously huge, never mind the fact that "the bigger the better" is not every woman's motto. Be careful with sexting or any conversations with women online. If she has not asked for details about your cock, do not volunteer any information about it. And if she does, and this is a woman you might actually meet in person someday, do not exaggerate. The phrase "I've slept with a very experienced woman who told me I am huge" or even "every partner I've been with tells me I'm huge" makes it sound like you slept with a woman who was just telling you what you wanted to hear. Also sounds suspiciously like "I don't understand why you're telling me you need X in bed. All my other partners have gotten off from what we did."

Another vote for "cultivate other attractive qualities in yourself, don't talk about your cock before she's seen it, and let her be pleasantly surprised, if she's the sort of woman who's into whatever you've got going on."
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@23: Way to be judgmental. What exactly is wrong with having slept with lots of people? As long as she used precautions to prevent disease and pregnancy, I can't see the problem.
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@24: TWISTY SHILLELAGH. Forget the old formula with your childhood pet and street name--this is my new porn-star name. Or really, it should be a porn site. It works for every gender, kink, and orientation.
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@26 Nor can I. Experienced partners are better in bed.
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@26, 28, Me neither. The women in my life who were more experienced than I was were among the best people I've met -- I've learned a lot from them.

As for HH's problem... It doesn't seem to me he is having any problem to meet consenting sex partners the way things are now. Why is he asking this question? If HH is satisfied with the amount of sex he's been getting from his lucky ladies, why should he wonder about whether or not mentioning his dick will improve his success rate?

Unless he's one of those people who think the more the better (a philosophy I tend to disagree with), I don't see any reason to start mentioning his cock early on. Even if he comes out as unassuming, he is socially connected, has friends and sex partners. I'm afraid that, if he suddenly started talking about his big cock, he might then start losing both... By all means be confident, but being confident doesn't mean bragging about your sex organs.

So, unless someone asks him directly about his cock... why not let things go on as they have thus far? As Dan said, your first girlfriend is already talking about it, and good word of mouth is the best publicity. Smile confidently and walk tall, but don't brag.
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"So here's my question: Should I be advertising my "gift"? Am I supposed to be sharing my size with the world with the hopes that it pays off?"

No, you'll turn into Jonah Falcon.

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To quote TR: "peak softly and carry a big stick."
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@14, @21

+1. My sample size is pretty large, and the large guys tended to be more blah in bed. Oh, they could usually get me off (sometimes I didn't have too much choice :) ), so they never learned other skills. It just. wasn't. as fun.
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like i've always said, "more than a mouthful's wasted."

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