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Actually, not just LW3. Same advice to everybody reading. Try them and see what happens.
Durex used to make on under the "Avanti Bare" brand. However, they recently changed everything up. I bought a box of Avanti and my dick nearly fell off. Because they switched to latex very quietly (it's in small print). So I switched to "Lifestyle Skyn", which I found in my local Target.
LW1, so...um...is your girlfriend demanding to go down on you? Does she like to swallow, maybe? This could very well be, but you didn't say why you this is an issue with oral. The women I've known like oral enough, but prefer actual intercourse. Maybe I'm wrong in that. Your letter made me he most curious because of this.
You could always ease it into actual sex though. Or, not ease but grab her out of lust, throw on a condom and then ravage her. Or, whatever...then it becomes less of a problem.
LW2, You could also hire gay strippers. I thought the Stranger still had Backroom ads for that? Maybe not? Try looking up "gay male strippers seattle" on Google. But, yeah, if in Seattle...no bar. But, house strippers can be even more fun. Even better can be when one or two of his friends that he may be crushing on acts as a stripper. Just some thoughts.
LW3, Going for 30 minutes after your girlfriend dried up? Gah! Or, as Uncle Jesse would say, "Have Mercy." Sorry, I've been reading too much Full House Reviewed. But, seriously dude? Fake it. Or stop jacking off in between. And, warm yourself up for awhile before hand. Maybe work yourself for awhile while eating her out? But, don't keep jackhammering away at the poor girl if she doesn't like being jackhammered dry.
Plus an hour of jackhammaring all the time sounds pretty yawn-inducing. I guessing you need to stop masturbating.
Dan, did you ask whether LW3 was on antidepressants? Total spooge-killers.
Tie her up! Spank her! Hell, dress her like an Ewok and make Chewbacca noises if that's what does it for you!
In first boyfriend's case, he wasn't big on foreplay, just skipped right to intercourse.
My body didn't have a chance to tune up and lubricate, for one.
Eventually broke up with him, who insisted the problem was all about us ladyfolk not being able to keep up with him.
LW1: Fuck her mouth already!
I was reading too into it by thinking he couldn't cum by oral alone like some guys I know.
Second, I'd caution the LW to make doubly, triply, quadruply sure that the party won't be biting off too much for most guests to chew. It's one thing for a very tiny portion of gay guests at a straight bachelor party to put on their Good Sport Faces and strain not to appear as if they'd rather be sucking lemons, but, if it takes five minutes or less for nearly the whole of the nearly entirely straight body of guests to look as if they'd rather be shoe shopping with their wives/girlfriends and offering informed opinions on all 5,000 pairs in the store, then I fear that, whatever adjectives are affixed to the party afterwards, "most excellent" will not be among them. If all the straight male guests can get sufficiently into the spirit of a party with gay male strippers, then commendations all round and have a grand party. But otherwise, I'd say to start with what all the guests could handle with ease and then see how to build on that.
(Wow; I got through that whole response without voicing disapproval of BPs with Ss in the first place. What a practical mood I must be in.)
When I give oral to a guy who doesn't usually come from oral, hands come more into play. I keep one hand tight at the base and use the other hand as a tight, wet extension of my mouth (it stays glued to my mouth, and together the mouth and hand swirl up and down around the cock). Or I bring his hand to his cock, and I stay up at the head while he does his thing on the shaft. (There's a bit of a bumper-car aspect to that, but that can be fun if you're in the right mood.) Watch porn at the same time, too, that helps distract the mind from the pressure to come soon. Did I mention alcohol and pot?
I think the real question is the one @3 raised: why is it such a big deal for her? It's very possible she's just disappointed she can't please you in that way (I know I'd rather go down on a girl than have her go down on me: pleasuring someone else is a powerful, ego-satisfying thing). But is it possible she sees this as a failing in herself? Women generally aren't nearly as wrapped up in competing with lovers of the past (real or imagined) nor do they tend to have as much ego on the line as guys; but all humans take pride in their skills, and maybe she's worried this reflects a fault in her technique rather than really being about you, not her. A little reassuring conversation (that may lead to discovering things you both like better) couldn't hurt.
It may be the lack of lubrication that's making it take longer to finish for you, btw.
LW2's groom could also be kind of like me and a couple people I know where we fit into the social archetype of The Satellite in that we float in a bunch of different groups, in them enough to be liked and invited, but never the most ingrained. And, the groups rarely intermix except at my parties.
My gay friends didn't mix with my geek friends didn't intermix with my gawth friends didn't intermix with my burner friends. So, if I had a straight best man, he probably wouldn't talk to my gay friends.
HOWEVER, as a best man, one would think he would be in communication with the gay groomsmen and asking them advice.
He may not be a death gripper, but if he's using no form of lube, he's not that far off.