Cross dressers aren't trannies. What the fuck wrote that?

I meant, who, not what. But really, that was just dumb.

this is a really old letter. people are more educatedabout transsecuals these days, thats just an outmoded attitude

I have a friend who married his third wife and they were incredibly happy. She didn't mind at all that he borrowed her clothes. And now they're still together, even though they are both women. But, it was hard on the wife who thought that cross dressers aren't transsexuals but didn't realize that often, transsexuals first appear to be cross dressers. I've seen many a documentary on transsexuals who secretly wore women's clothes for years before coming out and transitioning. There was a race car driver who had a horrible wreck and was wearing women's underwear, and she is now happily a woman. I don't think the writer's opinion was that cross dressers are all transsexuals, just that some closeted transsexuals cross-dress. Like saying lesbians aren't transsexuals but Chastity Bono was a very vocal lesbian before coming out as Chaz.

Or the tiny weenie guy could order some steroids from over the border, grow his tiny weenie another inch or so, then work out and get cut, like Toby Maguire in Spiderman. Just a thought.

I'm a curvy D&D dork and I get plenty of sex. LALA is a twit.

damn, I read Dan intermittantly from 93-97, and have read every column from 1998 forward. For a guy who is normally so spot on, this is the worst advice I've ever seen him print, most especially to Boy Wonder.

To elborate:

Boy Wonder - Early into meeting people that you're into, you should say "I don't have a big cock, but I give killer head". (Note saying "I don't have a big cock" as opposed to saying "I have a small cock"- same info, but sounds better.)

This statement has the likelihood of getting you laid/dating because, for starters who doesn't like getting killer head? Additionally, there's something compelling about the brassiness of the statement, and finally if anyone is that stuck on being a size queen then you can cut your losses there rather than wasting time and energy and possibly be laughed at during a vulnerable moment when you reveal your cock in bed.

What you should *not* do is settle for would-be pedophiles who skeeze you out because, hey, it's better than nothing.

Former Lolita - The guy isn't going to get busted for the previous underage sex just because you made contact with him. *If* you want to meet up with him (which I didn't get from the letter, but maybe you will) just don't ask to meet up with him in the state where charges might be pending and then everything's fine. Just keep in mind that while he might like to hear from you he also might be married with kids now and might now want to talk. I would just drop him a line on facebook and see what comes of it.

TranZGrrlla - While some cross-dresser are trans, some are trade, and some do it for fun, but the most common text book example is a straight guy whose so into chicks that wearing their clothes makes them feel closer to them.

ta da!