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I watched you on MSNBC - interviewed by Keith Olbermann. You were awesome! Just one suggestion - when you said that the Democrats should "man up" - in the future would you perhaps consider another way of exprssing that thought, or at least say "man up and woman up" - there are a lot of women like me, who are active in the Democratic party - and telling us to "man up" is a bit sexist.
Thanks - Keep up the great work!
I really wanted Dan to say, "You're a freak - not for your tame bits of kink, but because you have no clue how to punctuate. Chill out."
I don't want to be a jerk, but people who get offended by people saying "man up" really make liberals in general look like a bunch of wussies.
Man up already. Or woman up. But, come on.
If we've spent years slowly and carefully stretching our lobes, there are not going to be many (I would never say never) of us who would let you fuck them up just to get your rocks off.
Also, with my size lobes (pretty big) I can only get about 3 small fingers through my lobes comfortably. You'd have to find someone with much bigger lobes or you'd better have a pretty small dick.
A pair could be testicles or ovaries. Your choice...
pussies.
Hetero men eating cum is just not typical. Not their own, and not somebody else's. That is really pushing a boundary for the hetero guy.
If I had to draw an equivalent, I would say eating cum for the hetero man is like a guy peeing in a woman's mouth for the woman. These are sexual practices that simply will garner more resistance, I suspect because to each gender the aforementioned sexual acts are (often) deemed more degrading.
I'm sure somebody will insist I am wrong, and yeah, I know, there are exceptions to these rules, but consider this: sexual practices are all normative. If not for these norms, a kiss on the cheek would be the social equivalent of cumming in a woman's mouth.
I think it is fairly obvious that a hetero man eating cum is simply more taboo than a woman accepting anal sex. This is only to say that GOO's husband should try to negotiate for more, perhaps for some ass to mouth action.
It's a singular delight to get to thank an athiest for mentioning some actual Christianity on television, as you did on the Olberman interview! There's very little Christianity to be viewed in the media these days, which pains me greatly. So, thanks very much indeed!
Could you kindly suggest where one might share a brief essay on why Jesus would not tell us we can't afford to tend the sick, and why Christianity does not teach us that health insurance reform is really a government plot to euthanize the weak and destroy America? Between the Bachmans and Bishops of the Roman Catholic Church of late, some of us who seek to follow Christ are in very real pain, and would find it downright medicinal to get this message out.
Is there some secular forum where - in spite of the static of lies and lunatics presently in posession of megaphones - where there's a chance that some word might be heard explaining why the Christian Right is, well...neither?
In any event, good work on the Countdown interview!
The Rev. Laina Wood Casillas
Blessings@Laina.us
If Glenn Beck and Rush are really into providing "common sense solutions to problems", then maybe they should put it to a good use by advising GOO.
Eating ones own cum is not pushing any boundaries farther than asking a woman to take it up the ass who had never done so before.
Your idea of norms has gotten really twisted and you might want to talk to someone about that, because I am sening some pent up homo hormones within you.
I guess what I am trying to say is, you have a right to your opinion, When Prop 8 passed in California; I saw more hate and intimidation in those few weeks from the stop 8 crowd, than from the Tea Party members in the last 4 months. Tolerance is a two way street.
So Sayeth the Impaler!
I hope GOO's husband will agree. And then that both of them will think about where to go from there. Happy kinky fun!
Ever since Palin was carefully scrutinized, vetted and then coronated VP candidate by the McCain Campaign braintrust, we have been continually visited with comments (sometimes sutble, sometimes—as with Palin—not) veiled messages to the GOP nutball core of “You know, sometimes a president just gets killed in office, we don’t know how it really happens. Just one of those things. You know, you’re mad at the president because he’s going to kill your grandma and Sarah Palins little baby, you got a gun or whatever lying around, and it just-happens.”
If you and Olbermann didn’t prearrange his pullback after your comment, who cares (besides perhaps your booking agent, that is)? You’ve pointed out the turd in the punchbowl, plopped it right in the middle of the plate of murderous hors d’overs being served by the treasonous right, and now the discussion of what nobody wanted to discuss may begin.
Better yet, you’ve stuck your chin out and given us cover to launch the attack by referencing your comment! All I can say is what a guy! better you than me! and watch your back!
Truly, it is a relief to have someone who will push Olbermann occasionally beyond his comfort zone, especially on serious matters such as covert entreaties for assassination of a sitting president. Call me “old-fashioned,” but I really was raised to follow a basic code of ethics called “The Ten Commandments,” and we all know what the first one is.
For over 2 decades I’ve been the one in the real world and internet ethers I frequent, who delivered the turd-punchbowl commentary, and suffered the flak from the pantywaist circle-jerk liberals who seem to populate the majority of discussion outlets.
Now I can reply to liberals who cringe in horror when I point out the simple little turd right there for everyone to see, “No, I’ve not ‘gone too far yet again.’ Dan Savage, who was on [CHOIR SINGS] Keith Olbermann last night, agrees with me.”
Do you send out alerts to followers before your turd-punchbowl commentaries? If so, please add me to list. I would not want to miss any of them.
I'm a woman and I agree with your comment about politically correct objections to "man-up," but for a different reason.
As an aggressive, goal-oriented woman, I frequently find myself using comments like "balls to the wall." Obviously, being a woman, I don't have balls of any kind, let alone any I could take to the wall.
But, truly, how would "ovaries to the wall" sound? Incredibly stupid and certainly not as strong as "balls to the wall."
You don't hear comments about someone's courage as them having "ovaries the size of oranges," do you?
So all of the anatomical references of courage, strength, assertiveness or aggressiveness are male.
The way I see it, until women get respect for their own reproductive organs in common and tacky vernacular, I'm stuck with using the male references.
Dan does his, "Look how OUTRAGEOUS I'm being shtick." Check out the sparkle in his eye just before he goes over the line even Keith Olbermann (!) won't cross.
The kinds of journalists who go to school don't bring up the possibility of assassination until there is something that has to be reported because it is universally seen as likely to encourage bloodshed.
1) The comment was not "ALL religious groups," so you create a strawman argument (logical fallacy) by arguing that the groups you work for don't advocate violence.
2) How well do you know the groups you work for? There are some groups that serve as launderers for other groups. So your group "XYZ Power" may not advocate violence but if they shuttle money to the "WHN And How" group that does advocate violence, XYZ Power may, indeed, be financing advocation of violence.
3) Most entreaties for violence are not overt, but covert. It is done with a series of not-even-subliminal comments and lies which lead the more gullible folks to be slowly convinced that an action they believe is wrong is actually kind of right or not so bad that doing it wouldn't be so wrong.
4) Many groups are actually a complex web of power and financial sharing. Groups like the Scaife foundations have in the past funded Free Congress Foundation which was involved in covert support of death squads in RENAMO and Operation Condor in Argentina, as well as many other CIA-related efforts to overthrow governments that were not willing to give away the country's resources to U.S. corporations, then the installation of a leader who would support U.S. corporations' plunder of the nation's resources. So Scaife can say he never funded support of death squads, but in fact he really did because his funding both provided the original funding for the launch of the FCF (as well as the Heritage Foundation) and was their major contributor for years.
5) Ever heard of Pat Robertson's "Operation Blessing"? It was part of his church ministry, supposedly planes fitted as medical support resource for countries in need of help. It was actually used for Robertson's exploitation of diamond mines in Zaire and in support of CIA covert efforts (http://www.peacecorpsonline.org/messages…). Robertson was given the rights to the mines shortly after Mugabe (with the aid of the CIA, which also supported Mugabe’s death squads) overthrew the Ian Smith regime. The Ian Smith regime was no icon of freedom, but it was a model of democracy, prosperity and peace when compared to what Mugabe has visted on Zaire as president. Robertson even appeared in public with Mugabe, knighting Mugabe with credibility by Robertson using his cloak of Christianity and his role as (at least at that time) not only being the leader of one of the largest Christian ministries in the U.S., but also a man who could walk up to Capitol Hill and gain access to many GOP politicians. If you follow OB’s history, you will find it was active almost always in areas where the CIA was involved in overthrowing a government.
I spent over 10 years doing research on the religious right. I am quite aware of what some religious PACs have done in the name of Jesus Christ.
Dan Savage was correct when he said that groups in the religious right have produced an actual decrease in the number of people who will even say they are Christian and who will admit they go to a Christian Church. That is the fault of both the filth on the religious right that participated or supported these heinous deeds AND of every Christian church in our nation who knew that these political groups using the banner of Christianity was doing in the name of Jesus and remained silent, letting the Pat Robertsons continue their fraud of their supporters and continue to use Christ’s name when assisting the CIA back murderous death squads like Mugabe’s.
Are you aware what Rick Warren (Saddleback Church) is doing in Christ's name in Africa? Here's a tip: it will make anything Pat Robertson ever did look as pure as the driven snow, AND it is setting up Africa for an outbreak of disastrous proportions of any communicable disease that gains a toe-hold there.
Your gender politics and opinions are all well and good, but you sound to me like you're leveling the sort of hatred at GIRL (and by extension all transgendered and transsexual people) that speaks of putting your beliefs above other people's lives and sanity. I disagree very, very strongly with your statements.
Not every website comment section has to turn into the "Tastes Great! Less Filling!" scream fest you guys seek.
In your response to GIRL you seem to forget that straight (or lesbian) and transgender are not mutually exclusive! There are lots of straight and lesbian trans women.
And when you say the "normal" part of GIRL's life, did you mean the part where she pretends to be a man, or what?
I know your schitck is to be an asshole, but your ultimate goal here to is to educate right? I know it's probably really easy to just copy and paste your answers--but try changing them up a little bit next time.
Now I could see some straight guys not wanted to admit that they had tried it because it might sound kind of gay but it just seems like curiosity would get the best of most of them. Not to say they blew a load into a cup and savored it but at least suck their finger in the mess on them and gave it a quick taste.
When a faggot squeaks it out we just roll in the floor laughing.
Check out this blog post on healthcare as a moral issue:
http://aufhebung1.blogspot.com/2006/12/h…
I don't know if Bishop John Shelby Spong has written anything on the healthcare debate, but you might want to check out his writings, too.
Many of us - especially those of us whose marriages were being voted on like a bad "The Bachelor" episode were ANGRY as hell but the only thing most of us hate is the hate spewed by lunatics like you who can't wrap your simple minds around the fact that when other people try to legislate what you do based on their own narrow views, you offend and upset people - people who should be able to focus their energies on helping our country instead of finding people to pick on and harrass.
And if you didn't see the hateful stuff that preceded the election last November, your head must have been in the sand. Or in your ass.
Maybe it's all about the approach....mmmmm.. yummy results regardless!!!!
Jesus is happy when we take care of the sick.
He is not happy when we confiscate our neighbors income at gunpoint to spend on causes we pick as worthy.
Government healthcare is not an act of Christian love or "charity".
It is passing the buck on caring for your neighbor to the government.
Well christians aren't doing their job taking of people and I sure don't want to sit around waiting for some christian neighbor to come take care of me.
Why would christians support the profit making healthcare system in place today? Does refusing care to cancer patients to make a buck make jesus happy?
"balls to the wall" has nothing to do with testicles.
It's an aviation term. The throttle levers on old WWII airplanes had big red balls on the ends of them, to make them different from flap handles and landing gear levers. To make the plane go faster, you shove the throttles toward the instrument panel. To go all out, max thrust, you push the throttles all the way forward - "balls to the wall".
The problem with protesting this hard and this angrily, of course, is that people automatically assume that you're up late at night watching trans lady porn. And there's nothing wrong with that, of course, those performers need people to buy their video content...
I think you are reading too much negativity into Dan's answer to GIRL. He is saying go find a supportive group who explicitly cares about your transition and can give advice, not find support/advice from the women you have regular associations with.
Ladies its just a term of endearment, no one doubts your importance
It's very fun and melodramatic to say the President is going to "confiscate our neighbors income at gunpoint", but the correct way of saying it would be "taxes". I know that's a dirty word for you, but it's completely legitimate.
By the way, did you complain and cry about how upset Jesus would be when Dubya confiscated my income at gunpoint to spend on a cause he thought was worthy, namely killing hundreds of thousands of innocent Iraqis??
You need to go back and read your Bible, because if you don't think Jesus believed in caring for the sick, you're crazy.
Finally, Jesus view on taxation: "Give unto Caesar what is Caesar's. Give unto God what is God's." Translated from Amish-speak, he's saying pay your taxes.
And 53, I absolutely think the guys in WWII were making dick jokes. They were men, not saints. Have you ever been around a group of guys in the teens and 20's who did NOT make dick jokes?
He is not happy when we confiscate our neighbors income at gunpoint to spend on causes we pick as worthy."
Listen, this is true. Jesus actually said, "Consider the lillies of the field. They toil not, neither do they payeth taxes, and they doubly not payeth for healthcare taxes, especially when the recipient may be some random Mexican." John 3:19-20, I'm serious.
Actually wait. He didn't say that. And more to the point, who cares, he was just a guy that died 2000 years ago, and the imaginary sky Gods offer us nothing of value when it comes to debating ethics or government policies.
Lucky for us the Constitution protects us from being taxed to implement your personal religious views.
@#12--you have a way more interesting sex life than I do. If I follow your logic . . .it is a normal everyday activity for a man to come in a woman's mouth. Therefore, a woman sharing that cum with the man is a little odd. So . . . it is a normal, everyday act for a man to pee into his own mouth. Therefore, the man sharing that pee with a woman is also a little odd, in your world. Did I get that right? And, if so, is that why you sound so pissy?
Why is it okay for a girl to do so, and not a man? It's not going to do them one bit of harm. I see it as no different than asking you to eat something distasteful, which is EXACTLY what it is. Truth is, you don't even know if it tastes bad if you have never tried it. Some like it, some don't, some like peas, some don't.
#24 Warsaw, define man and woman.
Chromosomes are not an accurate measure, neither are the sex organs themselves. Nature gets a lot of things wrong. There many, many who walk among you who are not 100% correct male or female. Your view of human anatomy is extremely narrow and ignorant.
Thousands of infants are born with intersex (male and female) characteristics; society quickly sorts them almost immediately through surgery, but that doesn't stop from many individuals having ambiguous sexual identities. You choose to ridicule these people, describing them as possessing mental disorders. They very well may have significant psychological issues stemming from their identity crisis, but that's based on a physiological reality that society has systemically ignored & marginalized throughout history.
http://www.isna.org/
Peeing is NO equivalent to cum... most girls have cum in their mouth while they're still virgins even... and plenty of guys kiss them afterward, maybe not deeply, maybe with a wince, but cum is the most commonly mouthed bodily fluid after saliva.
Whereas pee-in-mouth is NOT a "norm" of sexual play ... it is squarely in the fetish zone (or extreme emergency wilderness hydration/medicine).
Don't egrandize your squeamishness rationalizations as if it's "Logic". You have the right to your tastes and dis-tastes... but I've kissed plenty of hetro guys after going down on them, and they were plenty men about it, and plenty hetro.
Now for the actual anal. It isn't that bad, go slow, don't tense up, use lots of lube, and remember pain = stop, and try again in a few days. Might I suggest small toys to start as not all people are able to take a dick up there ass with out training. Just be willing to try again if it hurts. Because my guess is if you have been married this long and haven't tried it there is a reason even if it is just mental. I am a girl and I rather enjoy getting fucked up the ass. Good luck...
As for resistance to eating one's own sperm, I think the husband's resistance may come from the fear that if he does it in front of his wife, he'll be perceived by her as less of a man/attractive.
Yes, but that explanation overlaps poorly with observed trans behavior. Show me something that says a substantial fraction of transexuals actually have anatomic or hormonal intersex features. Trust me, if people could tell who they were there would be a LOT less controversy over the issue. Most are normal anatomic males with plenty of testosterone--I've met a bunch having sex or on viagra they only needed after estrogens and spironolactone took the edge off their boners (medical settings only).
Hetero men eating cum may not be normative sex, but a girl getting a cock up her ass isn't normative sex either, so yeah, still fair trade.
Here's your dyke column from Dan: pussies are icky, lesbians are uncool and full of drama, but Dan will "man up" and admit that there are some hot buch firefighter dykes that he would *theoretically* fuck. Also, some of his best friends are dykes.
Anything more insightful or empathetic about lesbians from Dan would be an f-ing miracle...
Here's your dyke column from Dan: pussies are icky, lesbians are uncool and full of drama, but Dan will "man up" and admit that there are some hot buch firefighter dykes that he would *theoretically* fuck. Also, some of his best friends are dykes.
Anything more insightful or empathetic about lesbians from Dan would be an f-ing miracle...
I say ew. Ew ew ew.
Yeah, that's what we all would prefer: self-righteous Xtians offering us charity so they can get a higher seat next to Jayzus.
Why do I bet money you aren't engaged in a single charitable act beyond dropping some change in an occasional box? I bet you send more money to the NRA and the GOP though.
BTW, why do I also bet you considered the Iraq war a "necessary cause" worth spending your neighbor's income on?
You are so blind you must have had somebody else type your comment.
I praise you for sticking to your guns and making him taste his own goo, I think I will have to take that apporoach too!
ALL men get bored of having sex with their female partners (wives/girlfriends/etc) after about 9-12 months (tops). Blame it on biology. Males are biologically "wired" to have sex with as many partners as possible, in order to spread our genetic material as far and wide as possible.
I don't know one healthy man who could honestly say they are still excited about having sex with their female partners after about 12 months. Yeah, we'll have sex with you, and we'll even enjoy it, but it's not like it's hot anymore for us. It's not that you aren't sexy, it's just that it gets boring to keep humping the same chick all the time. And the guys that DO think it's still sexy and hot? They're just saying that. Trust me.
Why else do you think a guy would rather play a video game than have sex with you? (Because the game is actually a challenge).
If you really need men to f**k you in order to feel sexy, you might want to consider non-monogamous relationships. Seriously. And if you really think you did your man wrong by "cheating", I won't even go into how us men deal with the frustration and boredom that comes from regular monogamous sex. Don't feel bad about cheating. It's one of the few ways to keep monogamy interesting (until you turn 50 and you don't care about being "sexy" anymore).
You would lose those bets.
Conservatives as a group are much more generous givers than liberals.
The confusion continues!
And btw, does anyone really believe that Dan reads these posts? Je ne le pense pas.
Of course, the vocal extremist minority who still has access to the mic continues to speak for the prosecution in this regard, as do the angry internet militants who wish Hellfire upon all who disagree with them. They, like Jack Chick's tracts, have almost become self satirizing. But it isn't Dan's fault this has happened.
As a teenager, I was flexible enough to autofellate (NSFW), and, indeed, this was, for a while, my primary method of masturbation. (And no, I'm not as endowed as Ron Jeremy, I was just really bendy then. Think Short Bus) Consequentially, I've never been bothered by the taste or texture of my ejaculate (though there's an icky aftertaste when I'd swallow). I guess the lack of curiosity amongst other het guys is somewhat surprising.
Sadly, I'm analphobic, or copraphobic, but either way am silly scared of santorum, so I won't be anally penetrating or being anally penetrated for the foreseeable future.
You don't see people saying ick about breast milk, yet the mother must have her health-- same for come.
way too much information
@84: yawn
@85: Ever heard of an enema? Anything that slides out of me post coital is lickably clean.
@87: Come isn't "very nutritious;" there's just enough sugars to fuel sperm to an egg. If there was lots of good stuff in it, teenage boys all over would be malnourished parting with it 5 times a day.
"So all of the anatomical references of courage, strength, assertiveness or aggressiveness are male.
"The way I see it, until women get respect for their own reproductive organs in common and tacky vernacular, I'm stuck with using the male references."
This is what I say:
"Wow, that woman sure has clit."
"Girl" needs better friends, people who will accept her and go with her on the journey. Transgender support group definitely the way to go, but a good pal, of any sexuality would still accept and help her out anyway.
Gender isn't always about what's between your legs. My male cat is looking like a "girl" down there too, but that doesn't mean he's any less a boy because he had to have surgery. In his head he's a Tom, period, and for the record a complete lack of genitals hasn't stopped him from courting a lady cat or two. He got around his disability in a way I can't discuss here and which you probably wouldn't believe if I told you anyway, laugh, but my point is he's still a BOY where it counts, in his head.
Girl is a girl where it counts, in the head. But being raised as a girl "she" may have a few problems adjusting to behaving like one. Questions to ask. Who is she going to ask if not other women? Other transsexuals who may or may not be able to help answer the questions honestly?
Finding a hetero gal friend who won't judge, who will help probably won't be easy outside a trans-gender group. More likely than not she'll end up talking with a relative of someone met in the group before she'll ever end up talking to pals at work or whatever. But telling her to bug off where the straight women in her life already are concerned isn't very helpful. She may very well find a kinder soul who will accept her and answer her questions from a straight female perspective. You never know. But hey you don't ask, you don't get. You know?
http://www.thewrap.com/ind-column/burn-n…
"The series is described as a buddy cop drama. Jack is an ambitious, by-the-book cop who is partnered with with Dan Savage, a drunken, lecherous, wild-card cop who only hangs onto his job because of a heroic act many years prior. Amazingly, crimes still get solved."
I know, people don't own their names, but still....
Were I talking about copraphagic tendencies, I might agree with you, just to spare our readers their breakfasts.
'I wouldn't like to see what's coming outta her womb...'?
Hmmm?
Or:
'She's got Labia of Lead....'?
Come on, Savage Love readers, we must be able to come up with some more female centric tough-talk...
OK, U-boy;
since you asked-
self sucking and anal phobias are way way TMI
you filthy animal
Tried to tell you...
A couple years ago, my colleague was going through depression, and his therapist gave him some advice which sounded a little—oh—familiar with what SLUT said: Because he wasn't feeling 'wanted' by his spouse, he should try and make his own 'happiness'—that feeling of being 'wanted'—a priority; finding it however and wherever it might present itself.
This advice—crudely administered—led my colleague into a Prozac prescription, having an affair, divorcing his new spouse, going through hell with his young and immature new lover, and finally, after two suicide attempts and a very rocky period with his employer, a life with another lover two thirds his age.
The experience left him noticeably altered—not entirely for the better, to be honest. There's a cloud of sadness around him where there used to be energetic and earnest vivacity. Who am I to know if he's happier? I hope he feels 'wanted' now, but I can't help thinking:
Is this sort of advice common among licensed therapists? Did SLUT get the same advice my colleague received when she (presumably) sought council during her depression? Is there such thing as a Therapists' Party Line?
It would make sense. Some time ago you were accusing me of Pygmalionism. But I would think on Savage Love, nothing in the sexual arena is taboo.
Are you still in middle school?
You've got issues, dude.
Not that that's technically a bad thing; we all have issues. Some things might humiliate me, were they to be made public, but my history of autofellatio and the exit-only status of my rectum aren't among them.
You, in the meantime, seem to be struggling to keep your own Freudian slip from blowing right off.
Good luck with that.
could you repeat that?
not anyone, you're special.
but, hey, you're right-
this is slog: share away...