er, i said 3 consecutive girlfriends, but then i only named two. he's currently engaged to a mandy. i don't hang out with him any more, so who knows if he still switches them up, but i wouldn't be surprised.
What #67 said! I wish I could copy/paste it 1,000 times!
It seems possible that there's something more sinister going on here -- that what FED's "friend" really gets off on isn't vore or pregnancy, but messing with a vulnerable woman's most painful insecurities.
On multiple occasions, I've called my boyfriend "mom." His name is Dan.
And ironically, the only time I've called my new boyfriend by a past boyfriend's name was when I'm upset or frustrated at him, which is very rarely (and definitely an indicator of how my past relationship functioned).
The coin flip idea may be a better one than you think it is... provided you use it correctly. The right way to use a coin flip is, essentially, to force your brain to make up its frelling mind already.
You flip the coin, and if either you were truly ambivalent, or you were inclined towards the answer the coin gave you, you go with it. If you find yourself thinking "No, that's not right", then you *don't* go with it. But it can help your brain get itself sorted when you're dithering.
Good job Brian!! Do you know any Catholic men in their mid-to-late 20s I could date? I'm awesome, by the way :)
I think it's strange HAC's boyfriend has called her by the friend's name at least 7 times. Once, sure... 7 times!? And after "I love you"? Something's not right there.
For my money, GGG doesn't include doing things that make you feel bad (and being worried and stressed about potential triggers counts as feeling bad just as much as knowing you're going to be exposed to one).
Isn't the whole point of FWB to enjoy sex without emotional hangups? If FED is this worried about saying no to something that makes her uncomfortable, that defeats the whole purpose of casual sex, doesn't it?
There's a huge difference between "food issues" and anorexia. I'd guess about 95% of American women have food issues. But until you tell the truth to your FWB, it's unfair for anyone on this board, even Dan, to call him "insensitive" for not magically guessing the extent of your illness. If he's a reasonable guy, he'll be mortified that he pushed foodplay, then supportive and caring.
Every time my bf would do something that annoyed me and made me made, I accidentally would call him by my ex-bf's name! (go figure)
My friend's husband started doing the same thing, except it was during tender moments between he and his wife. He was having an affair with the co-worker.
If she is feeling insecure, she should listen to intuition.
Catholic charities indeed! In the 90's, a friend gave $10 (Lots of money in India, especially then) a month to an Indian famaly(threw Catholic charities), and while traveling she went to visit them. Well, the family was still very poor. The Catholics however, drove around in a nice new minivan! Spank. BAD POPE.
Hurt And Confused: I honestly think from what you wrote that your man is cheating on you or at least thinking about it. He has called you this other girls name a half a dozen times? If he had slipped up once ...ok but half a dozen times..wtf...really... come on now. Take it from someone that went through something similar...he will more than likely not ever admit his feelings for this "friend" so it's on you to decide whether or not you want to continue a relationship with him.
Am I the only one that is reading the coin toss line as a quote from No Country? Anton asks the guy at the service station in the middle of nowhere. C'mon... I have come to expect this audience to be pop savvy.
It seems possible that there's something more sinister going on here -- that what FED's "friend" really gets off on isn't vore or pregnancy, but messing with a vulnerable woman's most painful insecurities.
THIS.
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And ironically, the only time I've called my new boyfriend by a past boyfriend's name was when I'm upset or frustrated at him, which is very rarely (and definitely an indicator of how my past relationship functioned).
You flip the coin, and if either you were truly ambivalent, or you were inclined towards the answer the coin gave you, you go with it. If you find yourself thinking "No, that's not right", then you *don't* go with it. But it can help your brain get itself sorted when you're dithering.
I think it's strange HAC's boyfriend has called her by the friend's name at least 7 times. Once, sure... 7 times!? And after "I love you"? Something's not right there.
Isn't the whole point of FWB to enjoy sex without emotional hangups? If FED is this worried about saying no to something that makes her uncomfortable, that defeats the whole purpose of casual sex, doesn't it?
There's a huge difference between "food issues" and anorexia. I'd guess about 95% of American women have food issues. But until you tell the truth to your FWB, it's unfair for anyone on this board, even Dan, to call him "insensitive" for not magically guessing the extent of your illness. If he's a reasonable guy, he'll be mortified that he pushed foodplay, then supportive and caring.
Dan, I LIVE for your column!
My friend's husband started doing the same thing, except it was during tender moments between he and his wife. He was having an affair with the co-worker.
If she is feeling insecure, she should listen to intuition.
Coin toss can be helpful. While coin is spinning in the air, you will wish for the right answer.