I actually dont see the problem here. So a woman likes to brake in virgins. This sounds like almost every male virgins fantasy. Am I wrong?

I totally thought this was about a dirty old gay man until I got to the wife part.

I think Virgin Hunters are an uncelebrated and undervalued class of American Hero(ines) who make life better for thousands every day. In fact, I think we should have a reality TV show dedicated to them - Deadliest Catch, Ax Men, The Virgin Hunters...

Me! Me! Pick me, virgin hunter!

I can pretend to be a virgin.

@2, These days, it could still be about a gay man, regardless of what the law says.

At least those virgins can rest assured that if they get an STD, it's somewhat unlikely that they're getting it from the virgin hunter. On the other hand, men do this to women all the time and no one seems to say anything about it other than "Alright, high five!" Regardless, I still think they're all douchebags and assholes for the games they play.

As for the Anon -- In my opinion, if you were waiting to have sex with someone you were in a loving relationship with, then you should have waited until you were married, since that's generally the only guarantee that the bitch won't dump your ass as soon as she's done with you sexually (and if she does, then you have every right to lay the blame on her...unless you get married while completely blackout drunk in Vegas...) Any virgin hunter is most likely not going to wait that long and you would have avoided having your heart broken. It sucks that you had your heart broken. I can completely sympathize with that. However, maybe you needed to learn a valuable lesson from this person. Next time, think things through a little more carefully, don't ignore what your gut instinct tells you and accept responsibility for YOUR role in the story before placing all of the blame on someone else when the shit hits the fan. You are partially to blame, regardless of what you tell yourself. I do have to agree with what you said about her not getting any smarter because of some guy...No one can fix stupid except yourself. If you don't feel intelligent on your own, then you aren't going to feel intelligent with anyone else, either.

I think IA is more upset about having their feelings abused than having lost their virginity (please, please let that be the case)... to that I can sympathize, but not to losing that thing that their really, really should be a professional paid to remove.. oh, wait >.>

Gotta second #7 ... if she's having a hard time finding someone who makes her "feel" intelligent ... she is most likely not very intelligent. Although maybe the fact that she doesn't just assume her intellectual superiority to others is a sign of unexpected self-awareness, which is at least one positive trait.

@#9, very true...

I'd also like to ask IA, is this girl's favorite song "Oops!...I Did It Again" by Britney Spears by chance? If so, maybe that should have been your first clue...

@1 You're sort of wrong. Having sex with someone for the 1st time = good. Having sex with someone for the first time and then they treat you like shit = not good.

Well if the only thing she's got going for her is her "amazing" face and body, maybe you should pick OTHER criteria for your next girlfriend, hmmmm?

Yaay! Potato Bug!

Maybe it's worth letting yourself be temporarily get treated like shit in order to get laid by some hot chick. As long as you don't make a habit of letting yourself get treated like shit. But if she dumps the guys quickly, it's a little life lesson for the former virgins. A win-win, in other words. Some action, some learning. How else are they going to learn?

Keep on fucking, virgin hunter slut!

Also, I know it's rude to double-post, but I wuold just like to take the opportunity to thank the slightly older girl to whom I lost MY virginity, 25 years ago almost to this day, who dumped me after, what, two days? Sure, I was somewhat disappointed to realize I was not going to be the love of her life or even her boyfriend for the rest of the summer, but I got some good punk rock chick action for TWO WHOLE DAYS!

It was WORTH IT!! Thanks, Beth Johnson, wherever you are! XO!

i sense a jealous fat girl...

13 - If that's true then he's just jealous he hasn't gotten any. No way that an innocent bystander would feel so strongly about this as to write an I, Anon.

I sense a jealous female room mate in this one. Not ugly or fat. Just an ordinary young woman and looking for "their one true love" or something long term and the Virgin Hunter probably bagged their crush. Hence, the slut shaming. Please, if a guy thinks a woman is going to declare her eternal love and loyalty to him just because she let him poke her, he needs to wise up fast. Chicks get horny. They too want no strings hook ups so don't read too much into it unless you've been dating awhile or friends for awhile....and even then don't assume anything. Enjoy losing it to a hottie and don't waste anytime bewailing the fact you didn't "save" yourself for your wedding night. Your future spouse will thank you. Virgins are lousy lays.

Oh, and always use protection.

@7, you're wrong: when you write: On the other hand, men do this to women all the time and no one seems to say anything about it other than "Alright, high five!"

No. Men do not do this "all the time." And no decent person says that.

@21:

Yes, we do this all the time, at least from ages about 15 to 30. You have clearly been hanging out with a high quality group of men; which is to your credit. It is not, however, to your credit that you are projecting the character of these men onto men as a whole.

I guess we should also define what "this" is. To be fair to @7, "this" should be broadly defined to include most forms of taking advantage of the sexually/emotionally vulnerable, not simply serial de-virginization.

What school does she teach at?

@23 -- That's a good one, I almost shot coffee out my nose.

It sounds like she's leading them on, which is not ok. If you want to "break them in", you have a responsibility to be kind.... if it's a one night stand kind of thing, fine, be up front. Yes, they will be hurt most likely afterwards; most of us can't help but be attached to the one who was our first. You cannot however fuck buddy them. That's mean. And if it's an older guy who's waited due to various reasons, it's truly cruel to treat them like shit. I knew someone who did that to a guy who had waited till he was almost 30. She broke up with him three months later, then called him up when a family tragedy occurred, snuggled up to him to comfort him, slept with him and then explained that it was a fuck buddy situation. He agreed, but then she would tell him she loved him, etc., and he just didn't understand, no matter how much we all tried to tell him that if she's strip teasing at a party (in front of him) for the man she slept with while they were "on a break", that she does not love him. That is "cunt behavior" to quote the above. He was a mess for a long time.

mom?

Mary Kay Latourneau, is that you?

Virgin Hunters are awesome.

I'd like to thank the gal who deflowered me way back when. She fucked me senseless for a couple weeks one summer, than dumped my ass. Yes, I felt a little bummed that I couldn't fuck her any more, but I got over it pretty damn quickly.

She left me with no diseases, no child support payments, and many fond memories. Plus, she racheted up my "game" to a whole new level. Overall, a positive force in my life. :)

And if she got off on deflowering guys, so much the better. As young and as inexperienced as I was, she wasn't getting off of anything I could do. And I'm glad I was able to bring something to the table.

Uh, maybe Mr. Anonymous is a jealous-ass dude who can't treat a pretty girl like a normal person, got dumped, and has come up with a lame excuse. I mean, you'd think the hyper-intelligent shyboy could have figured it out before he fucked her, right?

What a total loser. He had his shot, didn't appreciate, and now it's gone. Good luck getting back there.

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Not.

@31: No.

A woman hurting a man/guys feelings?Setting their emotions for future relationships?Its OK if a guy does it, but not a woman?
Tell yourself whatever but my head hurts...can't we all just get along?

I just cannot get behind any person telling a woman not to sleep with shy, virginal guys. Shy virginal guys have enough problems without dealing with the judgemental machinations of this cock-blocking lowlife who seems to think that you have to love everybody you screw. Let the poor guys get their dicks wet. Everybody needs to learn how to swim sometime, and you got to swallow a little water to do it.