Columns Jan 20, 2011 at 4:00 am

Symptomatic

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This posts and the comments really helped me. I've been crushing on a friend recently, nothing serious I love my bf and he just proposed to his girlfriend but I have always felt that there was something there, we both seemed to put our card on the table the first time we met. I stated that I was in love and not looking for a change, he seemed much less sure than me but was the first to tie the not. The problem is I really enjoy hanging out with him, I miss having a close male friend and we have a lot in common I want to be his friend but I don't want all these other feelings for him. Is their a way to get rid of these feelings some how? Should I stop talking to him? Am I putting unnecessary strain on my relationship by wanting to keep up an unhealthy friendship with him?

Whats worse is this seems to be a common theme for me. I have always been a guys chick but I also tend to crush big time on my male friends (or if I don't they crush on me) in fact my current bf and I were friends for 8 years before we got together. When we were broken up a few months I started to fall hard for my bf best friend, essentially ruining the friendship between all three of us. I just don't know what to do!! I love my bf, I want to get married in the next couple of years and I do not want these feelings,I realize they are normal but I still want them gone, any advise?

Sorry for the ramble, but I needed to get that off my chest :)

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