tachycardia@98, you're welcome, hope it's not needed.

@99, good questions, except for the last, which may have been rhetorical. Relationships are not blood oaths. People change over time, and often in ways that make their partners uncomfortable. Figuring out how to address that, and monitoring whether you're still compatible with each other, is not the most fun part of being an adult.

@104, ank was here a couple of weeks ago, to say goodbye. Goodbyes are weird and this one was no exception.
http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/Savag…

@104, oh, and ank is not the same person as vennominon. I've seen them sparring enough to know the difference.

@ Armywife
Most of the girls I knew when I was single (long time ago)used this same excuse. i.e..."I drank too much THAT time with THAT guy. However I am sober here with you so I can't take my top off" Hmmm.
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@104:
Some of us enjoy to read these thoughtful posts. And I think seandr is keeping up his side of the banter quite nicely.

@103:
If vennominon's posts weren't phrased as they are, they'd be only half the fun they are.

@Fuckhead number 53

dull is not the same as utterly boring guys, quit being a douchebag and maybe you won't be seen as one

My legally-framed phrasing expresses my deep and enduring loyalty to and affection for the immortal Rumpole of the Bailey.

Had I wanted to be mean, I'd have left out the designing hussies, which I knew Dr Sean would appreciate.

I agree that AWIT would be doing more harm than good by confessing her indescretions. But let me just add the suggestion that she get some therapy. It certainly can't hurt to figure out a)why she was driven to cheat in the first place and b)what she can do to get past the guilt.

If vennominon's posts weren't phrased as they are, they'd be only half the fun they are.

Yup. He's one of the reasons I keep coming back.

@Dirtclusit: @Fuckhead number 53

If we're talking about the procession of guys in that post, I'm actually fuckhead number 17.

dull is not the same as utterly boring guys

I'm having trouble extracting anything meaningful from this sequence of words.

quit being a douchebag and maybe you won't be seen as one

Wait right here a second, there's someone I'd like to introduce you to. Mydriasis?

@seandr

Nah, I'm good, thanks... :/

Ms Eirene - All the better then that I urged you to register and post regularly.

Nobody's paid any attention to TOWIHL, so I thought I would. After LMAO. Oh, the poor dear. Her GF has three M/F couple clients with whom she's not technically - as a pro domme - having sex. But the GF is so disturbed that the clients are not exclusively male.

I wonder if the GF is a sub. [Actually, sounds more like a pushy bottom.] Otherwise, why would she care whether there are ANY female clients, whether solo or in a M/F couple.

Ah, yes, young (read: stupid) love. ::whines:: If you really loved me, you'd get rid of anything I don't like ... such as all women interacting with you at your work.

I wonder if they're still together.

@117 - Is it just me, or does "pushy bottom" sound like the name of a New England town in some whimsical offbeat comedy?

@118

::snickers::

Ah - perhaps not New England but the grande old dame herself. In some unpronounceable ---shire.

Ms Helenka - That letter struck me as overlapping too much with the other one. And talk about an overplayed hand - oof.

What kind of insecure weak-willed woman keeps making out with someone AFTER they said they weren't attracted to her?

...And where can I find me one?

"I know someone you should talk to.......'

*long pause* 'If you say Ferris Bueller, you lose a testicle.'

@123 I second that! LOL

WHAT-- My guess is that the translation of your friend's "not attracted to you" is "don't want the sort of relationship being sexually involved with someone entails, the sort where you're dependable, emotionally available and honest." He's warning you away when he thinks you're getting emotionally attached, not sexually.

Let me go out on a limb and make some guesses as to what you mean when you say he's great. I'd say that means he's funny and smart. He's quick with a one-liner, picks up broad concepts quickly in a way that makes him good in classroom discussions, has some startling insight into people's interests and motivations. On the other hand, he's not terribly compassionate or considerate. You feel so terrific when he showers some of that dazzling brilliance on you, you feel so lucky to be in his presence when he makes you laugh, that you don't realize the extent to which he's showing off or making you the butt of his jokes. Gad, I get weak kneed just thinking about the boys I used to be attracted to. They'd make me forget everything I knew, made me blind to what immature assholes they were.

People do have the capacity to mature and change, and that's why Dan's advice to keep in touch with him while scaling back your involvement is good. But seriously, think about what it is about him that you find so attractive, think about the specific circumstances when you're with him that you like the most, then look for those qualities in someone more suited to you, like, say, a woman who's not distracted by a smart funny man.

@119 and 114

Hey fuckhead, do you know the real definition of the word faggot?

It's what an adamant-he's-hetero homosexual too spineless to admit his desires calls someone who has a spine is refuses to be intimidated by people who call people faggots

AND is not is

"and refuses"

@WHAT just take a listen to You Keep Me Hangin' On by the Supremes.

@106 EricaP: What happened to anklosaur?

@132: THAT'S what WHAT's letter reminded me of!!
Thank you!!

God only knows why I once hung on for nine years too long, myself.
Live and learn, I guess.

(Belated, I know, but...)

@34 -- My comment wasn't directed at you. I hadn't really read the prior responses or anything. I just happened to hit on that comparison, nothing more to it.

I read WHAT as totally cornering her man into multiple makeout sessions as taking advantage of the taboo against men refusing easy sex. She's attracted to him, he isn't attracted to her, how do you think this went down? It'd be clear harassment if the gender roles were reversed. Furthermore, what's with this Dibs scenario? Ain't that some shit?

@104 Shhhh! No talking during the film.

This newbie has soooo much electronic crushing going on here for Dr Sean, Vennominon, and Mydriasis. Well articulated banter is ~sexy~ and highly entertaining. *grabs popcorn and settles in*