Looking for girlfriednds on Tinder? Really? I thought Tinder was where you look for loose women who will let you blow your load all over their face.

@2 Only if they bring COCAINE and MALT LIQUOR .

In a month, someone will form a band named 'Blazer Wearing Dildos".

The logo could either be a dildo IN a blazer, or a blazer covered with dildos. Or both.

#1: LOL! #2 LOL! #3 LOL! #4 LOL! Thanks for the belly laughs you guys...

When this happens, the best thing to do is look the blazer wearing dildo straight in the eye and smile happily -- imagine yourself missing the fateful flight -- and then gracefully bowing out, which should be done in a Fred Astaire fashion, ideally, with a carefree whistle as you depart.

BREAKING NEWS: Hot bitch who can have any man she wants is rude and inconsiderate to men.

BREAKING NEWS: misogynist thought he was gonna get his dick sucked, doesn't, calls woman who didn't suck his dick a "whore". Look, if she WAS a whore, there wouldn't be a problem, would there?

Damn...can't a girl go for a threesome anymore? Sorry you got your dick twisted in your panties but you missed a golden opportunity there.

Why print this misogynistic junk?

@8 thank you. was just about to post the same sentiment

Hey Anon why is it when men do this they are a "stud" and when women do it they are, and I quote: a whore, a twat and my personal favorite a "bitch"? She was just out dancing with you. You were the one with the expectations. She probably thought you were a scrub which is why her boyfriend appeared. You are such a loser.

ha, bought the 'this is my "boyfriend" (more like "best friend") line. do gals still give out fake numbers to people too?

On the off chance this happened as the douchenozzle who wrote in described (multiple dates, and an actual boyfriend rather than bumping into some other guy she was also casually seeing), then she really should have mentioned being poly before then.

Even in this case, he's still a misogynistic douchenozzle.

@14 spot on...and I prefer douchecanoe, but douchenozzle IS splendid!

Can I get her number? Sounds like fun too me!!!

While the woman should have been open about having a boyfriend, does anyone really go looking for more than sex on Tinder? And does finding out she has a boyfriend and a different dating style mean she's a slut/twat/bitch/whore? Most guys would have been mildly disappointed, it takes a rare misogynistic jerk to write a newspaper a letter whining about a Tinder date and slut shaming the date anonymously. I'm not finding a lot of sympathy for either player.

Translation: Nice Guy™ throws tantrum when Date he met via hook app dashes his expectations of monogamy by only wanting no-strings hook up.

#18 NAILED it.

Come on! We all know what Tinder is for, right?

I love that illustration.

Why does Tinder get such a bad rap? I dated lots of great people through Tinder...and slept with none of them...except for the one with whom I'm currently in a serious relationship.

Why does it take a gay guy to spell out the rules to str8 dudes? This: until you put a ring on it, you are dating. D A T I N G. Dating means she is auditioning you for later getting married, at which time you may require a monogamous relationship - AND NOT ONE SECOND BEFORE! That's what marriage is; committing yourself to another person. And until that ring thing happens, she can go out with as many dudes, simultaneously, as she wants. Same applies to you. I hope this clear description will help you lead a happier life.

@10 thank you. Why indeed. To incite our annoyance, as per usual. ;-)

FFS, plenty of guys pull that stunt too.

Anon, you had a lucky escape, early on. Don't bitch about it.

@22: While I agree with everything you said, my read of the letter was that she surprised her Tinder date by trotting BWD boyfriend out during a date.

While Anonymous may be an entitled hypocritical guy, being irritated at a boyfriend first mentioned while out on a date, in front of other people, seems pretty reasonable. Dumb not to ask, but also wrong not to mention.

Any guy that wonders whether women go on Tindr looking for a date rather than casual sex/ a hookup has obviously never read the profiles they put on Tindr specifying "I AM NOT LOOKING FOR A HOOKUP"

With my experience with Tindr, I'll give the LW the benefit of the doubt. He made a reasonable assumption that since she was dating, she was single. When she brings her BF along, he feels humiliated and writes an angry letter to I, anonymous.

Finally, imagine the genders had been reversed and it was a girl who had gone on a few dates with a guy, only to see him bring along his girlfriend. Swap "whore" for "asshole" and you have pretty much the same letter.

@21 You and IA are literally the only people I've heard of that have used Tinder for dating. Everyone else I know that uses it is looking for casual sex. I'm sure it's used for prostitution as well.

@22: WTF? I'm pretty sure I can require a monogamous relationship to sleep with me, date me, whatever I want... They don't have to accept under any circumstance, and then I can go on my way...

I keep hearing "when guys do it they're studs but when women do it they're whores." This is bullshit. If a guy did this they would be called an asshole by everyone I know and plenty of sluggers. If a woman wrote this exact thing about a guy, there would be a line forming for finding creative ways to call him an asshole. And anyone who disagreed would be called misogynist. This dude comes off naive and butthurt - THE END. If you're throwing a word like "misogyny" at him then you must be on a campaign to strip that word of all its meaning and impact.

@28: he calls her three different gendered slurs. If he called her an asshole, that wouldn't be misogyny, but twat bitch and whore?
Also, I think most of the people making fun of him here would make fun of a woman who thought a tindr date was serious too.

So this happened this weekend:
My main guy had been getting to know this woman for a while now – slowly, friendly; they’ve seen each other around quite a bit and he’s lately let her know he’s interested in her. She was at an open event to which he’d invited her and during the event she asked if he was available later. He was set to answer that he had plans [with me] but “perhaps another time?” when he saw that I had just arrived out of the corner of his eye and opted to introduce me then as his “main squeeze” (labels are so annoying and limiting and yet without them we’re left with “my main guy” and “main squeeze”).

I could see it in her eyes in that moment: awkwardness, rejection, realization that he was poly (and she, it turns out, is not), worry that I was going to be all possessive and indignant as if he’d been caught cheating, embarrassment…

So how do you avoid that moment or moments like the idiot misogynist IA had? When do you tell someone you’re dating-but-open, or dating others, or playing-the-field, or are carrying on many relationships at different levels of closeness and connection and commitment?

Is that necessarily a conversation one has before going out simply to dance? Or during the meetup stage on a hookup app? Is it her responsibility to tell him something he may not even care about as if she’s got a communicable disease? Is it his responsibility to ask clarifying questions before he sets his hopes on Happily Ever After? (“What’s your current relationship status?”/”So I’m finding that I really am enjoying your attention and even though we’ve only had a few dates and you barely know me and I barely know anything about you, I really want to set the expectation on you that you are to give your attention only to me even during the rest of your life between our few and random dates, m’kay?”)

Tl;dr: don’t be a jackass, IA. You don’t own her and she didn’t owe you anything. You chose to leave in a huff instead of clarifying for yourself the nature of her lifestyle at any point before or during your dates. Get over yourself and stop being a hateful misogynist pig. I recommend CBT and CBT.

Seriously, you pulled my comment, Schmader? For saying cunt?

May your left testicle suffer a glancing blow that hurts more than it seems like it should have.

@26 The dirtiest secret of Tinder is that as a guy if you DONT use it exclusively to get laid it is really easy to get dates. Much more effective than anything else. Been seeing Tinder girl for 3 months and its been going great.

I once picked up a chick from Tinder, we had wild out of this world sex that culminated in be blowing my load all over her face.

And than I paid he $500, and a cab ride.

@32 lol and muah.

"At least I know how to treat people with respect... you worthless slut" how is the irony not palpable to this guy

All of the women I meet on Tinder, have male appendages.

One would think I would learn, after the first couple of dozen times.

Instead of having a big argument over misogyny, why not just admit that many people (men and women) are just horrible, manipulative shitheads who treat each other like garbage. The OP might be a sexist asshole, but if his description is accurate she is also an asshole. Being an asshole isn't empowering or feminist, it's just being an asshole. Throwing a fit on I Anonymous about simply compounds the douchiness, but it's weird to me that people who think of themselves as feminists would waste their time defending some horrible person. I think a heavy dose of misanthropy is called for in these situations, instead of trying to turn it into another hill to die on in the Internet social justice wars.