Control Tower

How to Tell if You Rule as a Top

Comments

1
I guess that means you are at the top level -- because I want to do everything we have done again, with you!
BobCA
2
Fantastic post! I'm a newbie Dominant myself, and am always worried about doing things right.

I've given a few random spankings, but the 2 real, planned and negotiated scenes I've done resulted in "We should do this again".

Though I do need to work on building up my intensity, not going from gentle to HARD with no in-between...
3
Thanks, MM. I'm working on getting more toppish in one of my relationships. She's very encouraging, and we communicate well together. It really is performance anxiety, too. Sometimes I feel kinda dumb, or like what I'm saying is too cliche, or I'm playing a role that isn't really me. But she seems to be enjoying herself, and that's what counts.
4
well, MM isn't blogging much these days (maybe she's considering her exit strategy from being a pro-domme? I'm sure she has done that, though many apparently NEVER do...). Anyway, that was good advice, very much to the point.
5
At the top level, there are other gradations. Sometimes I want to do that activity again with that dom, because I think there was potential there, and I could see what the dom was trying to do, even if we didn't actually get there.

But sometimes I want to do that activity again, with that dom, because the scene took my breath away in its life-changing awesomeness. That kind is better :-)
6
so you're NOT considering your exit strategy? I would think it's never too early in a youth dominated market (where 45 is about the upper limit, at least to be really successful, as in make a good living).