Wait - am I missing something? The guy's friend used to deal drugs to you, and is a jerk, so you're not interested in the guy anymore? Because he's a jerk by association? That seems a bit extreme.
Or, do you somehow now know that the guy himself (the one you were interested in) is also sketchy and obnoxious? I'm lost.
what if the person's in NA?
maybe he/she just doesn't want to take the chance of befriending an addict and falling off the wagon. seems reasonable to me. i'd say staying clean is more important than making a new friend.
This is stupid. If you used to buy drugs from this person and be associated with this person then what makes you better than the guy you've been flirting with? You don't even know how close they were? Maybe he was just a drug dealer to him as well. Seems shallow and presumptuous if I were to be asked.
Nowhere does anon suggest that s/he thinks that doing drugs is not sketchy, or that dealing drugs in general need be sketchy. She identifies an individual as a drug dealer and as sketchy. They may be unrelated.
I'm pretty sure that Anon's disapointment lies in discovering that the person she was interested in hangs with a sketchy person that she no longer wants to associate with. That's a part of the past he/she doesn't want in his/her present. How does that make Anon a hypocrite?
What's wrong with this person staying away from this guy? She's not claiming to be an angel and she has no commitment to the drug dealer's friend.
If she had a drug problem that she kicked, it is just as well to stay away from that scene.
And if this is about the dealer being a jerk, guilt by association is perfectly valid too, especially when you hardly know someone. If a girl is interested in me and her friends, either male or female are rude to me in her presense and she puts up with it, I write her off immediately. Either she has no more manners than her friends, in which case she many not even recognize how obmoxious the behaviour is, or else that is her way of participating in the insult. Dealbreaker.
I'm guessing she used to fuck the dealer for drugs, so now she's all embarassed that she's seeing him again. because, as we all know, all IA girls are dumb whores who choose to sleep with douchebag assholes then talk shit cuz they regret being stupid. at least, that's what i've gathered from reading the comments on most of these posts.
What? Dumb. There's nothing wrong with drug dealers.. there's something wrong with sketchy people... and there's something wrong with the guy who wrote this.
How people can ride on their high horse after spending so much time being pissed on while crawling underneith it is beyond me. It is only in movies and bad novels that crawling through hell builds a better person, I guess. Judge not lest ye be judged.
No. 19 rocks yeah that's more likely it's embarassment! If you suck fuck your dealer in a small town it can have a deleterious effect on your future datability in said small town thank goodness for big cities and anonimity!
@4- If she stopped doing drugs and cleaned up her act, she probably doesn't want to date guys who hang out with obnoxious and sketchy drug dealers. Yes, guilt by association. And as long as women still get to judge who they date, they get to base those judgments on whatever criteria they want. "Hangs out with drug dealers" seems like a valid reason to mark one off the list to me.
So you used to buy drugs from this guy and now what? You had a falling out? You're trying to quit?? Cause it sounds like you're just a hypocritical asshole.
Personally, I used to love my dealer. And I plan on loving him even more once I get a job. Fucking economy....
Or, do you somehow now know that the guy himself (the one you were interested in) is also sketchy and obnoxious? I'm lost.
Or, doing drugs purchased from a sketchy drug dealer is not sketchy, but being that sketchy drug dealer is, by definition, sketchy.
Hypocritical, much?
maybe he/she just doesn't want to take the chance of befriending an addict and falling off the wagon. seems reasonable to me. i'd say staying clean is more important than making a new friend.
If she had a drug problem that she kicked, it is just as well to stay away from that scene.
And if this is about the dealer being a jerk, guilt by association is perfectly valid too, especially when you hardly know someone. If a girl is interested in me and her friends, either male or female are rude to me in her presense and she puts up with it, I write her off immediately. Either she has no more manners than her friends, in which case she many not even recognize how obmoxious the behaviour is, or else that is her way of participating in the insult. Dealbreaker.
And what are you? A drug user...most of whom are deluded, fucked up assholes. Go look in the mirror.
Personally, I used to love my dealer. And I plan on loving him even more once I get a job. Fucking economy....