He who pays the piper picks the tune.

I guess I have not been to too many weddings, but is "Baby Got Back" really that popular?

I think women get brainwashed into thinking "this is MY special day and I need to control every single detail" and ironically have a much less enjoyable day than if they just chilled out and let things flow.

I learned a lot from watching my control freak bridezilla friends collapse into blubbering messes because someone played a song they didn't approve of or whatever. On my wedding day I let the bridesmaids decide on their dresses (and they picked something beautiful, flattering and affordable!), let the guests eat and drink as much as they wanted and request whatever music they wanted, and we all just got loose and had an AWESOME time. And the band, DJ and hotel staff said it was the best wedding they'd ever seen!

I really want to tell you is "This is just your first wedding!" and next week I could get your husband to cheat on you if I wanted.

Wow. Well. Professional.

Any-hoo ... Obviously, most weddings suffer from a distinct lack of copious quantities of, yes, get ready, huge piles of COCAINE and 10 to 15 cases of MALT LIQUOR. I prefer St, Ides.

And rafferty, would you kindly shut the fuck up?

@3: They always say that. They're keeping the illusion alive.

This is the best I Anon I've read in forever. I agree completely. I also recently went to a great wedding that had kids of all ages, and while lamentably, Baby Got Back was not played I am 100% sure that it is not because the bride banned it. People stayed late, drank, ate, danced, and had fun!

On the one hand, I don't want an over-planned wedding where every detail is obsessed over. On the other hand, I can't defend the tacky "quirkiness" of playing sir mix-a-lot at every bland little wedding in history.

Solution: just have a good playlist on during the reception and don't waste hard-earned cash on a shitty, passive-aggressive DJ. Problem solved.

Ugh. This anon is horrible.

Anon, please stop being such an ignorant bitch.

Interestingly, I kind of want very little control and/or planning of my own wedding. I'd like to just say "No Jennifer Lopez allowed," pick out a dress, and just show up to an awesome day with friends and family and of course, best husband on the planet.

Planning stresses me out. Things turn out the best when you just relax.

As someone who worked in wedding catering for a long, long time: wedding DJs are the reason why I'm not getting a wedding DJ for my reception in January. Wedding DJs are all horrible people.

My Dj was awesome. DJ Booberry is her name, and she does the music for Rat City as well. We had a great time hanging out, and going through her music before the event, and on the day of she knocked it out of the park.

we made a playlist, arranged and recorded it all, and found a DJ willing to stick to it. we forbid any of the tired "get the crowd involved" antics that are so annoying, basically just said bring your gear, play these songs, and don't try any funny business. it went beautifully - and with the exception of playing one of the songs twice and fairly closely together, we had exactly the soundtrack we hoped we would have. and no, 'baby got back' wasn't on it.

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Yeah. I agree DJ Booberry is the BEST...

The going rate for 4 hours of wedding DJ'ing is $800 - $1000 (plus tip) in the Portland/Seattle area. If she doesn't want the money, why is she doing it? If she does want the money, she should accept that a good 50% is compensation for exactly what she's bitching about.

Nitpick: How is the bride supposed to relax while getting snark from the DJ? And why do you imagine seducing her new husband? Sounds pretty bitter to me -- I'm guessing Anon isn't married herself. (Not that marriage insulates one from bitterness, but this Anon sounds like she's bitter at the bride for getting a guy to marry her. People who feel like that shouldn't be in the wedding industry.)

i like this advice. when i got married, we chose a couple of songs to play at the start of the reception that meant a lot to us--for our bride/groom dance. we gave the DJ a whole mess of music that we liked and wanted him to play...and he didn't really play much of it and i didn't complain because everyone was having a great time, doing the "chicken dance" that i would have rejected out of hand, being too cool for that sort of thing. the dj knew what he was doing--he knows what people want to hear and he was right. yes, i had to listen to stuff i hated and do silly dances but i just relaxed and rolled with it -- had a great time, one of the best days of my life!!

i bet mr. herrimans wedding was a real tight-ass affair, pinkies in the air and all. oh, dear! we wouldn't want to get the crowd involved!! they might have fun!

They played "Sweet Home Alabama" at my wedding, and though I was clearly annoyed, it didn't ruin my day. The majority of my guests were on the dance floor, so it didn't really matter.

Weddings are a formality, not "the most important day of your life" and brides are usually way too busy schmoozin' to dictate every little detail. Play that dated generic shit, watch your drunken relatives have a blast, it's great.

That being said, I never want to be the bride again. Being a guest is much better.

Now I know why I hate weddings. Not enough brides are like #3, who should get married more often!