Columns Jul 29, 2015 at 4:00 am

To the People Who Raped Me

Steven Weissman

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I accept the narrative the artist portrays as being plausible and most likely...pronouns aside.

As the brother of a sister who is a rape survivor, I applaud Anonymous for her sentiments. Taking back your path, conquering your fears, finding stellar people to include in your life is winning.

ROCK ON SISTER.
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Aww I wanted to respond to the comment 1 but it was deleted. Truly the lamest attempt at trolling I've seen.
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The author seems like they have more enmity for the... partygoers[?] who encouraged her[?] to leave a party, and then didn't... escort her home[?] moreso than the actual raper[s].
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@5 I think the problem is that Anon was clearly Not Okay and these people either took advantage of it, or ignored it, and didn't do anything when the situation got bad.
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This is one of those IAnons where you think: Okay, the collective of spiteful morons (CSM) can’t POSSIBLY have something nasty to say to this person. Which I presume was immediately disproven, based on the fact that comments 1&2 have been removed.

Nevertheless, hurrah to IAnon for emerging from this. Not unscathed – but still whole after all.
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And once again, no personal responsibility for getting shit-faced at a party without thinking of the consequences? This is not the same as saying "she dressed that way, what did she expect", she consciously and willingly put herself in a questionable situation.

Now, all these facts are no excuse for rape. But we do have influence over our situation and the behaviors that put us in those situations.

Also, if the story is true, her friends are assholes.
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This is The Stranger I, Anonymous. So, it's most likely not true.
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@8 Consequences? Nothing we do justifies rape...whether it is running in a park, how we dress, or getting shit-faced at a party. We put ourselves in questionable situations every day just by being in contact with other people. Everyone should have a moral obligation to not harm others, to not force others against their will. Rape is a horrible crime that is never justified.
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@10 - Never said there were any justifications for rape. But there certainly behaviors that tend to leave people more susceptible for bad people to take advantage of you. Like getting shit-faced are sketchy parties with people you don't know very well.
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@8 Are you a teetotaler, or the one person who never had alcohol sneak up on them while in college, creating a greater drunk then was expected? Remember, while your buds may have made it there goal to sneak the amount you were actually drinking passed you, Arthur, they tried harder to do the same to women.
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@10, this is The Stranger I, Anonymous. Why are you assuming that it's true?
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@10 - NO ONE in this world has ANY moral obligation to anyone which is why terrible shit like this happens.

@8 - I know a girl who was raped after being the bridesmaid at her best friends wedding. She was around people she had known her entire life, had a LOT to drink at the reception and was basically passed out when the brides brother (childhood friend) took her home with him instead of to her parents house. He was the DD (aka COMPLETELY SOBER). She had no reason not to trust any of these people and it still happened. This girl filed charges the next day. The police began interviewing wedding goers and the bride cut off the friendship entirely...out of embarrassment! She actually told my friend that she had ruined her wedding day by getting the police involved. And this bride...is a lesbian who considers herself a feminist!

She could've never seen that coming, was the MOST undeserving of it and it hurt her deeply. She took full responsibility for getting drunk but that doesnt mean a FUCKING thing in some situations. Would it have happened if she stayed sober? Nope. He would've tried with a different drunk girl. Everyone should be on guard. Everyone should be cautious where and who theyre drunk around but sometimes, like Anon's story, people fucking betray you and theres nothing you can do about it.
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#14 I humbly disagree with your last sentence. In nearly all cases there IS always something you can do about it. It's really more of a question of one's willingness and motivation.
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@16 as my girl Snoop once said, "Deserve ain't got nothing to do with it"
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@17 Snoop? I thought Billy Munny (Clint Eastwood) said that in "Unforgiven."
https://youtu.be/dpDkYZWeeVg

In any event, a positive take from this I Anon is "Let's all try to be better friends for each other." Let's try not to let our friends drive home drunk...or get lured into vulnerable situations where awful things might happen etc.
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@8 Consequences? For whom?

I've been shit faced at parties probably a thousand times. I'VE NEVER BEEN RAPED. BECAUSE I'M A MAN.

You fucking idiot.
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@16 thought question - if you can't protect yourself, why would you expect anyone to not take advantage of you? You can say some civilized society crap, but that's all just an allusion: at the end of the day, we'll all just die and no one will care, or be around to care. It does strike me as odd that we basically accept animal testing, which involves forced breeding and then being tortured to death, but blanch at "rape". We're just animals, take what you want, get what you need, and die happy.
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@19
I've been shit faced at parties probably a thousand times. I'VE NEVER BEEN RAPED. BECAUSE I'M A MAN.

You fucking idiot.
Maybe you're just a BUTT-UGLY man... Moron.
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Wow all u snarky assholes have really outdone yourselves with this comment thread. If you can't sympathize with a rape victim (and fuck all this pedantic nonsense) then there's no hope for you in the dark slimy hole you are living in.

The Jews should have been less different from the rest of the Germans. Blacks should have run faster from slave dealers. Ray Rice's wife should have been more wary of his roid rage. SHE ASKED FOR IT- WHAT A WHORE.

Die.
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@23 if there's one thing i've learned about trusting people, it's not to trust people that drink too much
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Rapists are the dregs if humanity. But they do exist. And you knew they existed before your got blind drunk. Rapists are shitty, your friends are clearly shitty. And you paid a hard lesson for choices you made which left you vulnerable.
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Assuming there is an actual victim (two sides to every story), how do we know it was a victimgirl and not a guy?
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I can understand how IA feels, I didn't get flowers the next day either.

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