9 years later. What happened? I'm reading this because I'm in a similar situation. The only difference is that I've been dating a woman, 10 years older than me (im 28 shes 38), married when we first met who has since divorced him to be with me. We are two years into the relationship and I do love her to death, and at times DO still find her sexually appealing. However, Just as in NSP's scenario, I find myself looking at very attractive women closer to my age and wishing she could be my age. Face it. She's 10 years older than I am, and it shows. 25-28 year old women are just more attractive sexually. However ouside that I love my woman to death. Shes still very pretty. I just cant stop but lookin at younger women and wishing my woman was just younger looking. I've seen plenty of pictures when she WAS younger as well.

Thing is. I will not tell her. I simply just "am not in the mood" often... Even though in reality I am. But then on hte other hand theres tiems I look at her and am still like wow.

Shity situation to be in. I would never tell her though. And I do love her. So my options are to keep downplaying my drive, or to leave. And I dont like the second choice.

My long term thought is when we're both 60 or 70 and wrinkly, how attracive will we really find eachother any damn way.

Billybob,

10 years is not the end of the world if you truly love her and find her sexually attractive. If you do not, while I am apt to say end the relationship, I am more feeling that you should come clean and tell her your issues. She left her previous husband for you; surely you must have discussed the "what happens 20 years from now when i am 48 and you are 58?" If you were to end your relationship when WBB and NSP did, all is well and no harm done, but if you keep lying to her and then cut her loose, she has so much more to lose than you do.

If there is still some love and attraction, I would say muscle through it like the man you are, because I promise you, when you are 60 and 70, and have had a lifetime of happiness behind you, you aren't going to care that she is 10 years older and wrinkly. You will be wrinkly too (and most likely fat and bald... so at that point be thankful if she doesn't dump your ass for a younger model).

In any case, decide quickly because every day you lie to her about not being in the mood or lie about finding her attractive or lie about not wanting a 28 year old girlfriend/bride, you are LYING to your woman who you love so much. And no one deserves that.