Savage Love

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Wow, another fabulous column from Dr. Dan. I was planning to write an additional response of LIFE, when I saw Dan's response to CUNT. Absolutely perfect, Dan, keep 'em coming.

OK, while it's patently insane to respond seriously a column that ran over 5 years ago Dan's reply to LIFE could save lives. I was duped by a similar story. I was told how awful and crazy "he" was. Elaborate tales were spun and it wasn't until a long time after I rescued her that I realized that most of them weren't true. He may not have been perfect, and unfortunately for him, was often his own worst enemy, but he was far from the monster she made him out to be. I realized far too late that she was not an agel, but instead was the real monster.
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Yeah, some blog linked to this column and was all "Dan Savage hates battered women!" But seriously, he's keeping it real. This is good advice. He's taking a lot of shit for nothing.
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Let me be frank. THESE PEOPLE ARE COMING TO YOU FOR ADVICE BUT HONESTLY, YOU DID NOT ANSWER A SINGLE ONE OF THEIR QUESTIONS. YOU JUST BERATED THEM AND MADE THEM FEEL BAD ABOUT THEMSELVES.
The Martial Arts one especially sickened me, because I myself take Martial Arts in a lesser-known form called Youn Wha Ryu. I know of two schools within an hour of my house, one of which my father teaches at. That one is 45 minutes away. The other one is 5 minutes away.
Now, Mr. Savage, let's say that I'm working a job that doesn't pay a lot, but pays enough that I don't want to leave it. If there was a guy that I was attracted to in the school that was 5 minutes ago, OBVIOUSLY I should waste gas money by taking an hour and a half out of my day just to DRIVE to the second-nearest martial arts school. And, because my father's the sensai, I will be required to help the younger belts instead of training.
Yes, Dan Savage. That seems like exactly what I should do. Waste time and money to avoid seeing a guy I happen to be attracted to, because I obviously couldn't do anything but that, anything like telling my husband and working things out.

Second. It may be true that the girl was lying about the rape and the abuse, but if she wasn't, then you just completely killed any chances of that relationship, plus, assumed that women who are asking for help MUST be lying, to get attention.
Now, following that mentality, anybody who is cutting themselves and are asking for help are lying, anybody who might commit suicide is asking for attention, and anyone who comes out of the closet simply HAS to be a lying attention whore. That would make you, Dan Savage, a lying attention whore.

Also, I love how you responded to the post-suicide attempt question. You know, by making fun of them. What is it that It Gets Better does again? Oh, right, tries to prevent suicide.

And don't worry, this won't be the last time I call you on your bullshit. Take care, but please step down as an example for the LGBTQ community.