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800 Maynard Ave S, Suite 200, Seattle, WA 98134
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As for the laser hair removal, it's not exactly "painless" either, but definitely worth looking in to!
What about an electric razor? Many of them have sideburn trimmers which are pretty damn painless. You won't get as close or as smooth of a shave as you would with a blade or the "regular" part of an electric razor, but you should be able to get most if not all of of the hair off your balls.
Talking to someone you find attractive is hard because there's a lot on the line and one feels pressure to perform-- undue pressure. I think practice will make perfect here.
Sheesh!
What a dick.
Here's to his wife getting a clue and leaving him.
I use an epilator for most other places, but imagine getting one anywhere near all that loose skin would end in tears (of one sort or the other).
How do you bring up 'going there' when you walk into a waxing studio? Is there a tendency for male/female/gay/straight/whatever-demographic waxing technicians to prefer not to go there?
To the guy who wants hairless balls--just my humble opinion but perhaps you should learn to love what God gave you and leave your balls alone. Hairless balls look weird. Hairless balls on an otherwise very hairy guy look weird AND just plain silly.
I do agree that hairless balls + hairy everything else looks kinda weird. It was a very short step (for me) from that exact situation to "hey, maybe I should get rid of the rest of it too?"
I now stay as hair-free as possible from the shoulders down (except my arms), and love it.
Although I guess I will stand by the idea that men (and women) should leave their pubes alone unless it's just to trim them a bit. As a lady, personally I like hair down there on a guy. I think balls without hair are kind of sad and naked-looking. But to each her own, of course. It takes all kinds.
And so are, it seems, all your readers. Have you gotten so used to people admitting their kinks that you can't spot them on your own? Take off your sunglasses and see the truth: THIS MAN'S WIFE IS KINKY AS HELL!
She likes to kiss gay dudes, for whatever reason. She wants to flirt with other guys, and girls. Your advice should be to her - to tell her husband the truth. Or to him - go ask your wifey: If I was ok with you flirting with someone else, what would you do?
Kissing people isn't 'kinky as hell'
Wanting to roleplay 'Ass Goblins of Auschwitz' comes a bit closer to the definition...
Or talk a friend into doing it for you - totally hot.
Tried Nair twice. Once I didn't leave it on long enough and the hair stayed on. I tried it again 2 weeks later and the hair came off, but the skin was really painful for days afterward.
Tried Smooth Away. Didn't work.
So I just use the same Gillette Sensor Excel and shaving cream I use on my face. Lots of hot water, and take it slow. Helps to sit on the edge of the tub. Every once and a while I nick myself but it's not as bad as on my face, and it stops bleeding very quickly.
Not perfect, but the least-bad option, and if you like your GF to suck on your balls, you do what you gotta do.
so, go ahead and carefully shave away shave. creams like nair are like shaving but smell awful.
If you want a wax job, just google "brazilian for men" and your city. There a few upscale places here in Toronto that will do that kind of waxing. It stings, but it's not that bad with a good pro waxer.
And for the ladies that think it looks weird, maybe you are right, but skin on skin feels so good!
I don't have balls, but I think labia skin is similar to ball skin, though less stretchy?
Hairy balls aren't a deal breaker for me, unless they are more like FURRY balls.
LOST sounds a little egotistical. Get over yourself, then you can talk to the women you're attracted to.
As for MAD...he clearly hasn't read your other columns. Sucks getting all upset over nothing!
Treat the ones you like like the ones you don't like, and treat the ones you don't like like the ones you like.
Ridiculous? of course, but hey that's women for you.
Hairy balls in my mouth don't bother me. If the guy showers enough, all the loose hairs go down the shower drain instead of getting into my mouth. Balls with hair are kind of fuzzy and cute, balls without hair look like raw chicken parts or something. Or just little-kiddish. I would no more ask my guy to shave them than he would ask me to shave. He is also a hair appreciator. I trim, but mostly because I like the way it feels better. If I get lax about it he doesn't even notice. (Although it should be noted that I'm not a very hairy person at all.) Honestly, most guys that I've actually been with prefer some hair, except for one, who was kind of a douche. You, however, are at least even-handed. No gender double standard about grooming which I respect. :-P
A little BenGay probably wouldn't hurt anything, but be sure you don't overdo it, GBOF. People have died from BenGay overdoses. If you don't believe me, see:
http://www.scienceline.org/2007/08/13/as…
LOST, the sooner you stop seeing attractive women as another species you dare not approach, the better. Instead of trying to flirt with them, try befriending a few. You'll find out they have insecurities and flaws just like you do.
If that doesn't seem possible, find a good counselor who will help you develop your self-confidence and assertiveness. Being passive in bed is fine, but outside of bed, it's unlikely to help you find someone who's willing to indulge your fantasies! I'd save the BDSM meet-and-greets for when you've figured out how to be comfortable enough with yourself to go after what and whom you desire.
Take your time.
First, trim as much of the bush as will be taken off comfortably with a small pair of scissors. Then take a hot shower for at least ten minutes to soften the remaining stubble. When you are convinced that this is as soft as it likely will become, spread Noxema shaving cream for sensitive skin (the model in the red can), following the directions on the can before dispensing. Apply a thin coat of this cream to the area to be shaved; only a small area at one time. Begin shaving with a small safety razor ONLY, e.g., one of the inexpensive models by Gillette. All surfaces between the navel and the entire area between the buttocks can be shaved safely. But, be careful on scrotal skin, which is thinner and more sensitive than all other shaveable skin. As a further caution, be especially careful using scissors over scrotal skin. Don't try to clip large patches from that skin. In the interest of safety, take as much time as needed by clipping no more than one or two hairs at once.
Depending somewhat on the hair growth patterns of an individual person, all shaved areas will resume hair growth shortly after shaving. If one likes the look and feel of shaved surfaces then a commitment must be made to stay with this procedure because hair in this region may regrow with the rapidity of facial hair.
The first two or three shavings may yield an uncomfortable itch. Ask your local pharmacist - by phone in a distant neighborhood if this kind of subject might cause you unease in person - to recommend an OTC skin powder to relieve this condition. Or, perhaps better yet, live with the itch and notice if it diminishes over a short time. As with all medications, the fewer the better!
Good Luck!
I don't agree w/ Dan all of the time, but his hit-to-miss ration is pretty high (i.e. lots more hits compared to the few misses. imo.) PLUS the big factor is his simple practicality. He doesn't write to create a perfect world, just one that people can get along a little bit better.
And no, I have no connection to DS at all. I just can't stand those three biddies. Judith Martin (Miss Manners) is cool, I just wish she's bring her common-sense approach to the bedroom. But that's why I read SL.
A couple of things to keep in mind:
1 Your balls are saggy
Waxing an area with saggy skin, such as your balls, for example, could prove problematic, because it's probably going to be difficult to keep the skin taut. If the skin is not held perfectly taut the hair may be difficult to remove. In which case, you may have to go over the same area more than once (ouch!).
2 Typical methods of pain reduction are unlikely to work on your balls.
It would most likely be very difficult to make the experience any less painful. Typically, pain is staunched/reduced by slapping or compressing the area that has just been waxed. I don't have balls, but the way you guys are always adjusting your junk, I'm assuming that most of you would prefer not to have slapping or compression as a method of "pain reduction"- it would probably be counterproductive as pain management.
Another method is to work smaller patches of hair at a time to reduce pain, but in the case of your balls, where pain may be cumulative, that probably would only intensify the pain, because it would take so much longer to finish waxing your balls in such small patches.
In summary, a good clean balls waxing would require that your balls be pinched, tugged, slapped and compressed, all while your hair is being pulled from the root. Not for those with low pain tolerance, for sure. If anything, make sure your esthetician has a few years of experience under her belt and has waxed balls before.
Great question though. Since I've never done a balls waxing, I'm not actually sure what I would recommend instead. Threading or sugaring maybe? That tends to work best on sensitive skin. Maybe there are some esthies out there who have and can comment about the best way to remove balls hairs? I would like to know now, too.
Good luck cnuty ;)
I know that my guy prefers it when his balls are sucked (which can be done without deep-throating balls-deep), and I'm sure he's not the only guy that likes that. So I can understand if some ladies prefer the balls to be hairless in that case, though I'm completely fine with hair, so long as everything is clean.
Never had experience of either, but from what I've read on blogs, the female condom might suffice for safe sex, if not for her safety otherwise.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_condom
I've been removing hair down there for 35+ years. The Norelco BodyGroom is the best device ever invented for removing male genital hair- dick, balls and ass. If it nicks at all (rare) they are micro-nicks that seal up completely within 5 seconds. Mostly just easy, quick, clean and nick-free hair removal. At $40, less than half the price of a wax job and infinitely less humiliating.
I agree with the above the electric clippers are the best. You're not going to get totally smooth hairless balls (which on a grown man would look child like and thus strange) but you'll end up with a nice pair of trimmed "manscaped" balls.
Every other week, I clip my entire pubic and ass area with the smallest clipper guard i have and it looks neat, natural and most importantly age appropriate.
BTW: I have a small amount of back hair, mostly on my upper shoulder area, and i get that waxed once a month from my local gay hairdresser, $35 bucks for wax and a haircut - a great deal. But for the least expensive way, got to a beauty school, where they usually do waxing for less than $20.
As a matter of fact, i got a facial at a beauty school the other day for $30 and it was just as good as the $90 facials i get at the fancy gay spa i used to frequent. I'm sold on beauty schools.
A little off topic.... but for those guys on Propecia for hair loss, a friend of mine clued me into that the active ingredient in Propecia is called Finasteride. You can buy Finasteride marketed as Proscar at 5th of what you're paying for Propecia - Propecia is just a marketing name. Go with Proscar 5mg, cut it into 4 pieces and take one piece a day. Talk to your doctor.
PS: Men never get your ass waxed, did it once and got ingrown hair because I sit on my ass all day at work and the hairs just got all gross and ingrown, it two about weeks to get back to normal. Again, clippers with the smallest guard.
Beauty schools are a great bargain.
CNUTY,
If you're a devoted DIY-er and don't want to visit a professional, you can prune the hedges with a beard trimmer.
The key is to exfoliate (not just for girls anymore!) and moisturize (ditto!). Get yourself a loofah/shower sponge/whatever and an exfoliating shower scrub, and go to town regularly. Over-exfoliating can lead to drying which causes wrinkles, so moisturize afterwards.
Personally the idea of stubble growing in down there makes me cringe. And I don't even have balls. Don't know why men do it. Think of the chafing!
Visualize yourself talking to a woman you think is hot. Get as detailed as you can. Now, imagine the situation with the worst possible (but stay realistic) outcome. Describe to yourself your reactions and how it makes you feel (it might help to write this down). Now let go of that scenario and start over, but this time imagine the best possible outcome. Again, describe how it makes you feel.
Imagining the worst outcome will help you realize that it probably isn't as bad as you fear it might be. It will also give you some experience with feeling rejected so when it does happen (and if you put yourself out there's a good chance it will) you are better equipped to handle those feelings.
Other than that, like with anything else, the more practice you get, the easier it will become.
http://www.latimes.com/news/nation-and-w…
In the year 2010, you can easily find either a swingers club or a swingers group that contains enough available men (no guarantees on their marital status, mind) to make your fantasy a reality. In fact, almost every major city in America *seems* to have at least one club or group that allows for that type of scenario. And if you can't find a club that allows single men to visit (or preferably to join, as single males members {heh} are scrutinized {heh, heh} with more diligence than the average swinger couple), visit any club/group as a single female and watch in amazement as all but the most jaded patrons bow at your feet and suddenly "remember" that they "Once knew this guy who seemed really cool even though he wasn't bringing anything to the table by the way what are you doing on Saturday? No, *after* you get banged... We have a hot tub." Meet a few couples at the club, get a few references, ask the owner of manager about setting something up on an available weeknight, and you'll be knee-deep in cocks in no time.
I can't believe that I just used the words "members" and "scrutinized" in the same sentence.
Test it in a different area than your balls before you use it!
@53: The confusion is that "Dear Prudie" became a different person some time in 2007. Now it's Emily Yoffe, whose advice I like a lot, and who seems to be insightful and broadminded and kind of hip. Before it was Margo Howard, the daughter of "Dear Abby", whose advice was old-school and exactly the kind Dan does not give or approve of. She now has her own separate "Dear Margo" franchise.
OTOH, I think that people who are really attractive in a conventional way ARE different, a lot of the time. The world sure as hell will treat you differently if you're super-good-looking (or super-ugly), and that changes the kind of person you are.
So #9's claim that "our physicality [doesn't say] anything about our personalities" is actually total bullshit, because almost everyone I know who's gorgeous has expectations that are at least partly predicated on the doors they can open, and the attention they get, because of their looks. It's like being born into a wealthy family: if you're not, you have to earn a lot of things that come more easily to those who are.
Remember kids: cheating is defined by your partner, not you. If you don't like your partner's definition, get a different one.
Don't feel to annoyed with MAD's email. There are a lot of people out there that like to use the word mysandrist. I once had to TA a class about domestic violence and sexual abuse. The prof did not even take on a patriarchal perspective; she talked about abuse as a relationship issue, yet she was called a mysandrist. This one kid kept calling her a mysandrist, becaus according to him, she spent too much time talking about homicide and aggravated assault, and not enough time on "other forms of domestic violence". I agree with creezy, people that view themselves as victims are annoying.
Thanks for consistently going to bat for Guys (and Ladies) everywhere. The 'misandry' comment was a total joke.
Don't let the haters get you down.
Geez. Some people see misandry everywhere. And this is part of the problem. The 'misandry' people are turning into no-balls male versions of the extreme 'misogyny' people: both want to see big outrageous offenses everywhere. Rather than concentrating on real problems, they will... blather on about Dan's advice to a guy whose wife kissed someone else two years before they were married. Wow, way to go guys. Soon you'll make yourselves as ridiculous as the radical feminists.
Actually, cross out the 'soon' in the previous sentence.
The only I thing I can do is trim, very carefully, with little scissors -- which is a tricky, pokey proposition, and shave with a 3 blade Gillette the peripheral and douse it in rubbing alcohol to keep the bumps down.
Additionally, I shampoo and condition my pubes, because I figure if I have to have an unstylish coif, it might as well be pretty and soft.
But a short trim will give you all the benefits of shaving, with none of the disasterous side effects.
Been there, done that.