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It's a shame UAR isn't smart enough to come up with something new. Poor dear.
I don't think Fan is saying she's against a bit of rough , Late.. She just didn't go for the hair pulling.
Not sure the gang is really for being chucked around, are they? Just, you know, a strong hard man being dominant. It's fun.
Oh the insecurity. It's what you do, as a baby does for a titty.
Now she just needs to end the relationship. If instead she chooses to string the boyfriend along in order to have her cake and eat it, too, then she's an asshole.
Dammit! That's the second rule too!
@214: Outrage? No. The endless stream of desperate efforts to find something--anything--that the boyfriend had done wrong, though? Those eventually got on my last nerve, because it's so fucking tedious.
You really have some bizarrely regressive gender roles rotted into your brain.
@202: No clue, E never has much to work with but ranting about how women all [do some thing] and how he feels men are taken upon with slings and arrows. It's all one big pity party that erupts into these outbursts.
Another school shooting over there. Jesus.
A pro life campainer, who was denied a visa to Oz, somehow got to Melbourne airport. He's put a challenge to the high court today, so he can stay and get Aussies to join him in his bullshit.
Don't do it High Court.
I won't convince you so whatever. No wonder Dan can't ever get the number of commentators like Carolyn Hax or Prudie. My words are there for every one else to read. Not a surprise you are the only one among man or woman who think its an attack on men.
Shared resources can be a problem.
If your wife holds you out sexually for nearly a month at a time, she might as well say, that that part of your life together is over.
It's not over for you though, and you in your early 60s, yes? The new 10.
They are called Trolls, and it's best to ignore them.
As you type, does not do the trick.
For anyone interested. Note it's upsetting as a parent.
Horse.
As futurecat said @233 “There's a pipe full of pot for every lad.”
Where’s Ricardo when you need him?
Yes well CMD.. Things did go South, no doubt about that.
Well... for an update, ol' Griz is on a VA quest. After struggling to find steady, reliably sustainable employment and THINKING I was completely over the trauma of surviving a bad relationship coming up on fourteen years post-divorce, I have found out that I may have a service-connected disability which would help me with PTSD counseling, veterans education, and rehabilitation services. It's largely down to my getting any or at least two of my three older sibs to write a supportive paragraph in support of my claim of my marriage during my active service years way back when. Unfortunately, both my mom and dad have joined either above---otherwise, my dad would probably burst out"Where the !@#$ do I sign?!?" Hopefully I have my brother's and sisters' support on corroboration. Stay tuned.
Musically, I am finishing up the second of four short pieces for flute choir and piano, making computer entries for the first of three movements of my second symphony in loving memory of my beloved parents, reflecting back on when they first met when dad was a young U.S. sailor.
I'm on the flutist list for orchestra in the musicals at our local volunteer theater, and hope to be in Anything Goes next spring. Slowly but surely, my theory tutoring is picking up. I have a prospect to hopefully meet with next week--just a week into Fall Quarter!
Oh well, you're not the first to tell me my game a joke.
P.S. Nobody on this thing makes me laugh more than Lava. If it's an Australian thing, I have a new fondness for Australia.
I'm sure your sibs will help, surely?
The Sharks have been causing havoc on NSW Nth Coast.
Not such a problem in Qld, as we
have nets and drum lines. It is causing much hand wringing down south, because they don't want to put nets in..
lots of greenies on NSW Nth Coast.
Would love to hear your music.
bring it! haha
How I hate it.
Thanks Future. At my age, you gotta laugh loud and often Or..
God damn it's hard. Bits start to stop working. The memory goes..
Try it baby.
It will be interesting what further develops from my VA appointment downtown after today.
More on that soon. I emailed rather than phoned my three sibs; that seems to ensure a more timely response from them. We'll see.
See you on another thread.
Btw, you can stop apologizing for making lots of posts. It's fine. The more the merrier.
I didn't know a vast majority need the power kink. That's news to me. Put me on team Subtle Domination and then let me play the outfield, infield, catcher, make me the pinch hitter, mid it up, just don't make me play on one side all the time.
I love all you guys/gals. I already miss Ricardo.
It doesn't really matter if TMI's boyfriend has been sleeping around. The quote that Eud has been emphasizing make it pretty clear that TMI considered the relationship monogamous and told the other guy. She cheated and knows it. Her boyfriend might have cheated, but that's beside the point.
By the way ... interesting discussion about how explicit you need to be. I never had the discussion, but an understanding would develop that the relationship had become monogamous. If this was not the case, then someone had to say something.
EOD Farewell Edition
While I suspect Lava hired Dr. Aisabu to ensure this pretentious piece of bowel movement disappears from this site, there may be at least two additional reasons:
1. Kids are back in school and their sexually frustrated parents have more free time on their hands. Sensible parents spend their quality time fucking people they’re not married to, masturbating, writing here, or any combination of the above.
Either way, there are far too many comments to follow and it’s an EOD editorial policy that once you get selective you can no longer claim to be an I. F. Stone fan.
Philo is into some heavy-duty wiki nowadays
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I._F._Ston…
2. All of us in the newsroom enjoy the challenges we are facing, not to mention our super-supportive, hyper-accommodating, omg I swear so open-minded, totally non-judgmental, certified-organic so so wonderful comrades.
Alas, that late night shift often drains our energy, influencing our ability and desire to masturbate just before bedtime. It’s not good for us.
Speaking of healthy…
Lava and
BiDanFan
Please give me a color and/or style/s for this week. Please……
But... "I told him I couldn't, and he knew why"
could mean the second guy kissed her... and she simply said "i can't do this"... and THAT'S IT.
For me (if i were in the exact same situation as her)... telling a second girl "i can't" might have meant many things. 1. even though i am not exclusive with the girl i am seeing... i know that fucking you will destroy that budding relationship, and i dont want that. 2. i don't want to sleep with you, but i am using the girl i am seeing as the excuse. 3. I can't, i'm in a committed relationship 4. i wasn't expecting this, so i am rebuffing you for now.
MrE can quote these letters to his heart's content. That doesn't make the content so black and white. There isn't much there. And just because she FEELS guilty doesn't mean she really is guilty. (my vote is that she IS... hahaha... i am just being a contrarian because i don't like absolutes)
And if you don't agree with someone, especially if you and someone have already figured that out six months ago, then there's really no need to repeat the same annoying arguments over and over and over and over week after week.
Fair enough. Reason 2 seems far fetched in light of what happened later. I will give you 1 and 4 though.
A bit of uncertainty in one's conclusions is always a good thing.
That said, I cannot pretend that I am civil in all cases (I'm being rather uncivil on the SLLOTD thread right now - perhaps because I haven't smoked the peace pipe since Saturday), but yeah, I try to avoid repetitive arguments.
@ 279 - I also really got to say that you have the best handle ever.
It was still a good one.
LW2: Stringing some poor girl who wants monogamy along while you do whatever you want while plotting to break up with her? Asshole. Let her go so that you can both find the relationships you want.
LW3: Pretending to be monogamous with a guy while you help raise his child and then screwing around, potentially hurting not only the relationship but the child by destabilizing an important part of her life? Double asshole. Monogamy is not natural for most people, it's a choice that they make despite temptation (that's why it's called "commitment"). If you believe you can't choose monogamy, let the bf know and find a way to gracefully depart the relationship in a way that softens the blow to his kid. Anything less would be asshole three times over.
Amazing you wear stockings, and your breasts to bed. No stockings for yrs and yrs , I was partial to net ones.
Let's see.. it's all about comfort, colours.. How about lilac. Difficult colour, so has to be a sort of blended in with other subdued colours. Just not sure what.
When I do my paintings, I mix all sorts of colours side by side.. Maybe I'm the clueless one here.
Sorry to hear your daily updates are defunct.
A continuum I'm guessing from mild Dominance, to super duper Dominance.
Sean did pass it thru the net up thread, the man needs to find out what the woman wants.. And I'll add, vice versa.
Some women like a man to occassionally just go for his desire and not focus on her needs. A man's strong desire is very charged and unimpeded by him stopping to check on his partners bits to satisfy, it's a clear and dangerous force.
Assuming we are talking a loving couple here, then the woman can trust the man won't hurt her.
It's just a buzz to experience that, as a woman, sometimes.
I assumed she knows he is poly.
She is choosing to be monogamous with him.
@245: I characterise my foreign policy strategy towards our friend Eud as "Please don't feed the troll." He can make quite a bit of sense sometimes, but has a REALLY big red button when there is any hint of a man not receiving the 100% physical and mental fidelity Eud believes men are entitled to. I've realised he won't ever be reasonable when the topic is broached, so I take the strategy of putting my point across and moving on. Is that "going Ricardo"?
@273: I see Lava has already suggested lilac, a colour I also like. Spring colour, from down under? Pretty bows go with lilac, maybe some stockings with bows at the back. And black patent shoes to offset it perhaps?
It's Friday in my part of the world... Ricardo, pass me the peace pipe? :)
When I read the letters to Dan, indeed when I read almost anything from a novel to a news article, I picture the scenario in my head. Sometimes this is easy. Sometimes I have to put more effort into understanding what's going on. Since no description can include absolutely everything, I fill in gaps. So when a LW uses a term like "dating", I think of what dating my entail. From all the possibilities, I fill in what dating might look like in this instance. Sometimes something in a letter won't compute. For a rough example, if one paragraph describes a character in a red fitted dress, and if the next paragraph describes that same character in a gold bomber jacket, I'm going to reread to see if I've missed a change of clothes. I might also assume the character was female initially, then, especially with Savage Love, go back and wonder if I can picture the character as male.
In this week's letter, I pictured a woman (with limp straight dark hair) with a boyfriend (kind of skinny) who went off to have sex with another man (with broader shoulders). Then I switched it up in my mind and tried to picture all 3 characters as gay. The picture didn't gel. I was unable to put any identifying features on any of them. I wasn't able to fill in gaps. I couldn't imagine how it would work. I had no imagination for what the initial dates had looked like or what any of them had said to each other. I drew a blank.
That's the best explanation I can come up with for my initial statement. Like I said, I know it's inadequate. It is the best I can do.
BDF @ 292
Lava- Breasts to bed oh yes, stockings hell no.
I love layering, and as a woman there are so many more colorful options. I have a cute short lilac cmi tap pants satin set with white lace trim that will go well under some of my outer wear. Also have bra and panties to match. Stay tuned.
BiDanFan- Looks like you're into the girly type. Fine, I will gladly wear at home all the bows and black patent high heels you tell me to. But when we go out I'm a respected lady and also dresses up that way.
Not to butt in Lava but I must throw in my 2 cents:.. have this mental image of Mx Wanna in an orange-ey burnt sienna satin. It is spring down there in Oz but fall in the U.S., Also, stockings (with the seams up the back) and shiny black patent leather heels.
Really? How so?
Lava @204: Yes, I was serious about LIAR finding herself a man with a cuckold fetish. Would seem to be the perfect match. (For future reference, when not being serious, I will try to include a winkyface icon.)
Ayn @194: You really, uh, nailed it. :)
Lava @207: Actually, I am saying that I'm against a bit of rough. Do not pull my hair, do not spank me, do not shove my head down when I am sucking your cock, do not "throw me around", do not call me a dirty slut. If those things are to be done, I will be the one to do them. Not all of us prefer men ranging from sort of dominant to very dominant. I prefer a range of submissive to equal.
What are you talking about Late.
I just don't see where you are having a problem understanding what I'm talking about.
Or why you need to mock it. Is that what you're doing? It doesn't have to be an artificial performance, by anyone.
The man has the apparatus to dominate a woman, you see that? So, just use it. Not in some offensive way..
A woman may also run the fuck.
Her desire can push it along. Her desire just doesn't have a penis attached to it.
In my experience it’s largely about pacing. If I’m having sex with a guy who has a long refractory period, I’ll generally let him set the pace. If he hasn’t decided to come yet but I’m ready for him to come, I’ll take over at that point.
If I’m having sex with a guy who doesn’t come because he’s on SSRIs, or who has a short refractory period, pacing is less of an issue and we switch it up a lot more.