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And dump the girlfriend too. I'm thinking the cheating and "confession" were intentional, and she's pissed the plan spectacularly backfired. Either she wanted to break up with you but lacked the thatchers to do it, or she wanted to make you jealous for some stupid reason. Either way, dump her ass.
And piss off the bud as well.
Wrong proves that despite some stereotypes the bro code is an ethical one (mmmā¦ me standing up for manhood...)
If he feels it's worth his while, he can explain her stupidity to her before breaking up. "So, what you are saying is that you want me to be miserable in this relationship -- not miserable enough to dump you, but juuuuuuusssst miserable enough to please you -- while you fuck around on me. Sounds toxic; I'll pass. Door's that way."
Start small and work your way up to larger diameters. In fact, get a set of butt plugs that have a variety of increasing diameters. Lotsa lube. Go slow. Silicone only. No sharing. Clean up after each use.
Also, Wronged should freak out the bud by simply asking him "So when is it my turn?"
I'm kind of laughing at TWP's soon-to-be-former girlfriend. She didn't have the cojones to break up with him, because she didn't want him to be able to claim victim status. So she intentionally does something she figures will definitely result in a DTMFA, and not only does TWP not DTMFA, he thinks it's hot and wants to join in. Hah! Serves little miss drama queen right! :)
LIARS should ask her lover to ask for an open relationship. IMO, an affair is only permissible if this option has been requested and rejected -- the partner is stuck in the "you can't fuck me, but you can't fuck other people either" bind.
Having had some experience with women, My take is that there is a good chance GF wants to get between her BF and his Buddy, and have LOTS of drama along the way. DTMFA, and re-evaluate his friendship with the buddy.
RE: LIARS
This arrangement is fine now,... but if Mom starts to feel neglected or resentful, she has all the power in this relationship. Her lover, with his wife and disabled son has placed himself in a very vulnerable position.
While I agree with Dan's advice, the situation is fraught with peril for the Husband. On the "Plus" side, the very knowledge of this peril injects (sorry) more adrenalin and excitement into what is already a pretty heady experience for these two. Ah, Youth.
Person A: "I just met your new boyfriend--he seems like a nice guy."
Person B: "Yeah, he's a real cuntlicker. Did I tell you that he bought me flowers and changed the oil in my car last Thursday?"
Person B: He's a keeper!
How about, "Yeah, he's a total pussyface! Did I tell you that he bought me flowers and changed the oil in my car last Thursday?"
The epithet is "goat-fucker." Freely using "goat-fucker" as a synonym for "muslim" is what got Theo Van Gogh assassinated. Go for it.
Does author Stephen King know of the urologist by the same name?
BUTT: I recommend starting with a very small cock. Do you have any kid brothers?
TWP: By failing to fly into a jealous rage and start a fist-fight with your friend, you're putting your own selfish needs ahead of your girlfriend's self-esteem.
CLIT: Why would you strip cock sucking of its transgressiveness? Or swearing, for that matter. Do you hate fun? "Kochbrother" sounds like something Ned Flanders would say.
LIAR: Follow your heart.
Kochbrothers, the Santorum for 2016. Ugh. Agreed.
Happy Thanksgiving, Dan and everybody, with big warm wishes from Griz and VW beeps!
LavaGirl--hope the heat wave in Queensland isn't too unbearable--have a favorite cool drink for me! This reminds me--I need to pick up a DVD of "The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert"--Terrence Stamp rocks as Bernice, along with Hugo Weaving and Guy Pierce!
Didn't the Oscar-winning costume designer for Priscilla show up for the Oscars in a gown made entirely of American Express Gold cards? Momma Mia!
Back to Fresh Air and Thanksgiving Week.
Happy Yankee Thanksgiving.
Just to help in future setups you might seek/arrange, once you're free of your current drama queen: use "MFM" instead, because it separates the two males with a female in the middle: exactly the setup you're looking for, if you're not interested in other dudes. (MMF implies a bisexual guy in the group.)
Even you Sean, despite that below the belt little brother line.
Watch " Snowtown" and you'll see why.
Enjoy your once a year special day.
Erica @21: I missed that too, unless it's subtly hidden in the "the only thing they have in common is caring for their adult child." And agree that you really need to specify that someone isn't getting sex in the marriage before you can justify getting sex, dishonestly, outside of it.
This is quite serendipitous, as I just happened to wander over here as I was planning a reply to someone about something totally different, and here you are going into differentiating terminology. Just the person to consult.
Consider, if you would, an activity with a performer and a receiver in which participants of noteworthy enthusiasm might be deemed a pig and a hound, respectively. You'll recall perhaps my objections to Mr Savage's generalizing such terms in describing All Men. I've been reasonably satisfied with deeming the performer a fiend instead of a pig, but am less satisfied with freak as a substitution for hound. You seem just the person to ask (although suggestions from others are also welcome).
Theo Van Gogh used 'goat-fucker' for Islamists because some jumped up 'authority' in Iran, perhaps Khomeini himself, issued a serious fatwa about the Correct, Islamic, way to practice bestiality with ruminants.
My boys are not homophobic, one of them did a positive gay video in his film class at school.
It's their way, I sense, of dealing with their homoerotic impulses.
I talk with them about how to treat women emotionally, only. The rest is their business, and they keep it their business.
Women , in my experience, never much joke that each of them are Lesbian or not. Men seem to have a different relationship to their homoeroticism.
Men touch themselves all the time, yet have this freak out about touching other men.
The charged energy is their attraction. Not sure why they can't just sit back and let the impulse flow thru them. Don't have to act on it, if it's not strong enough. Blocking it's flow is where the vengeance comes from, when people use cocksucker as a derogatory term.
Iād argue that āpigā is a gender-blind word. Quite a few menās attributes are also associated with it. You may even remember the famous tennis match.
Hunter @ 47
It's not only about "competition." Some men who are accustomed to "patriarchy" of some sort may view gays and trans women as worthless since they willingly "gave up" their manly rights. This may also stem from fear that this creeping "feminism" will eventually be the norm.
And lets not forget all those Houston men who recently got dresses for themselves, anticipating an ordinance that would allow them to use the womenās restrooms. They are indeed cleaner, yet the lines are way longer.
Not saying you are one of them- I mean the patriarchs, donāt know about the dresses- just used some local jargon to illustrate a point.
She was having stomach pains , I innocently asked if she could be pregnant. Were they covered with contraception.
She told him and he let me know to butt out.
I do try to avoid situations involving raging testosterone whenever I can. I don't expect a medal, but heaven knows I have endured enough macho bullshit for a lifetime after one four year enlistment in the U.S. military and a bad marriage.
I just kept out of their sexualities.
Theo van Gogh's murderer has explicitly said that Van Gogh had to die because of insulting the prophet, not because of calling radical muslims "goatfuckers". (@43 has the origin of that particular insult.)
The last time I used it was to cheer on the woman giving me a blowjob.
As a word, I like to hear it. It connotes male subversion in a way. Yes women do it, that's not who usually get called cocksuckers.
Even those who use it in rage, are contributing to generating an image.
When cunt is used as a derogatory word, there's no action involved. Which is what nocute pointed out above.
When I see that word, which is the main place I know of it, except when my sons playing , and sometimes on movies, it generates a loving/ erotic image to me.
Yes it is used to denigrate people, it can only be taken that way if the person feels denigrated.
If cuntlicking was used as a derogatory word, I'd be less offended than I am by just cunt.
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I also have two new awards when I was only looking for one. The first is an Orwell Award, but I don't know who exactly deserves it. I've encountered the idea that the concept of gendre equality's being for everyone is misogynistic because women are so systemically disadvantaged. I've not had time to consider the degree of accuracy in the claim, but it's so worthy of the Ministry of Love (or should that be the Ministry of Peace?). But I've yet to hear it attributed.
My other new Award (I really need a catalogue) I'm calling the Wilkinson and bestowing it on a young woman who doesn't post here. She is a conservative Christian who has learned the trick on which the award is based, speaking the truth about herself often enough and in a sufficiently silly way that nobody believes it. Recently, for instance, in a conversation with a young Englishman, she made a point of repeating several times how disgusting it was that health care was a right in his country. She also has the shrewdness to surround herself with pro-gay or gay-neutral people who just like dropping F-bombs, with the end result being that they completely cloak her genuinely anti-gay positions unless one goes digging for them.
I've never felt disadvantaged Venn, even though I know I am. Or rather, I found ways to play the system as best I could, given the conditions. Guerrilla warfare in some ways, one still needed to be a little subtle.
I never wanted to alienate men. And they didn't invent the system, they just inherited it.
Also being a woman has much going for it, the adventures our bodies can take us on.
After that I took my own turning, because my womb reminded me of this other direction.
The whole bitch goddess success seemed like a burden to me about men. So constricting of one's creative flow.
And I never wanted to mow lawns.
As far as merit: the cabinet members in question have serious bona fides and are probably as qualified from an education, experience, conviction and integrity angle as anyone else. What determines merit in a job that involves mostly shmoozing, talking, negotiating and knowing people anyway? It seems to me political success is determined as much by who you are and who you know as what you can do. That's a pretty fuzzy area, and it seems to me life experience as a woman in a country that is half female is just as valid a qualification as, say, an understanding of macro economics (not suggesting the two are exclusive).
But "cocksucker" generally refers to an abusive, arrogant, real selfish jerk of a man, and I think that the shift is fascinating.
In any case, her not running for president isn't about courage. If "courage" is what you meant by "balls." Because obviously she doesn't have testicles.
Isn't it more like the observation that some men who take an active interest in problems of gender inequality do so only when, and because, they are being disadvantaged due to their gender -- such as in a custody dispute -- and want to fix those disparities first, while women, as usual, wait their turn to have their disadvantages redressed?
Perhaps she should take a lover.
I think your side has a better case than the people pushing it are presenting. There's far too much zero-summing here from both teams. I was telling an MRA yesterday that he gave the impression of preferring that everyone be pushed two steps backwards instead of advancing three steps himself if that also meant feminists advanced one.
Perhaps she already has.
@56 Hunter: I still consider my sisters the real life equivalent of Drizilla and Anastacia (or, for Roald Dahl fans, Spiker and Sponge--or, for Matt Groening fans, Patty and Selma). They are who and how they are--bossy, controlling, manipulative, immature, clingy, overly demanding, and jealously possessive. I don't need that insane level of bullshit in my life, and I'll never be close to them. I doubt you'd want to do lunch with either of them.
When it comes to advice, however, I will always ask my brother. He has been known to use common sense most consistently among my older sibs. Ironically, my brother lives the furthest away. Time, space, and distance seem to have helped a lot over the past two years. My parents, like all of us, had their shortcomings, too, but were still for the most part very loving, giving and supportive.
To be honest, I think distancing myself was important. My sibs and I are coping in our own individual ways with the loss of our beloved parents.
She could bring the banksters on Wall Street to their knees. I wouldn't mind seeing that.
Something tells me he is secretly and silently cheering about this newfound wisdom of my 6 Degrees of Separation, and following Big Brother's lead by primarily emailing, rather than try to communicate over long distance with two self-appointed drama queens, cackling like chickens, forever squabbling over who rules the roost.
Hopefully, my sisters haven't formed the weird idea that since they (along with my brother) wrote letters in support of my recent VA PTSD Disability claim that I'm suddenly to be forever in their debt. I wouldn't be surprised---they're that ridiculous. Meanwhile, no news is good news from them.
Okay-----back to this week's Savage Love: Fresh Air and Thanksgiving Weekend, and back to computer work on Finale 2007 and 2011 and GF pumpkin cheesecake--for Griz.
Happy Leftovers, everyone! Go, UW Huskies in the Apple Cup!
Way back when, before oral sex was standard (say, your grandpa's generation) a man married his high school sweetheart. On thier wedding night, he asked his new bride to "kiss it." She said "oh, no, Henry, if I do that you'll never respect me." He didn't press her. But over the years, every so often, he'd ask her: "sweetheart, won't you please give it a little kiss?" "Oh, honey I know what they say about women who do that, you'd never respect me again." So he went without. Time passed - thier children were born, grew up into fine people, they had grandchildren, and they were so happy together.... But Hemry couldn't stop wishing for that one thing. When they celebrated thier fiftieth wedding anniversary, he asked again. "Darling," he says, " you are my wife, the love of my life, the mother of my children and the grandmother of
My grandchildren. By now you surely know how much I love and respect you. Won't you please give
Me this one thing I've always wanted?" She says "well, dear, I guess you're right. I adore you and after all these years you deserve it." So she goes down and
Puts her mouth on him and does the best she can to give him what he's always wanted. He enjoys it greatly, he orgasms, and when he's done he starts to pull her up and hug her. Just them the phone rings. Henry picks it up, listens briefly, then holds it out towards his wife and says "it's for you, cocksucker."
It wasn't overwhelmingly expected by young men when I was a young woman.
How times change.
https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=116…
Have you observed any fascinating shift in ābeing a dick?ā
BDF- congrats on the avatar. Visually interesting, any story behind that umbrella?
Chairman @ 104
I guess that video may be part of a new, socially accepted meaning of ābeing a dick.ā
Iām heading to Walgreen right now!
@94: Ugh.
@99: The answer is obviously No.
Note also Lenny Bruceās conviction in 1964 for saying ācocksuckerā and sentence to four months in a workhouse.
1964---the last boom year--wow! I'm among the last of the Boomers.
I recite all of the forbidden words as a sort of mantra whenever I'm assembling Ikea furniture.