Wow this totally blows me away. I am having a masectomy in 4 days nd I have been so upset, terrified and despondent over how I will look all sliced and diced. I have a stage 2 or 3 and am worried this will be the death of our sex life because of having only one working boob and no estrogen after I start tamoxifen. I think I will get a reconstruction, for myself, not my hubby. He says I could skip it and we could work it out but I know I would feel so ugly. I hope he thinks to spontaneously kiss all my scars so I'll feel completely sure he desires me still no matter what.