Milk, P.M.S., and Men's Cluelessness

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All advertising everywhere is humor built around men's cluelessness.

Fnarf on July 13, 2011 at 4:25 PM

@1 Calling this anything approaching humor is a stretch.

giffy on July 13, 2011 at 4:30 PM

Almost makes me long for the good ole days when they liked to tell us that PMS was psychosomatic.

Delishuss on July 13, 2011 at 4:35 PM

@1,2: Yes, I think the King of Queens was built around this premise and was decidedly not funny.

Ziggity on July 13, 2011 at 4:38 PM

Shocking that an industry built on using rape racks, insemination guns, and milk extraction machines is insensitive to women.

raku on July 13, 2011 at 4:42 PM

@2, humor is not the same thing as good humor.

Fnarf on July 13, 2011 at 4:46 PM

The ad agency that designed this campaign is happy with people being offended.

http://theweek.com/article/index/217177/…

seatackled on July 13, 2011 at 4:48 PM

How ironic that the artificial hormones used to produce milk may be causing more PMS problems for women. Of course, we don't know for certain because the research on women's PMS conditions is still sorely lacking.

MemeGene on July 13, 2011 at 4:49 PM

@5: "milk extraction machines"

Oh no! Next thing you know HUMAN FEMALES will use milk extraction machines!

undead ayn rand on July 13, 2011 at 5:25 PM

Future scene at Starbucks:

Make me a dry cappuccino, lots of foam and a tampon for dipping, pronto!

Supreme Ruler Of The Universe on July 13, 2011 at 5:26 PM

#9: Yeah, breast pumps are the same thing because choice, freedom, and pain are inconsequential, right?

raku on July 13, 2011 at 5:32 PM

HA HA HA, WOMEN. AM I RIGHT, GUYS?

Zebes on July 13, 2011 at 6:13 PM

Well, I think it's funny.

And the link in the post to everythingidoiswrong.org is broken, but I'm sure it's not your fault, Bethany.

Westlake, son! on July 13, 2011 at 6:28 PM

Someone needs to tell Steve that PMS isn't a laughing matter. At least when there are ladies around.

seandr on July 13, 2011 at 6:40 PM

Ooh, take a dose of bovine growth hormone with some pesticides and an antibiotic cocktail to cure your PMS! Reminds me of when Nestle tried to convince women that their breast milk was bad for babies in an effort to sell powdered milk with the nutritional value of sawdust. I hope no one is stupid enough to fall for this garbage.

Fish Wrench Asteroid on July 13, 2011 at 6:51 PM

But of course PMS is funny--just like blackface is.

seatackled on July 13, 2011 at 7:26 PM

of course teh dudes also suffer from being all emotional and irrational...
but it is about for, like 4 weeks out of the month w/ them, and no amount of milk is gonna fix that ...unless it is the warm milk and homebaked cookies that mom the saint of the world made... and that only works because you're remembering what it was like when you are eight...

pissy mcslogbot on July 13, 2011 at 7:33 PM

So, do they drink it or pour it on their vaginas?

pasteyboy on July 13, 2011 at 7:36 PM

Q. How many feminists does it take to change a light bulb?
A. THAT'S NOT FUNNY

on July 13, 2011 at 7:48 PM

That makes me want to stop drinking milk.

suddenlyorcas on July 13, 2011 at 7:53 PM

What's that you say? A first world white woman whined about something utterly inconsequential on a blog? WEIRD

on July 13, 2011 at 7:57 PM

What's that you say? that half of a species fails to understand basic biology while castigating the other half as evil harpies? WEIRD

pissy mcslogbot on July 13, 2011 at 8:16 PM

@22 - you're right. Women should stop doing that.

on July 13, 2011 at 8:22 PM

This is despicable and insulting. PMS is torture, it's painful, it brings on horrible headaches and distorted vision, and made me feel ill for about 2 weeks per month for much of my life. When I was in junior high, in about 1908, my doctor told me to put up with it or have a baby. . .

It's not funny. And the idea of drinking milk when one is feeling so ill is ridiculous.

It is just not productive or respectful to make fun of women who feel ill.

LuisitaPhD on July 13, 2011 at 9:02 PM

@23: when, in your experience were men cast as harpies?
perhaps jerks or douchebags or assholes, but harpies or many of the other gender loaded terms, ehh... probably not so much.

pissy mcslogbot on July 13, 2011 at 9:10 PM

It's not milk so much as it is calcium:

Calcium. Many PMS symptoms resemble those of calcium deficiency, says Susan Thys-Jacobs, an endocrinologist at St. Lukes Roosevelt Hospital in New York City. Though no one fully understands what causes PMS, Thys-Jacobs hypothesizes that for many women the problem may signal an underlying calcium shortage.
In a study of 466 PMS sufferers, published in the August 1998 issue of the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, Thys-Jacobs and her colleagues found that calcium supplements of 1,200 milligrams per day -- the calcium equivalent of four glasses of milk -- significantly eased PMS symptoms.

Calcium was no instant cure; the results only kicked in after about two months of use. But by the third month of treatment, women taking the supplements had only about half the PMS symptoms of those who took a placebo. The only symptoms calcium didn't curb, says Thys-Jacobs, were fatigue and insomnia.(Web MD)

I have 2 teenage daughters, and PMS is rampant in my household while the older girl is home from college. None of us like milk, because really think about it: what other mammal drinks milk past infancy? The whole concept is just odd, I bet it originated in Wisconsin. So, calcium supplements and other foods that are high in calcium are on the menu, and life is much smoother throughout the month.

Oh, and all men are idiots. Not what I believe personally, but turn on the television to any channel, and you will find depiction after depiction of men as witless morons.

catballou on July 13, 2011 at 9:11 PM

@24, some doctors will tell you that teenage girls don't have PMS, can't have it. My mother in law, a nurse practitioner, went toe to toe at a gynecological conference with a Dr spouting that nonsense. At that time my sister in law was 15, and suffered PMS at least 2 weeks out of four. I love my sister in law, but she was seriously the antichrist at least half the time. That's when she hit on the calcium connection, we swear by it. But you don't have to drink milk to boost calcium.

My sister in law opted to smoke a whole lot of pot, made her much happier, and still does, but does fuck all for PMS.

catballou on July 13, 2011 at 9:17 PM

@6:

True, but only because good humor has a much higher milk content....

COMTE on July 13, 2011 at 9:26 PM

You're right, that's not at all funny. It was insensitive of me to laugh about it. I know I can't possibly make it right, because the insensitivity I've displayed is unforgivable, but is there anything I can do to make you hate me just a little less, at least momentarily?

on July 13, 2011 at 9:52 PM

I'm not going to debate whether it was funny or not, or even true-to-life (because I think it's sort of dumb); but the comments have me wondering something - it was horrible and sexist to pretend that PMS didn't exist, and it's now horrible and sexist to acknowledge the PMS exists.

I live with a woman who has some degree PMS, and it's definitely no fun for her, but as the guy living with her (and therefore forced onto the hormonal/emotional roller coaster every month), it's no fun either of us.

If we can acknowledge that PMS exists and that it sucks for the sufferer, can we acknowledge that it sucks for the partners, too? I mean, without being default sexist and horrible.

wittysobriquet on July 13, 2011 at 10:06 PM

oh for fuck's sake.

mr. herriman on July 13, 2011 at 10:17 PM

Lactose intolerance is a hate crime.

sirkowski on July 13, 2011 at 10:37 PM

This is misogynistic, but what's new? I don't get PMS, at least not the stereotypically angry, irrational kind. I've been with the same guy for 5 years and he's often remarked that he can't tell by my behaviour what "time of the month" it is, which differs from his experiences with previous girlfriends.

On an unrelated note, yeah, the dairy industry just makes stuff up. Their biggest lie is that cow milk is good for humans. Gross.

Amanda on July 13, 2011 at 11:45 PM

@26 What other mammal takes calcium supplements? The whole concept is odd.

raggeddog on July 14, 2011 at 4:48 AM

High estrogen levels detected. Abandon thread.

Banna on July 14, 2011 at 5:51 AM

@all - oh, so are we pretending PMS doesn't exist now, or was made up by men, or that women with PMS can (heavy italics) be irrational bitches, or that the calcium in milk doesn't help to alleviate symptoms, and that milk, steamed, in a latte, or cold, with a warm chocolate chip cookie, isn't delicious? Is that what we're pretending to do?

Aces. By the by, soy milk is soy juice. There are no tits on a soybean. And that shit is disgusting.

on July 14, 2011 at 7:10 AM

@17 Wow, so you're decrying over-generalizations and ignorance while displaying it yourself. Good job.

dirac on July 14, 2011 at 7:11 AM

@30 You know, the problem with acknowledging that it sucks for the sufferer's partner is the implicit assumption that PMS automatically makes women awful shrieking harpies. That's why it's sexist and horrible.

I've been lucky enough to have very light periods, with almost zero symptoms of PMS. I get through both PMS and my period without being a bitch to anyone else, as do most women I know with more severe symptoms.

So when I'm in a bad mood and not menstruating, it really pisses me off to be told to "Go take a Midol" rather than being listened to. Seems PMS is used as an easy crutch to dismiss women as irrational, erratic, and over-emotional, even though sometimes most men I know could do with "taking a Midol," too.

Delishuss on July 14, 2011 at 7:39 AM

@38 - my thoughts exactly. It's so great to be deduced to a child every time you get upset about something because of your biology... whether the symptoms affect you or not.

erly on July 14, 2011 at 9:32 AM

"#9: Yeah, breast pumps are the same thing because choice, freedom, and pain are inconsequential, right?"

No, but humans use milking machines too, so your HORROR and OUTRAGE at the machinery is misplaced. If you want to focus on other elements such as the conditions they're kept in, that's fine. But there's nothing unnatural about those aids.

undead ayn rand on July 14, 2011 at 11:20 AM

I think enough milk would definitely cure PMS, if it were used to drown the dumb assholes who actually okayed this ad campaign.

And I agree with others - the offensiveness comes from making assumptions about individuals. I've never had PMS in my life, although I sureashell have been around a lot of men who seem to have PMS 365 fucking days of the year...

Geni on July 14, 2011 at 12:26 PM

As a man (insert insult here) who has a partner with massive PMS, I can tell you why men might joke about it. To cope.

Also, to the dope who thinks it's a crime to milk cows: They love it. It doesn't hurt unless you are late in milking them. The same way a breast-feeding mother feels when the baby empties the mams.

jku72 on July 14, 2011 at 1:05 PM

the ads aren't particularly funny or clever but any person actually offended by this is a stupid fucking cunt. you can't take a little joke about something that happens to 50% of the world population? get over yourselves you touchy wimps

Skit on July 14, 2011 at 1:25 PM

@43: You sound like a perfectly well-adjusted man who loves women greatly.

undead ayn rand on July 14, 2011 at 2:02 PM

@38 Yep. I agree. It's wrong and stupid that PMS is used like a sledgehammer to dismiss women's opinions, which happens in a more public/general sense. And actual PMS sucks for the sufferer, and also for the proximal partner of the suffer, but that's more of a private/specific thing.

@42 That's a part of it. It's tough to watch someone you love suffering, it's also tough to be the object of what can be like emotionally sort of abusive aspects of that suffering, and it's tough because you can't ever mention those three letters (N.B. it's not a matter of either/or - both parties/genders going through the syndrome get the short end).

wittysobriquet on July 14, 2011 at 3:05 PM

@44 anyone who can't abide casual usage of the word "cunt" is a cunt. Notice that I said "persons" because many of the offended people in these comments are men

And anyone who really considers this ad campaign "misogynistic" has the thinnest skin on the planet. Why don't you crusaders go after the awful anorexia porn in the American Apparel ads that appear on the back of every single fucking Stranger instead of this non-controversy? oh that's right because you're hypocrite fanboys who don't mind that the Stranger gets an exorbitant amount of money from a company LITERALLY RUN BY A RAPIST

Skit on July 14, 2011 at 4:30 PM

@46: None of this false appeal to hypocrisy makes you any less damaged of an individual.

undead ayn rand on July 14, 2011 at 5:22 PM

And men have every right to be offended by depicting them as mewling crybaby idiots.

undead ayn rand on July 14, 2011 at 5:24 PM

When I stopped drinking coffee my PMS vanished completely. I highly recommend it. (Of course, I was also, in effect, ceasing to drink milk too, since the only place I ever got it was in a latte. It seems completely absurd that drinking milk, a substance adults were never meant to consume, would do anything to benefit your reproductive system. In fact, at least one study indicated that lactose (milk sugar) screws up your ovaries and CAUSES reproductive problems.)

on July 14, 2011 at 8:38 PM

You people have no real problems. So you make shit like this something more than nothing.

on July 14, 2011 at 9:03 PM

The real idiocy here is that the Calif. Milk Producers' Board is alienating the people who actually BUY the product....women. How do they benefit from representing their primary customers as deranged half-wits? As a woman who's never experienced any PMS symptoms, I'm especially mystified. I've decided not to buy any California milk products until they drop this inane campaign. The Milk Board does not represent goat milk -- so I'm switching to that or soy; I found one type of milk at Whole Foods that is distributed from Texas. Many other products like yogurt and cottage cheese are made outside of Calif too. I suggest anyone upset with the campaign vote with your wallets and read product labels for the state of origin.

on July 14, 2011 at 10:57 PM

When I have cramps, I'd rather my husband hand me a bottle of red wine.

Mrs. Norris on July 15, 2011 at 9:50 AM

Oh come on...jokes based on stereotypes are ALL OVER THE PLACE. Yes, not all women are raging harpies during that time of the month. Just like not all men are bumbling idiots looking for any hole to stick their dicks into. And not all white people are preppy, upper-middle-class douches. However, there are tons of marketing campaigns based on those kinds of assumptions. So here's what you do: say, "Ha! That was a joke based on a stereotype of women/men/whites/blah blah blah. I understand that those stereotypes are not necessarily accurate representations of me or anyone I know, so I can acknowledge the intended humor." And move on.

Oh, and for the ladies saying that they hate their anger always being reduced to a symptom of their biology: Stop hanging out with and/or dating the assholes who think that.

TenrSinger on July 15, 2011 at 10:05 AM

For balance, if I drink milk through the PMS and into the cramps stage I get to spend 2 days throwing up. So happy when I made that connection and dropped the dairy products (you try living a normal life when every 4 weeks you spend 2 days sat with a sick bucket).

reb on July 15, 2011 at 1:17 PM

@53: "Oh come on...jokes based on stereotypes are ALL OVER THE PLACE."

And they're dumb and unnecessary, mister South Park Republican who thinks people are too "politically correct". Thank god we're not living in the Mad Men world where people spout stereotypes as reality.

undead ayn rand on July 15, 2011 at 3:04 PM

As a member of highly stereotyped group, I remember and still enjoy a song called "Pretty Fly, for a White Guy". If there was a national clamor about that one, I missed it. I enjoy and think it's funny to see "Everybody Loves Raymond", and "King of Queens". I think the song "White and Nerdy" is hilarious.
Perhaps the degree of offense one takes to this type of humor has to do with comfort in ones own skin and self confidence?

jku72 on July 16, 2011 at 7:30 AM

"the degree of offense one takes to this type of humor" has to do with the about of shit the group being made fun of has to deal with relative to the amount of shit those who find it funny have to deal with. Is your "higly stereotyped group" white, male, and middle class? Then you deal with the least amount of shit. Self-confidence has nothing to do with it.

chemambru on July 16, 2011 at 11:52 AM

As someone who gets a monthly visit from DJ Menses, and also finds this ad boring and tasteless, in that order, I want to add:
some of us don't experience and really, don't believe much in PMS. I don't. I think it's all so much like ADD - profiteeringly overdiagnosed and dangerously misdiagnosed. I'm entitled to my opinion. I know other women disagree. We deal like grownups. So be it.

Milk can be good for you in moderation - no less gross than wearing silk made from worm butts or eating burgers made from buffalo crotches or syrup pulled from trees or eating off plastic plates made thanks to long-dead dinosaur graves. We farm insects and animals and the rest of the planet's ingredients for resources. It's what we do. Milk & cheese really are one of the more renewable options compared to the majority of the raping-of-the-planet humankind has been responsible for...

And anyone who would call a lady friend (or stranger) a bitch I guess must be a dick (or ass or someother body part or animal name insult).

on July 16, 2011 at 4:30 PM

What I don't get is that women still do the majority of grocery shopping for families, so why insult them in this way? Why frame it around dudes getting relief from their bitchy, harpy, unreasonable female hetero partner and not around women feeling better themselves? Can you imagine midol being advertised that way? This honestly makes me want to NOT drink milk. Why am I buying your shit when you think so little of me?

@56 shorter: grow a thicker skin, ladies.

kersy on July 16, 2011 at 4:59 PM

@56: I also get called cracker sometimes when I do something stupid! I know what it's like to get called a nigger and black people just overreact.

on July 16, 2011 at 6:04 PM

What bothers me about this is not the stereotypes of women, but the stereotype of PMS. PMS that includes verbally abusing your guy and going out of your skull is rare, definitely exists, and is a psychiatric condition. Since when is it funny to make fun of people suffering and making their loved ones suffer with them. Next up -- how funny it is when your schizophrenic cousin won't take his meds!!

spider88 on July 25, 2011 at 11:52 PM

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