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Charles, do you even read what you've written when you're done? There's not a single line in this mess of a piece that even slightly addresses its title.
This is a love letter from one straight man to another. Basically, you are why I still after all these years come back to SLOG every day or two, despite its now much reduced circumstances. If there is a Mudede post, I know it will be worth the visit. It’s not that I agree with you that often – I don’t. It’s just that I know I can count on your posts to be incisive and sometimes lyrical and never trite. If I disagree with you, at least you will be worth disagreeing with. In my line of work, the coldest insult you can level against someone’s work is “he’s not even wrong.” You’re never not even wrong.
I also love city life and I enjoyed reading your article. You have a very idealistic vision for urban living and I think we need more of that.
As a sidenote from a transplant, Seattleites tend to be fucking spoiled. This is an amazing city. Straight up. If you don't think so, then you are comparing it to just a few other cities. Go try living *anywhere* in the midwest for a year and you are guaranteed to miss Seattle horribly.
You you eat every meal in some restaurant. I cook in my kitchen because it's creating something that I made, I was like you when I was in my twenties, you will learn. Have your friends over for football or whatever, you will learn to make food you like. As far as the city micro-sizing everything, no I will bolt for the suburbs, I have someone once a week asking to buy my little 1600 square foot house for almost twice as much as I paid for it.
Funnier still, that article seems to be wiped from theStranger's feed...musn't air that dirty laundry....
2. Many immigrant cultures are maintained and perpetuated by friends and multi-generation-family-members gathering together, cooking and eating together and talking loudly and arguing and laughing.
3. Seattle has so many restaurants because most other types of small, non corporate owned shops have been killed by Amazon et al. (God, how I miss window shopping and used bookstores with old couches and cats!)
@4 try the non-yuppie-non-techbro-focused Vietnamese/SE Asian restaurants and grocery stores' and delis' hot foods offerings in the ID (until they're chased out of there by condo developers next year). You can get a hot dinner for $5-6.
I agree, not having a car frees up a lot of cash, but not everybody can get by with no car, some people actually do need them to get to work and out of the city for mental health breaks!
Mixed feelings about this one, being somebody that eats out way too much, and also doesn't drive or cook. But we can't all afford to do that, we shouldn't act like it's totally normal to spend ridiculous amounts of money on not feeding ourselves every week. I am learning to cook. And perhaps also possibly drive. One day.
It's a very privileged point of view to assume we can all afford to make use of Seattle's awesome restaurant scene night after night.
It must be nice to be able to afford to full-time so totally outsource something as basic as eating that his ability to do it for himself atrophies. We normal people, the 99%, usually feed ourselves, with the outsourced version reserved for special occasions. Sorry I'm not up to the standards of his favorite $150 a meal chef. My cooking hasn't poisoned anybody yet, but come over and let's test the odds.
What no commenters have called him on is his aggressive and dismissive extroversion. Yes, introverts are a minority, but how dare he position extroversion as normal and virtuous and tacitly dismiss the alternative as undesirable? My idea of hell would be living in a home I couldn't actually live in-- that's his ideal home. Why should I be forced to go "out" for social interaction on public couches or barstools when I love entertaining handfuls of friends at home, without the crowds and noise? I'm not saying my way is better than his, just that it's as legitimate for me as his ueber-extroversion is for him. Let's neither of us be bigots or snobs; let's not assume that the whole world is like us and heap contempt on the other, as he did.
I love the energy and options of living in a condo in the city, but I can love it only because my home, however modest, is a self-contained refuge from the chaos. I go "out" when I can afford to and when I choose to, not because I have to. The writer needs to get out of his wealthy extroverted entitlement bubble and get to know people who don't share his lifestyle, income, or personality type.