I have to agree with the comment above. One minute questions are great...but you shouldn't have to rush through your answers...people listen to the show to hear what you have to say, Dan. Take your time.
Loved loved loved the 1-minute format; hope it becomes a monthly or bi-monthly feature! Obviously only suitable for certain types of questions, but I'm sure they can be sorted out accordingly.
For the white guy who wanted to ask his black boyfriend to be his slave, Dan says you can't really be tactful with that kind of request and then tells him to be tactful (no specifics)? Way to be unhelpful, dude.
About the girl who knew way too much about her friend's bush: Maybe it was the /asker's/ bush, not a "friend's", and she was attempting the oldest obfuscation in the book.
Love the rapid fire show, don't think you should do it on every show, but like maybe once a month would be good.
And did Dan just give us all permission to fantasize about him during sex?
Wonder if my wife would get upset if I called her "Dan" while she's pegging me?
A point of clarification about chatty Ms. Kathy from Montana. You know, the woman who mystified poor Savage, her seemingly clairvoyant ability to know that her long-time friend is rolling with a gorilla bush and that this is cursing her love life--knowledge gained even though her friend so quiet about her cooch.
Dan teases her about OHMYGOD how could you know her bush is so big 'n' outta control if she's so flamingly reticent about her unspeakables! Cosmic inconsistency! Mystic wonder! Cats and dogs living together!
But it's all right there at the top of her call. Duh. Kathy's privy to her friend's privates because she "found out through the grapevine" AND "through a current boyfriend." (Presumable Kathy's?)
OF COURSE the young woman in question is going to beat around the bush about her bush--she's being made the heavy here. "She fails to clean it up down there. I think her bush is outta control."
Would YOU make a confidant of such a bush-negative "friend"? And OF COURSE it's the grapevine and the boyfriend who know the full story. Easy enough to see that it's Mr. Limp Dick here who is likewise blaming Kathy's friend for his own lack of sexual prowess. Can't get it up, must be HER fault. Gotta go tell the fellas...
Kathy? My advice: You wanna help your friend? Just frankly remind her that it's currently FASHIONABLE to trim to win, that if she wants to fulfill the socially constructed expectations of her lover, then just trim it. And if not, then fuck him. (Er...or not, actually.) But I certainly wouldn't go into that conversation throwing around toxic concepts like "clean it up" and "out of control."
You see it, right? It's no WONDER her friend is so disclosure adverse...
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I found the rapid fire sort of off-putting. No chance to deal with any nuance or complexity.
Also I'm a little worried about some of the Islamophobia being aired on this show. Lord knows the GLBTQ community is already full of it. Islam doesn't demand the subjugation of women any more or any less than Christianity or Judaism demand it. Yes there are plenty of assholes who use it as an excuse, including apparently the community that the caller is from, but there are also some who don't. There are some imams and Islamic scholars out there who will tell you the Qur'an obligates a man to sexually pleasure his wife, and that a man is only allowed multiple partners if he can prove he is capable of loving each of them equally and giving them each the attention they deserve.
There are also Muslims who treat women like dirtbags and have Madonna/whore complexes. Your caller could just have as well been commented on Catholics.
The difference being that in our political climate how Muslim men treat women is being used as an excuse by racist asshats to terrorize Muslim communities and families here in the U.S. and bomb the fuck out of Muslim communities in other countries.
For the dude who wants to shoot more spunk, there is a way to do it, but it's both time consuming and a bit painful. The method? Give yourself blue balls(not the kind caused by an STD, but the kind caused by getting hard but not coming). I know this firsthand as I had an ex with whom I could hardly ever climax....
Anyway, the formula is simple, get hard, get to the point of near climax, then just put your dick away and stop. Repeat this about 4 or 5 times and the next time you come the semen will fly out like water from a firehouse. The only downside is that before you come your abdomen will hurt so bad that you will barely be able to walk.
I was going to come on here and make an impassioned argument against the Islamophobic phone call fielded in this episode, however, "eh's" comment is so well constructed that I would just like to say "hear hear" and ask everybody to please read it.
We need to stop trafficking in Islamophobic remarks such as those found in the aforementioned phone call. Every religion can be misused and abused. None are "extra worse" than any of the others. We should stop singling out Muslims and creating more misunderstanding and more hatred.
I agree with @12 and @15. You can't say, "all ___ religion people suck". There are Christians who honestly believe God commands them to kidnap and rape 8 year olds. There are also perfect good white-guilty NALT Christians. Same goes for Muslims. Above all keep in mind: Everyone who says "I am a ____" is still an individual, despite what they may say about their religion, and they are all different.
If the caller was describing Pakistani islamic culture, that may be more accurate.
Great episode, wouldn't necessarily ask for longer responses, shorter seemed to allow him to dismiss poorer/repeat questions. Would love for this to be at least a monthly feature.
How about 2 minute questions and 4 minute answers? Or 3 and 5. Yeah sometimes things get rambly. But without enough details, Dan's seems to be a bit handicapped—nay, neutered—in his ability to slap the right kind of sense into people.
Great 1 min format. Maybe you can have a show designated for long questions from lesbians and queer-identified straight girls who are over-thinking their problems in a long, rambling annoying way.
I don't think your answers need to be time limited, but sometimes you rant a little too much, so it helps with that.
Not loving the one minute experiment. Sure, the questions can get a little rambly sometimes but, cutting Dan off at 60 seconds is just wrong. I don't listen to this podcast faithfully every week because all these sexual and relational questions apply to me, 99.99% don't. I listen every week because Dan talks like he writes; he's funny, insightful and engaging. Don't cut off the Dan or this show will lose it's magic!
Dan.
Ugggggg!
This is the second time I've heard you say "herpes is not that big a deal."
Hearing that makes my blood boil. It may not be the worst thing in the world - but it is no picnic. My boyfriend has had it on his penis for at least 10 years and has a breakout about every 6 weeks and it sucks - he itches, is sore, gets acne on his face - and we can't have sex.
And then! We had sex - he didn't realize he was starting a breakout - and I got it in my butthole! Thankfully I've only had 2 breakouts in over a year - but holy cow was it painful/irritating/uncomfortable.
And we're stuck with it forever.
I realize it could be much worse - but as a person that's had severe hay-fever for 3 months a year for my whole life - I'd take hay-fever over a herpes breakout anytime. It is a big deal and please stop minimizing how uncomfortable/disruptive it is.
thanks!
I loved the one minute show. A agree caller should have to ask all their questions in a minute as I stayed much more interested in this podcast. Sometimes their questions are so long on the normal one that I loose interest and focus. I do agree that Dan shouldn't have to answer in one minute, but maybe a five minute window could be suggested? I absolutely love to listen to Dan, hence why I download, but I also enjoyed that we were able to hear so many more stories this time. I did miss the normal Dan Rant at the beginning of the episode, thats my favorite part.
-Long time listener, first time commenter.
For the comment #26, your boyfriend should start taking valtrex or one of the other prescriptions regularly. They work great, I start taking whenever I feel that first tingle of an outbreak and it goes right away.
For the caller who asked about the STD dating website. I met my boyfriend of 6 months on PositiveSingles.com. I've been on and off the site for 3 years. I went out on a lot of dates with good regular guys but you have to watch out for the creeps.
Kathy from Montana should just suggest to her bushy friend, "Hey, let's go to the salon together before our dates this weekend and get mani-pedis and a waxing. I know this salon where they'll shape your down there into a heart shape..." Kathy can keep it a fun, light suggestion of a girly outing, and tell her friend how much her own guy loves gettin' down after she's freshly waxed.
I agree with the general consensus: short questions good; short answers less good. Keeping the questions brief was definitely good, and you could consider making that a permanent feature. You can always arrange to get more information if it simply can't be contained in one minute. But restricting the responses to a minute forces you to stay too 100% on target, with no time for any asides or much wit. And really? The wit is why I'm here. So please don't drop that part of the fun and games.
I think most listeners would agree that the 3-minute rambling questions are boring as fuck, but I can happily listen to the 3-minute rambly answer....
And did Dan just give us all permission to fantasize about him during sex?
Wonder if my wife would get upset if I called her "Dan" while she's pegging me?
Dan teases her about OHMYGOD how could you know her bush is so big 'n' outta control if she's so flamingly reticent about her unspeakables! Cosmic inconsistency! Mystic wonder! Cats and dogs living together!
But it's all right there at the top of her call. Duh. Kathy's privy to her friend's privates because she "found out through the grapevine" AND "through a current boyfriend." (Presumable Kathy's?)
OF COURSE the young woman in question is going to beat around the bush about her bush--she's being made the heavy here. "She fails to clean it up down there. I think her bush is outta control."
Would YOU make a confidant of such a bush-negative "friend"? And OF COURSE it's the grapevine and the boyfriend who know the full story. Easy enough to see that it's Mr. Limp Dick here who is likewise blaming Kathy's friend for his own lack of sexual prowess. Can't get it up, must be HER fault. Gotta go tell the fellas...
Kathy? My advice: You wanna help your friend? Just frankly remind her that it's currently FASHIONABLE to trim to win, that if she wants to fulfill the socially constructed expectations of her lover, then just trim it. And if not, then fuck him. (Er...or not, actually.) But I certainly wouldn't go into that conversation throwing around toxic concepts like "clean it up" and "out of control."
You see it, right? It's no WONDER her friend is so disclosure adverse...
I found the rapid fire sort of off-putting. No chance to deal with any nuance or complexity.
Also I'm a little worried about some of the Islamophobia being aired on this show. Lord knows the GLBTQ community is already full of it. Islam doesn't demand the subjugation of women any more or any less than Christianity or Judaism demand it. Yes there are plenty of assholes who use it as an excuse, including apparently the community that the caller is from, but there are also some who don't. There are some imams and Islamic scholars out there who will tell you the Qur'an obligates a man to sexually pleasure his wife, and that a man is only allowed multiple partners if he can prove he is capable of loving each of them equally and giving them each the attention they deserve.
There are also Muslims who treat women like dirtbags and have Madonna/whore complexes. Your caller could just have as well been commented on Catholics.
The difference being that in our political climate how Muslim men treat women is being used as an excuse by racist asshats to terrorize Muslim communities and families here in the U.S. and bomb the fuck out of Muslim communities in other countries.
So try to keep a check on that on your show, Dan.
Anyway, the formula is simple, get hard, get to the point of near climax, then just put your dick away and stop. Repeat this about 4 or 5 times and the next time you come the semen will fly out like water from a firehouse. The only downside is that before you come your abdomen will hurt so bad that you will barely be able to walk.
We need to stop trafficking in Islamophobic remarks such as those found in the aforementioned phone call. Every religion can be misused and abused. None are "extra worse" than any of the others. We should stop singling out Muslims and creating more misunderstanding and more hatred.
If the caller was describing Pakistani islamic culture, that may be more accurate.
I don't think your answers need to be time limited, but sometimes you rant a little too much, so it helps with that.
Ugggggg!
This is the second time I've heard you say "herpes is not that big a deal."
Hearing that makes my blood boil. It may not be the worst thing in the world - but it is no picnic. My boyfriend has had it on his penis for at least 10 years and has a breakout about every 6 weeks and it sucks - he itches, is sore, gets acne on his face - and we can't have sex.
And then! We had sex - he didn't realize he was starting a breakout - and I got it in my butthole! Thankfully I've only had 2 breakouts in over a year - but holy cow was it painful/irritating/uncomfortable.
And we're stuck with it forever.
I realize it could be much worse - but as a person that's had severe hay-fever for 3 months a year for my whole life - I'd take hay-fever over a herpes breakout anytime. It is a big deal and please stop minimizing how uncomfortable/disruptive it is.
thanks!
-Long time listener, first time commenter.
For the caller who asked about the STD dating website. I met my boyfriend of 6 months on PositiveSingles.com. I've been on and off the site for 3 years. I went out on a lot of dates with good regular guys but you have to watch out for the creeps.