Dan, I have no idea if you'll read this. Re: the bi guy. Speaking only for myself, if I had a choice, I'd not choose to be bisexual. I'd much, much rather be either straight or lesbian. I sometimes hate this bullshit, in-between, cliche, ambiguity that I am.
So, yes, there's some internal biphobia going on there with me. I don't know if that's what's going on with the caller, but sometimes I do hate my orientation. I wish I was different.
I also think that when we bisexuals first realize what we are, we run toward the gay community. We're not straight. I don't know about others, but I feel much more comfortable around gay people. So back in the day when I looked around for dates, I usually looked around at other gay people because that's who my family was. Not a lot of out bisexuals in the south (operative word being out) in 1996. That's changed though. Dramatically.
I've grown up since then, and yeah, I only hook up with bi girls now, but back when I was newly out and coming to understand my orientation, hell yeah, I stuck to the gay community. Thank god for it.
This woman just happened to be in her ex's bedroom and just happened to find a pair of her panties that he is beating off into? Dan - how can you be so credulous?
So, yes, there's some internal biphobia going on there with me. I don't know if that's what's going on with the caller, but sometimes I do hate my orientation. I wish I was different.
I also think that when we bisexuals first realize what we are, we run toward the gay community. We're not straight. I don't know about others, but I feel much more comfortable around gay people. So back in the day when I looked around for dates, I usually looked around at other gay people because that's who my family was. Not a lot of out bisexuals in the south (operative word being out) in 1996. That's changed though. Dramatically.
I've grown up since then, and yeah, I only hook up with bi girls now, but back when I was newly out and coming to understand my orientation, hell yeah, I stuck to the gay community. Thank god for it.
I think you left out an important stimpulation: "...except women"