@1 - I was thinking the same thing when listening to that call. The caller said she had not even played with her toys. When a woman hasn't had sex or masturbated in a while, they get much wetter during sex, which probably feels "looser".

@3 Maybe I'm totally off on this one, but if anything, douche is a slur against men--a douche(bag) is a "tool" women occasionally stick in themselves. The slur against women would be "scrotum washer".

But can't we all just get along while acknowledging the general desirability of genital cleanliness?

About the girl whose boyfriend thinks she is cheating: Those are MUSCLES, and like any muscle, the LESS it's used, the looser it will feel. I went through the same thing when I lost my virginity--the guy thought i was lying because he said I wasn't tight enough. But the more you use those muscles, the tighter they get. So you could say that the fact that you were looser is just proof that you have not been using those muscles.

This is a particularly good podcast...Loved it.

Sorry Dan, "douchebag" is misogynist. 99% of people think of vaginas when they think of douching; enemas are for asses. Though it was kind of amusing to listen to you go through all the mental gymnastics to justify your decision to keep saying "douchebag." Wouldn't it just be easier to drop all the justifications and make the decision not to say something that offends people--even if you don't think they should be offended? Intent really doesn't matter, the fact that you yourself are part of a marginalized group doesn't give you a pass, what matters is that people have told you they're offended/hurt, yet you choose to uphold the sexist status quo by taking a product that is associated with women/vaginas and using it as an insult. Don't you know that the first step toward being a good ally is to LISTEN and BELIEVE when someone of a marginalized group (in this case, women) tells you they're hurt by something you've said? It's really not that hard.

And yeah, some women still douche with Summer's Eve-type products, and some fucked up old-fart doctors still recommend douching with same. (On the other hand, a douche with something like diluted apple cider vinegar or peroxide can be useful for certain conditions, like yeast infections or BV.)

Anyone else think that Dan was way too harsh toward the small dicked boyfriend of the loose vagina woman?
After all, he did not suspect her of cheating for no reason - he had a reason even if it was a misguided one. And of course he is going to be insecure to an extent - both because of his low endowment and because of inherent insecurity of long distance relationships. The girlfriend should cut him some slack and give him the skinny on vaginal mechanics explained here - if he is satisfied with that, good; if not, only then should she consider taking Dan's advice and leave him.

@19: why did you say "leotarded" instead of "retarded" while defending use of the term douche as a slur?

Dan's justification for why he thinks "douche" is fine as a slur--because in his mind, a douche is for an ass, not a vagina--is what convinced me the word is offensive. Anything that requires such a convoluted excuse cannot be justifiable. What if I said using "aids fag" as a slur was ok, because I vacationed in England, so when I say "aids fag" I'm actually just thinking of a helpful cigarette?

When I call someone a douchebag I always think I am using a foreign slur. I don't connect it with douching at all. I know what a douche is, but I've never met someone who used one.

I think gynecomastia is hot. Spanish actor Javier Bardem has it on one side more than the other, a gay porn actor from the 90's who went by Stony has it. It shows up in porn every once in a while and it irks me that no one takes advantage of it, plays it up and I can't find anyone else who thinks it's hot or any trove of photos.

I, like the other poster who's into it, am a gay guy. I don't think that means only gay guys are into it. Generally what I find hot about a man there's also a woman who finds the same thing attractive. I'd like to hear more about the specifics of what chicks think is hot. Like do you like hairy pubes or shaved or a dick that curves up. There are guys who like large clits or large, meaty labia and other specific things that arent full-blown fetishes just features. Tons of gay guys like foreskin, for exampe. I suspect women dont have that kind of attachment to details so I'd like to hear what ladies have to say for themselves.

Back to gyno boy, it sounded from his tone of voice like even though he wanted to be told how to get rid of them, he somewhat wantd to hear hes ok as-is like he was maturing into a point of view where he's old enough now he can choose who sees his chest and maybe he's growing into being able to own it as his uniqueness. As you get out of high school and college, you tend to show your bod only to really intimate people - lovers but also just friends you're swimming with and not the entire boys gym class, so the shame and discomfort decrease.

Funny thing is having said I think gyno is hot, if I could snap my fingers and change my body, I would get my nipples reduced. Big gum-drop nipples run in my family and in my self-hating twenties, I pierced them myself and they're bug and yukky in my opinion. Its the profile of them; they're a little like a tiny sac loosely tied on. I would like them more if they were at the points of boobs but on a bony man chest they're odd. I actually took birth control pills I ripped off for long enough to get a little gyno going and it was starting to look cool in that "oh it's kind of wrong which makes it kinky and hot" way. I can understand if you want to get a change and it's your body and follow your instincts. About numbness, youre likely to get paresthesia - funny feelings. I had lung surgery where the incision was very large but no part of it was closer than 3 inches to my nipple and I lost sensation to a while section of my chest including my nipple then it came back along the way the feeling was weird and prickly like a foot that had fallen asleep until it finally feels 99% normal like 6 years later.

Lastly if you get the operation, go to a specialist. They're easily searchable. I tricked with a guy who had had breast cancer. Yes, the same small amount of breast tissue all men have that can grow in gynecomastia can also become cancerous, although he refused to use the word breast, preferring chest cancer. Whatever hack did his operation left him with a horizontal fold in his pec muscle that had a nipple hidden in it.

Follow your gut.