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I'm a big fan of the show and want to thank you for what was an informative and surprisingly not depressing episode that was largely devoted to pedophilia.
After years of listening to the podcast, I get a little annoyed at people who call in and spend 20-30 seconds telling you/us how fantastic their relationship is, only to say "BUT..." and then finally get to their problem. I understand the necessity to provide context, but I wish that callers would get to the juicy stuff more quickly instead of rambling on about how happy they are (except for this one major thing that they are really unhappy about).
I think that we as the Savage Love community can generally agree on what a healthy and happy romantic relationship looks like. Is there any chance we can all agree on an acronym or 1-3 word phrase to describe that?
Thoughts?
1. This is just going to stop other pedophiles from seeking help when they find themselves experiencing urges.
2. Do they really think that a park is the only place he could see children?
Don't get me wrong: Once somebody molested a child or financially supported the producers of child pornography (which will lead to the "production" of more child pornography and therefore the molestation of children) they should be punished accordingly. But a lot of pedophiles and hebophiles don't want to molest children and they need all the help we can give them.
I am actually surprised that this comment section isn't jammed with a "lynch mob" who complain about your treatment of this topic.
True that. It's a shame Dr. Cantor did't talk about scenarios in which treatment is perfectly available.
Still, the distinction you make between a "plan to harm" and an "unacted-upon urge", might be not so clear to unprepared/fearful therapists.
It's not an easy path to find treatment, I'm sure Dr. Cantor could've enlighted it if he wasn't so urged to paint a depressing scenario.
Idk, am I a pedophile?
Well, first stop cursing. Second, realize that pedophilia IS a sexual orientation, and not a 'fetish' or a 'paraphilia'. Sure, some people might have a stronger attraction to children than others, some might only want a sexual relationship while others might want a romantic and loving relationship, etc... But doesnt that variety of different kind of loves, emotions andfeelings show you that is actually a sexual orientation?
Third, why should you do anything about it? Live and let live. Pedophilia is a normal and natural sexual orientation. Accept it or shut up.
Should Dr. Cantor be a guest again I was thinking of a couple of questions I would have asked. 1.Why are pedophiles mostly men? You almost never hear about women molesting kids. 2.If he is theorizing that pedophiles are born that way, does he think it is something that happens in the womb or that it is some sort of genetic thing?
In a word: Consent. Eight year old children cannot consent to romantic relationships or sex. I think we can ALL agree on that. Also, please don't reinforce the trolls out there who argue that allowing gay-bi-poly relationships/marriage will lead to a slippery slope ending in child rape.
Thank you for your comment. I have sought out therapy and found a better job that I like (so far) :)
I'm sure there are listeners who would be curious (or excited) to see them. Post a link here, if you are so inclined.