Hmm. My husband and I rarely have sex, but I've never considered us "roommates". He's my family, the person I want to talk about my day with, the person I want to raise kids with and be old with. To me, that's what makes a marriage, not sex.

These two need to determine if there's enough spark there for a sexual relationship, and if not, discuss an open marriage. If that's not an option, they need to go their separate ways. What I read in this piece is co-dependence and a fear of being alone, not the comfort of being with one's best friend (even though that may be what it feel like). Sex, while not the primary benefit or characteristic of a marriage, is nevertheless integral as part of the spiritual and emotional bonding that takes place over time. My wife and I have been married for 12 years, together for 14 years, have two kids, and are great companions. We have sex once every 2-3 weeks, and believe me, I wish to God it were more exciting. I have even implored her to seek sex therapy with me. She's willing, but when she says she's happy being asexual, I don't know if I will last in the relationship. I've had a three-year extramarital relationship that has fulfilled me on a sexual level, but one that will never escalate into long term. If my wife can't find some way to meet me in the middle and discover her sexuality, then we're headed for divorce.