Savage Love Jun 8, 2016 at 4:00 am

Dicks Deluxe

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@104 Re:weekend
It turned out to a very chaste weekend. Our Miss N. was partying extra-hearty with her gal pals and no time was set aside for any domestic "tender relations" as it were.
As always. though hope doth ever spring eternal, and tonight I have one last swing at some sort of insight into her intentions medium-term in that way. I shall report, thanks for asking!
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BiDanFan,

We showered communally in high school and I have never had the urge to take a photo of my vulva and send it to a stranger. So I don’t think that’s it.
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Thanks Capri. I'm still pinging last week's thread bah.

I showered communally in middle school. The most stark memory was the revulsion of the floor, foot fungus and urine. Maybe some anger about my cheap-ass school with holocaust showers. Maybe some curiosity about the men's showers too. Never snuck in while they were occupied though. I've sent pussy shots but I don't think completely out of the blue... I've posted anonymously on craigslist and sent one to a Slogger with little warning...

It was cool to learn about kibbutzes.
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Alison @107: Headdesk. If roughly 95% of men had communal showers when boys, and a tiny percentage of men send dick pics, then obviously the causation is not direct and the correlation not one-to-one.
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Ms Fan - I was vaguely ruminating about the possibility of some women's just responding to different visuals, which made me think of Elizabeth Bennet's joke that her becoming violently attracted to Darcy began on seeing his beautiful grounds at Pemberley.

Now, in the spirit of Clueless, my cosmic vibrations have sent me the idea of something rather modern called Prideless featuring an early sext as the cause of much of the prejudice. (One might even complete the set with Heedless/Heartless/Landless/Frightless.)
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One from another view: I am a guy who has showered communally in jr. high, high school, college and at the gym since. I am a straight, and have not had any same-sex experiences since adolescence. However, I do admire and appreciate the beauty of the male body, particularly a well muscled and fit man. BTW, all men in the shower check out the other guys dicks, straight, gay or whatever. So, for me, the communal shower is a pleasant and somewhat sensuous experience. I can certainly understand how it would be very different for someone who had negative feelings about their bodies, or for the gay kid worried about popping a bone. My wife occasionally visit the Olympus Spa in Tacoma, where she reports that women of all ages and shapes are naked communally, and that it for her is a similar pleasant and a bit sensuous experience. So same sex group naked is not a horror for all of us.
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I have been skinny-dipping with my wife, her male lover, and his wife - who is my lover. I have to contend with the fact that he is HUNG LIKE A HORSE while I, by contrast, am in that average category described above. While a huge cock is a fine novelty for my wife, and the standard experience for my lover, it has significant limitations -- and my standard-size cock is much more versatile in what it can comfortably do for both women, and the places it is welcome to go --- size matters, but not in the way the LW thinks: a donkey dick ain't as much fun in mouths and asses (if allowed at all), and must tread carefully elsewhere too...
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What great stories have been shared this week. Thanks guys.
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Regarding TINY... I read his situation a bit differently than most folks commenting here do. This is the narrative that makes sense to me: Initially, he was insecure about his size. His partner eventually helped him get over that insecurity, and for the first time, he is now NOT insecure about it. He has power over this insecurity, and knows it's not real, anymore than the boogeyman. He wants to repeat the experience of having power over it, which is very erotic, because it opens up his previously repressed and shame-ridden sexuality, and makes him feel strong. So, he asks to be insulted for his size, gets aroused, has some great sex, and defeats the insecurity again, and again... every time.

This is similar to the way cuckolding is often a response to the insecurity felt about infidelity (either real or imagined). Cuckolding can only happen, and only really works, when the cuckold COMPLETELY TRUSTS their partner. Then, it's *liberating* to watch them fuck other people because you know you don't have to fear it. They come home to you, have satisfying relationship sex with you, despite fucking other people. There is a power in that. There is greater security when you regularly test things.

Both situations are about tackling your fears head-on, by doing the exact thing you're afraid of, once you've *already conquered* your insecurity and fears. It's emotionally reassuring, and gives you power over your past pain, and keeps it gone.

It's psychologically healthy, and if he explains it that way to his partner, I'm she she'll be glad to tell him all about how pitiful his itty-witty pee-pee is.

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