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In my younger days, we would have PIV sex, I would recover my erection in a few minutes and we would repeat. My girlfriend never complained of soreness or discomfort. Sometimes we even went for a third try.
Succulent older pussy can get sore, sooner. If you'd tried a fifth time , she might have found her limit.
In other words, if your girlfriend didn't complain that she was sore, she probably wasn't.
How did I victim blame? It's not clear to me that there's a victim here; when he's "making her" explain her plans, or explain her feelings, it's not clear he's twisting her arm or doing any more than asking about them. I don't understand how this dynamic works enough to suggest more than to leave if she wants. But I think she hasn't left because she doesn't want to leave, not enough to pack her shit and go. Seemed to me that she was looking for someone else to tell her to leave. Then she can just blame them for making her leave if she feels bad about it later.
I MADE her feel dumb? Lack of personal responsibility creeps me out about as much as abuse does, they seem to feed each other. The way she writes, she feels trapped and out of control of her own decisions.. sounds like she could use some therapy more than anything.
I can't imagine engaging in PIV ever again at this point in my life.
Your comment at @96 sounded like you question if gaslighting is even possible: is that what you were questioning there?
And in case she doesn't realize - she talks of Mr STUCK very condescendingly, he's a poor (taking advantage financially) insecure (demands endless reassurance) mother fucker (wants to DTMFA). She is likely not treating him well to his face either and should leave if she can't value her boyfriend. But she'll do what she wants.
I'm also not getting the sense that she's the one who sees him as being somehow diminished by job/money issues, so that might be a factor too.
Whether x giving you y fits with your other goals well or badly is also something evidence and reason can be relevant to.
So if Mr STUCK is bringing STUCK what she needs, like she needs it, and getting it makes her hit those goals so she'd be thriving if she'd only see it? Then yeah, he'd have a point there, and another point in claiming she just wasn't admitting the benefits he was giving her, financial struggles of his own and all. Or if he's blamelessly in need of her support and she can afford it and they both know and agree on that freely, then sure, fine.
But if he's a drain, maybe even by choice, on somebody who's already struggling, to keep himself going and at her expense, while gaslighting her about that so she won't make a free, informed decision about whether to stay? Then yes, STUCK, you're being victimized, and the person to blame is not you.
"I was referring to that tingling feeling… you sometimes get… after you’ve been fucked, even if you come."
"Afterglow," perhaps? But afterglow is a pleasant feeling which one is unlikely to experience without coming. I remain in the dark about the concept of sexy tingles.