@100 I know that no one is still reading the comments on this one, but... seriously?

"I held that secret for over five years. But, I was honest and told her. I think you should consider that you had to learn of this from a third party and evaluate the trustworthiness of your fiance. "

All that means is that no one beat you to it. Maybe he would have decided to come clean eventually. Maybe he wouldn't. She said herself that she wishes it never came out. We don't get to decide for other people what is best for them.

@100/Checman: You cheated on your wife twice during your marriage, and hid that fact for five years, until you came clean, and then pat yourself on the back for your courageous display of honesty, as compared to Jake? Lets remember, Jake and Ivy had sex once, toward the very start of BRIDE and Jake's relationship. You were breaking your vows of monogamy as some point into your marriage. These are really two different situation.

I have a thought: What if the third party is lying?