SAM~ I haven’t read all 101 previous posts, but just in case you are reading these comments (and for any other women out there whose men are disparaging the “taste” of their pussies) I say, “DON’T YOU BELIEVE IT!” Unless you have terrible hygiene or a yeast infection (or something similar) your pussy is quite likely delicious! I’ve tasted my share, and unless you’ve just returned from a 97 mile bike ride, it’s just a pathetic excuse not to try to please you.

@102 DonnyKlicious: Please accept my humblest heartfelt apologies if I have offended you in previous threads or posts. I have no excuses, but 2018 has been a grueling election year, and I didn't think I was going to make it sanely past November 6. I'm amazed I didn't end up in the ER with kidney stones the size of golf balls. This midterm's results were overall, quite a lovely surprise.

Okay--back to Savage Love: Bound and Gagging.

Mite @77, that was funny.
I’d never survive in the US. So be proud how tough you guys are. And, all these Amazing Women have been voted into Congress.

@76: You don't have to play along if you don't want to. Feel free to skip to @70 if you wish.

@104 LavaGirl: Yes---100 new Congress members, all women. HOORAY!! We have had enough, and managed to oust some real RepubliKKKan pigs here in Washington State to boot.

@102: Donny?

My advice to L1 and L3 relates to my own experiences from the early 90s. L1, you're an absolute newbie who's never tied anyone up (and I'd guess correctly that you've never been tied up yourself). Do you even know how to go about it safely, to avoid pressure points, etc.? Or is the fantasy of tying up a woman just so overwhelming that you're beginning to become resentful that other guys do it but you can't (shades of a BDSM incel)?

So, in the early 90s, a queer venue held a two-day workshop demonstrating all sorts of activities. The second day, I walked up to the hottest (older) guy who'd been demonstrating (I remember wax play, possibly more). He gave me his number; I called, and we had some amazing times together. If LW1 goes to munches (or a demo), he'll see how rope enthusiasts behave and - one hopes - he'll learn how not to creep potential partners out. And he should be willing to learn more than just the basics!

This fond memory has significance to LW3's lack of motivation to make her partner happy. What about the fact that he actually would be happy? When this particular lover and I planned to get together, I'd come up with a "story" and tell him the plot when we were on the way to his place ... and then he'd weave it into the evening's activities. We communicated but were still flexible regarding what would happen. If LW3 would like a quickie but still make him happy, she could order him to insert a butt plug (so he's off doing that in private, thereby not using up her oh-so-valuable time?), then ride him in a cowgirl or reverse cowgirl. He gets fucked, and so does she!

As for LW2, so he puts her down regarding how she tastes? Apparently, he's never heard of a dental dam. And, BTW, buddy, you think your cum tastes fantastic? ::rolls eyes::

Fan @90. Yes, two key areas. The domestic Jobs. And finding time for Solitude.
Just washing clothes with small kids, takes forever. I look back with pride that my husband and I, mainly my husband, washed cloth nappies /diapers/ with each baby!! No wonder our marriage was rocky.. all those babies, all those nappies.
Work can be sorted, if both play fair. And it can be let slide a bit, when the kids are little. Always more to do anyway. Clean dishes.
Solitude, I don’t think that can be compromised on. I had to have and still need, solitude time. Me time. Not have to be concerned with anybody else’s mind and needs, but my own. That’s creative time too. The mind wonders about, always two million books to look at/ Art, or read. Music to hear.

And we lived on tank water. Those were the days..
How to find time to drift off into one’s own mind for a bit, in a modern family. Hard one. Only thing really to relax about are the chores. When the kids are asleep, instead of running thru the house picking up things, go lie down and read a book. If there is a spare room, set it up as a shared work/ solitude room, mainly for the adults. Have separate bedrooms. Live in different dwellings. Lots of ways couples ‘manage’ the manipulation of space between them.
If there is time taken in a marriage for both to have their solitude, it will flow into shared sexual intimacy time.

Another thing to relax about are the after school and weekend activities. I shudder to think of all that extra work. My kids played footy at the local school oval. It’s like some families don’t even try to give themselves a chance to be home with each other, except to rush in and out doors, eat and sleep.

@102: Bless you for your wonderful comment to SAM, Donny. Please read @103. Are we okay?

Ms Grizelda - I apologize. Had I not been multi-tasking, your #99 would have been #100.

I feel already rewarded by the success of Ranked Choice voting in Maine. I wish we'd had it here the year five candidates for governor all got 10% or more of the vote, and the winner barely got 30%.

@113 vennominon: No apologies required. You won this week's HUnsky fair and square. Well earned congrats!

Helenka @108: TIED does not seem resentful to me. He does seem like he's getting a bit desperate to fulfill this fantasy which has so far eluded him, but fortunately smart enough to write to Dan rather than fall for something which seems too good to be true (and therefore is). I hope he satisfies his desires as effectively and enjoyably as you were able to.

Griz@103~ No problem, I still love you! We all have our bad days. :-)

@116 DonnyKlicious: Thanks so much for being so understanding! Whew--one more week of election coverage, ads, and political articles and Griz was afraid of going psycho. I am SO glad the midterms are over, and the elections results were FAR better than in 2014 and 2016. Big hugs, VW beeps, positrons, and a big "AACK-OOP!" to you and Mr.Bill.

Ditto!

@119: You must be getting desperate if you're already posting your Christmas wish list. It isn't even Thanksgiving yet (Sorry nocutename, and others---I could not resist the opening).

@121: Hunt,

Why? Are you toying with me?

@121: Can't a girl project?