@100 Congrats, nocutename, on scoring the coveted Hunsky Award! May abundant riches come your way soon.

BTT @ 35 Are you familiar with the carnage that resulted from the 2015 AM hack? What would the real world consequences be if your explicit material was sent to your parents, children, employer etc. If you think that there wouldn't be any then you are living in a fool's paradise. If you are so proud of the material and unconcerned about the consequences, why not be proactive and send the material to those people?

BDF @32 A friend told me about it and being the self righteous asshole that I am, I went to see for myself.

EL @ 38 He's a mean spirited asshole

Looks like the takeaway from this week's column is: Men, stop calling yourselves "lesbians trapped in women's bodies." No one thinks it's funny and no one knows what you really mean by it.

Er, "lesbians trapped in men's bodies"! Women's bodies makes even less sense! LOL, more coffee for me!

@101. Erica. What you say is true. I was only picking up on 'known for'. (But why should we worry what groups of people are 'known for'? The identification will be too coarse). Lesbians are certainly as 'known for' forms of sex not involving bio-cocks as busy straight marrieds are for the missionary position.

Ms Cute @99 - Interesting. Quite possibly right. In such a regard, if you devised a straight/bi/gay triangle (as this is a Brodiean image, it has to be kept to three), what sizes would the angles be?

Oops, forgot to add whether it would be different according to gender.

The is a precedent for a "gay man trapped in a woman's body", but it isn't a pleasant one. It takes the mind back to when the general opinion (shared by many of us, alas) is that we were almost all essentially characters in the works of such authors as John Rechy and looking for trade. Between such old-fashioned casting of gays as almost all natural bottoms wanting only to perform O and receive A, and the modern trend of masc-shaming, it's tricky trying to keep the see-saw balanced.

As a guy who's always had more women friends than male friends from first grade on or so (and probably a significantly higher number than normal of queer women friends for a straight man who isn't involved in any especially queer-heavy enterprises), I've considered about the "lesbian in a man's body" label... but it just sounds wack? Like, what does it mean apart from being a straight guy? If someone had an answer to that question that met me... well, I still wouldn't tell anyone that because it's a question that's never asked in a scenario where it matters.

@106 hahah u don't know plenty of lesbians trapped in women's bodies? I find the (non-trans) desire to be in a man's body (while still mystically retaining all womanhood) is a fairly normal fantasy for women (gay women especially but straight women as well), since the male body is 'powerful' and all.

@107 BiDanFan: At least you're not guilty of posting glaring typos like mine---usually and most embarrassingly when I'm sober and HAVEN'T been drinking! LOL
Griz needs more red, red wiiiine and a good secretary.

BiDanFan @106-107: We could agree amongst ourselves, or even petition Dan, to declare the term "lesbians trapped in men's bodies" to mean CIS men who have sex, exclusively and by their preference and fundamental nature, without the use of their penis. That would clear things up.

Griz @114: If typos made while you're sober and HAVEN'T been drinking are the most embarrassing, then clearly, the answer is red wine. Here's to you dear. Cheers!

@116 fubar: I'm always happy to raise a glass of Cabernet Sauvignon (damnedest thing how it seems to improve my typing!). Cheers!