I'm an otherwise healthy male of 54. When I was a teen, my cock measured about six and a half inches. Not small, not huge, pretty average. I never kept track of the situation down south, but suddenly I find my junk reports in at just over four inches. WTF? Is this normal? Do men lose size/girth as they age? I'm only 54! How much more do I have to lose before 60? And beyond? I'm single now, and suddenly I'm afraid to be intimate with women I formerly would have embraced without a second thought. My confidence is at an all-time low. I'm actually afraid to ask anyone out for fear of "exposing" the evidence. I assume there are no pills for this, but please tell me there are options.
Shrinking In Seattle
"We have to make a distinction between observed penile length and actual penile length," said Dr. Ashley Winter, a board-certified urologist in Portland, Oregon. "Penis length changes in real time based on a number of factors—factors that include level of arousal, stress, and ambient temperature. For this reason, researchers like to limit variability by measuring the 'stretched flaccid length' in a warm room."
Needless to say, most men aren't observing—much less measuring—their dicks when they're soft.
"We know that almost ZERO home dick measurements are done in the flaccid state," said Dr. Winter. "But unless SIS jotted down the room temp or precise level of arousal when he measured his teenage penis, it's unlikely he's comparing apples to apples. Another issue—and a far less appreciated one—is that the penis is anchored to the undersurface of your pelvic bones, so nearly one-half of the average penis length is 'hidden' along the undersurface of the pelvis."
There's a very special tendon—the suspensory ligament—that runs from the base of your penis to your pelvis. In addition to providing you with some degree of control when you're erect, SIS, the suspensory ligament also holds some of your dick up and inside the body. Men who want their cocks to look larger when they're soft and who don't mind if their hard cocks are harder to control or flop around during intercourse will sometimes have this suspensory ligament cut, which causes the penis to "drop." Their cocks aren't as useful for sex, it's true, but there's more "observable" cock for other men to admire in locker rooms and at urinals.
"The most dramatic cause of lost 'observed' penile length with aging is weight gain," said Dr. Winter. "As the average guy gains weight, more of his fixed penile length gets hidden, as the crucial sit-bone-to-skin distance gets longer."
So your dick may not be any smaller than it was in your teens, SIS; it's just that more of it may be hidden inside your now- middle-aged body thanks to weight gain and that damn ligament.
But hey, let's say you're no thicker today than you were in your teens and that your arousal levels are constant and that you've kept your apartment at a constant temperature over the decades. Could something be causing your cock to actually shrink?
"The main causes of actual penis shrinkage are having your prostate removed, Peyronie's disease (plaque development that narrows or bends the penis), or the scarring of erectile tissue, something called corporal fibrosis. SIS would know if he'd had prostate surgery, and he would have a noticeable 'lump' or change in erection shape if he had Peyronie's. So the main concern here is corporal fibrosis. It can be insidious and is usually associated with conditions that make blood vessels unhealthy—like high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and diabetes. SIS says he's healthy, but the penis is often the first body part to manifest signs of the above conditions because it is so dynamic. Which means the penis, wonderfully and tragically, is often the 'canary in the coal mine' for cardiovascular health."
Let's say your canary is shrinking, SIS. What can you do about it?
"First and foremost, he should realize that far fewer women would care about his penis length than he does," said Dr. Winter. "Studies including 52,000 individuals showed that 85 percent of women were satisfied with their partners' penile length, while only 55 percent of men were satisfied with their own length."
And unlike you, SIS, the women you sleep with today aren't going to be comparing the dick you've got now with the dick you had (or thought you had) then.
"But if SIS wants to maximize his 'observed' penile length, he should shed extra weight—if he's overweight—and check in with his doc for a test of his cholesterol and blood pressure and a diabetes screen," said Dr. Winter. "Regular erections do help keep the penis healthy, so if he has some ED, Viagra (or a similar med) can preserve length."
I am a 66-year-old gay man. After a very promiscuous youth, I have settled down a lot as far as sex, and I mostly just masturbate, with a trip to the baths every few months. I have a question about orgasms. I have noted, since I've gotten older, that my orgasm from masturbation is very intense and seems to last about five minutes after I ejaculate, during which I feel orgasmic feelings in my penis, legs, and sometimes my whole body. I've never had this before. Is this normal?
Mr. Sixty Fucking Six
"The question of normalcy in sexual function is hammered into us from the start—but it's pejorative and irrelevant," said Dr. Winter. "As a physician, the relevant question here is: 'Does MSFS find this distressing or harmful?' It doesn't sound like five-minute total-body masturbation-induced orgasms are painful for MSFS, nor are they interfering with his day-to-day quality of life. So by definition they are 'nothing to worry about.' Furthermore, they are not the harbinger of any dangerous medical condition. As you like to say, Dan, this is more of a 'YAHTZEE!' than a problem."
Anecdotal evidence—my own, a huge pile of it, gathered over the years—indicates that you're something of an outlier, MSFS; most of the older men I hear from with questions about their orgasms are concerned about their slow and steady deterioration, not their sudden improvement. (Erections are harder to get, their orgasms are less intense, and their jizz is less abundant.)
But even if this isn't a problem—even if this is a yahtzee—what might be going on?
"That's the far more interesting question: Why is this happening?" said Dr. Winter. "I don't have a lot of quotable studies on that one, but I have a few thoughts. First off, this may have nothing to do with age and everything to do with his position. Contraction of the muscles in the pelvis and thighs (even calves!), and the muscles at the base of the penis (or clitoris) can contribute to strength of erection and intensity of orgasm, and certain positions may allow more effective muscle 'recruitment.' So differences in position or stance during partnered versus masturbatory activities may hold clues for MSFS."
Another possible explanation—and another definite "Yahtzee!"—is that you're ever so suddenly multiorgasmic.
"While it is more common for women to be multiorgasmic, there are men who can do this, too," said Dr. Winter. "Longer duration of arousal—common with porn watching—and certain medications that prevent prolactin surge in the brain and strong Kegels (those muscles again!) may lead to the 'condensed multi-orgasm,' a phenomenon that may fit the description MSFS is providing."
But finally and again, MSFS, so long as those powerful, long-lasting, all-body orgasms aren't diminishing your quality of life, they're nothing to worry about. Enjoy!
Follow Dr. Ashley Winter on Twitter @AshleyGWinter. Dr. Winter cohosts The Full Release (thefullreleasepod.com), a terrific, funny, and informative sex-and-relationship-advice podcast, with comedian Mo Mandel.
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