Iām a man in his 40s and my partner is in their 30s and non-binary. Weāve been together for three years and officially living together for about a year. Things have been a little tumultuous during that time, due to issues with my kids, my kidsā mom, and my own fears about compatibility and commitment. She (my partner) is demanding ārelationship milestonesā that signify my commitment to her. Previous significant milestones, like becoming official, moving in together, her meeting my kids, etc., were āsulliedā (and are therefore invalidated somehow) because they werenāt executed with enough āenthusiasmā or ācareful planning.ā I would very much like to give her the milestones she craves, but aside from popping the question ā and Iām definitely not ready for that! ā Iām struggling to come up with āmilestonesā that would be of sufficient significance. And when I ask for examples, all I get are ideas...
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Iām a man in his 40s and my partner is in their 30s and non-binary. Weāve been together for three years and officially living together for about a year. Things have been a little tumultuous during that time, due to issues with my kids, my kidsā mom, and my own fears about compatibility and commitment. She (my partner) is demanding ārelationship milestonesā that signify my commitment to her. Previous significant milestones, like becoming official, moving in together, her meeting my kids, etc., were āsulliedā (and are therefore invalidated somehow) because they werenāt executed with enough āenthusiasmā or ācareful planning.ā I would very much like to give her the milestones she craves, but aside from popping the question ā and Iām definitely not ready for that! āĀ Iām struggling to come up with āmilestonesā that would be of sufficient significance. And when I ask for examples, all I get are ideas Iām not ready for, like getting married or getting a cat.
Moving In Lacked Emotional Significance
First and most importantly: the pronoun situation...
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