Bondage is frequently a first stop for people wanting to get kinky. Here's what you should know about using bondage to add an edge to sex with your honey.
The best thing for a beginner is a pair of buckling leather bondage cuffs. Steel handcuffs may look sexy, but they aren't comfortable. If you're wearing them during wild sex, they can tighten up and pinch skin and nerves. Cheap ones may actually bend or jam and be impossible to get off. (And God help you if you lose the key.) Rope is fun, but unless you're a sailor or a Boy Scout, you probably don't know how to tie many knots. Granny knots tighten up and can be hard to untie when you want to get someone free. The same goes for any cord-type thing, even that venerable standby, the bathrobe belt. Especially beware skinny cords of any kind, as they can easily cut into someone's skin.
No, its best to invest in a pair of leather cuffs, at least two inches wide. They won't bruise or scrape anyone's wrists and you can get someone out of them quickly if necessary. For extra-nervous beginners, try satin cuffs with Velcro closures.
With any wrist bondage, you should be able to put your finger between the cuff and the bound person's flesh. If not, it's too tight and will impede circulation and possibly cause nerve damage.
Never, ever leave a bound person alone under any circumstances. A helpless body is your responsibility. And do not, I beg you, try to copy exotic bondage pictures you see on the web. Many of them are faked, and to execute them in real life would be dangerous. If you want to learn about more elaborate bondage, I recommend Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook, an extremely beginner-friendly book by the author of SM101 that will teach you a lot about safety and technique, plus a bit about the psychology of this kind of SM play.
