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And Sharon was the peak of RPDR...after that it's been shit
Okay, I’ll bite... what exactly does queer mean?
But, Stefan, what's a human fire hydrant?
But if you have an opinion on if she should be "allowed" or not to perform at whatever venue, I hope it's the same opinion you have for when various conservative types come to speak.
I mean, as long as your political philosophy is something other than "My way, right or wrong"
Are there any fun bars in Seattle anymore? Someplace where you can go without dealing with a bunch of triggered snowflakes. The gay/lesbian bars used to be those sorts of places but apparently not so much anymore.
People's feelings get hurt on a daily basis. This is not something that just happens between different races or genders or identities. It happens in relationships. It happens in families. It happens between friends. Constantly. It's part of being human.
Moreover, pretty much everything you say or do has the potential to hurt somebody's feelings. Heck, pointing out that the sky is blue probably hurts the feelings of the Fox News crowd.
Which leads to another reason this is problematic: because we are expected to act as if some people's feelings are fine to hurt, but others are not. Talk about the size of Donald Trump's cock and ass and it's all in good fun. Talk about the size of Enakai Ciseaux's penis and it's a hurtful microaggression.
That's not to say we should let up on Donald Trump! On the contrary. But it does mean that the Ciseauxs out there probably need to understand that (a) they will never live in a perfect world where no-one ever hurts their feelings and (b) no-one ever really has any clue what kind of a life anyone else has gone through; that applies to the Ciseauxs of the world judging Coady and assuming that he hasn't seen the shit they have.
I'm enough of an old-school liberal to believe very deeply in judging and accepting people as individuals. I'm also self-aware enough to know that I have my own deep-seated prejudices that prevent me from doing that; that, too, is part of the human condition. But I keep up with the struggle within myself to be that better version of me as much as I can.
That also means that, being very much aware that we all have our flaws, I try to be strong enough to cut people slack when they say or do things that are hurtful to me. There's a lot to be said for approaching people with the understanding that we all want what's best, even if we do deeply disagree about what that means or how we get there.
That's not to say that we ought to accept racism or sexism or any kind of discrimination. Just that we ought to set the bar in some other way. Feelings are such slippery, mutable, deceitful things. We probably pay way more attention to them than we should. But then that, too, is all part of being human.
TL;DR: We need a better way of policing our conduct than "feelings."
An odd world, my friend.