You looked, didn't you Dan. You checked out Blowfly Girl.

I have met a number of people who are 'falling in love" with someone who flirts with them at work. I always tell that it is probably NOT a good idea, especially in this day and age where work is even scarcer and more important that eligible men. I agree with the second LW replying to HISBULL that this is NOT a good thing to do. I would add on possible condition: IF AND ONLY IF they are in completely different departments and not likely to meet on a regular basis, then maybe it could work.

@1. I did not! The same little voice in my head that said, "You don't have to watch 2 Girls, 1 Cup told me I didn't have to go looking for Blowfly Girl. The description told me all I needed to know.

I mean, no no no no nope. Not going to look at that.

BUT... At least it's not BOTfly girl *shudders*

Re: prostate biopsy feeling 'relatively painless'.
HA! Maybe his prostate is relatively numb, but when I had this done (with local anesthetic) it was very painful. Then afterwards you feel kinda 'full' and use the toilet and it looks like your ass exploded and the bowl is full of blood. And the post procedure waiting room is like a rape crisis centre for men - everyone looks sad, embarrassed and hurt.

Someone's got to check the site Dan. What if another worm (or the like) up the vagina enthusiast writes in?
Maybe Blowfly Girl is into maggots. If any of you brave researchers look her up, report back please.

"I actually think "generally not a good idea" is a good standard to apply to workplace relationships — it's generally not a good idea, people should think long and hard before asking a coworker out/hitting on coworker or taking a coworker up on his offer to, say, fuck his wife while he watches. (Better yet: think about it long and not hard.)"

Thank you, Dan. No, are you reading?

Skeptic, congratulations on getting Dan-quoted! And Lava, you too! Squee!

"Please note: I do NOT recommend clicking your way toward Blowfly Girl"

Thank you for the warning Dan. The worms were bad enough I wasn't at all tempted to google the blowfies.

I don't recall "2 Girls, 1 Cup", so to me it sounds kinda hot. But it sounds like I'd regret going there.

Some workplaces have explicit policies against any sexual talk or flirty behavior between coworkers while on the clock. I don't know if the LW's does since he didn't mention it, but even if they aren't so explicit, I think the concern could be that a coworker could end up saying you harassed them in some way. Like "there I was, just minding my own business, but every time I went to the photocopier, X was there, talking about banging his wife". I guess I'm probably a little more paranoid than most people, but I'd never engage in any sexual relationship with anyone in a workplace. Though I dont have a standard office job anymore either, and back when I did, a lot of my social life was through work so I can see how it happens as that's who people spend so much time with. Luckily, I've just never been attracted to any coworkers so it was never an issue. I have had social falling outs make the workplace awkward, and people gossip which can be uncomfortable, so I'd keep that in mind too. Most people are unlikely to accuse you of something officially, but that doesn't mean they won't stir up others and make your work environment stressful. There's a big world out there- seems an unnecessary risk.

@1 & @6 LavaGirl: Thank you for the warning on BlowFly Girl. I am still reeling after reading WORMS' letter in Worms Turn from Savage Love two columns ago. Yuuuuuuuuuuuuck!
Seriously--don't wanna go there!

I had seen Blowfly Girl's blog before, but didn't comment.

Fortunately, it's all apparently fictional erotica. No actual girls or blowflies were harmed.