Recent Savage Love Letters of the Day: Can you do that cuckold thing without the humiliation part? Where does a straight lady find gay guys DTF straight ladies? What do you do when your husband is a best friend to everyone but you? Where's the incest line? And, as always, last week's column and Savage Lovecast.

This letter from a listener concerning a convo/rant about gun control — from a past episode of the Lovecast — arrived the day before yesterday's shooting:

I own guns, and I'm for gun control! Just started listening to the micro version of the podcast on Spotify! (was suggested by the GWF podcast!) I heard the episode where you had the call with the ''gun fanatic'' and I just wanted you to know that we're not all like that (hicks)... HAHAHA. I was raised around firearms, we are hunters in my family. In my opinion, make the rules as strict as you want, make ''us'' consult a shrink for three months before we get our licenses, put the delayed purchase law in order, do heavy background checks, put as many fees as possible, I don't care! It'll ''filter'' the population to only the people that are ''mature'' enough to own firearms. If at the end of all that I'm ''undeserving'' of firearms, so be it, take'em away! I agree that ''guns aren't dangerous, people are'' as if the person has murderous envy, they'll do it with or without a firearm, but firearms make it sooooooooo much easier to kill, it's not even funny. So in my opinion, as few guns as possible please!

What do you call a straight guy who loves sucking dick? I had my thoughts. So did all of you:

Thank game of thrones, but how about Sword Swallowers... the sword doing double duty; implying violence hence force and the obvious meaning.

I have a suggestion for a name for the forcedbi-ers, Dan: Bisucksuals!

How about "alternative straight," you know, like alternative facts?

Regarding SPANK:

The letter from SPANK raised an interesting question: Why do so many straight guys want and NEED spankings, even when they're given by gay men? Is it some primitive drive to prove how tough and brave they are? I know of at least five different websites out there where straight men receive bare-bottom (or naked) spankings, being given to them by gay men on-camera for money. I've personally spanked a dozen straight guys on their bare bums myself, all of whom knew I'm gay. I wouldn't do it to a gay guy, because it would just feel wrong — but spanking a straight guy's bare ass feels WONDERFUL. We both really enjoy them, too. You speculated in your reply that they might be getting spanked by women, too, but it doesn't look like it to me. One guy told me he didn't care what my sexuality was, as long as I was willing to give him what he needed. He said it's hard to find women who aren't "too delicate" to do it — unless he's willing to pay a professional dominatrix a lot of money. But we sure had fun!

One of the married guys told me he couldn't possibly ask his wife to do it, because "it would change the whole dynamic" of their relationship. And another said his wife was way too vanilla — and somehow he didn't feel like he was cheating on her, when it was with me, instead of another woman. I always wonder what is going through their heads when this gay man is undoing their pants, pulling them down, peeling down their underpants, putting them over his lap, and spanking their bare bums quite hard with my hand. I always use my hand, because there is nothing like the satisfying SMACK of the skin of my hand on his bare straight ass. It's a HUGE turn-on!

For WATCHER:

I think it's cute that the LW believes his fantasy is easy breezy, no big deal, but her fantasy is insurmountably complex.

And...

WATCHER said his fantasy was 'simple' and that his gf's wasn't. I thought they were both simple in some respects and complicated in others. The LW has inferred that his gf may (may only, this is his unconscious fear) find him sexually inadequate; and this motivation underlies her wanting to have sex with another man while he is present. I doubt this is the attraction ... but if he can think that, she could equally suppose that he wants a threesome to have sex with another woman, to have sex with a woman who's a better lover than she is. So both fantasies have the potential to arouse the other person's insecurities; and it struck me as insensitive that he thought his was simple, hers not.

For FRUSTRATED...

Regarding your answer to FRUSTRATED, the woman who has been making out with a female friend who claims she doesn't want to sleep with FRUSTRATED because she's straight: You say that the other woman must be gay or bisexual if she's making out with the first woman. But that's not necessarily the case. She could be straight-ish, in that she likes making out with women (or with that particular woman, at least) but is completely uninterested in having sex with women. You may be right that the second woman IS totally gay or bi, but there's no way of knowing that, and there are other possibilities.

A bit of hope and understanding from Italy:

I'm an enthusiastic reader of your column in "Internazionale" from Italy and so, sorry for my English (and for the return of fascists in our country). I'm married since 2011 and my relationship with my wife started ten years ago. A marriage, I wonder, similar to many others, with good times and bad times, and a really good sex. Few days ago, I accidentally saw a conversation (whatsapp) between my wife and a man. The next day the same, but with another man. My brain exploded because the second time I watched more carefully and I found a pair of my wife photos sent to that man. So I got angry, I shouted against her as never before and I argued all day, while she swore to me that she never betrayed me, that they were people she knew on a chatroom. Once in the past, she told me when she was younger she had a big trouble with her family because she used to be on this kind of chat. She said she felt so insecure at the times and that to be on a chatroom makes her feel better, more accepted, and now she tried to explain to me that is the same. She felt so alone sometimes because of my job.

At first I didn't want to believe it, and I closed myself in a blind search of her internet activities. Then I remembered once in your column I read about a gay man who had my same trouble. So I read it again yesterday and it helped me to understand I had to quit my necessity of control over my wife. She was honest with me. I cannot persecute her. And now I'm almost at peace with myself because I'm not a saint (and I don't want to be a saint, I want to keep on seeing my pornos and appreciate women as usual, so she can surely do the same with men — if this doesn't mean anything physical).

So, really, simply, thank you.

Prego!