I wonder how the LW feels about kissing after he laps it up.

I've never seen a guy do this either, but although it wouldn't gross me out like it does the LW, I would find it really unappealing. I think it's because it's his OWN which isn't logical, just a gut response. I mean, if he's lapping up another's guy's cum or my own vaginal fluids, it wouldn't turn me on, but I wouldn't bat an eye at it. Licking up his own- well it just seems like he's overly into himself?

As for kissing afterwards, meh. We had a longish discussion about something similar a few weeks back. I'm personally of the opinion that sex is full of body fluids and they get in the mouth, sometimes intentionally and sometimes not, and that kissing after just about anything is part of it. Kissing with a mouthful of something is different, but kissing sometime after having had a mouthful of something is just what happens in my experience. I'd assume that the LW has had his dick if not his cum in her mouth plenty so kissing him afterwards seems sort of a moot point.

OMFG relax. Seriously it's grosser to eat boogers and I'll bet you've done that!

Ah hell! I would find that lapping up definitely hotter than wiping with tissues. Anyway, I kiss my husband after I swallow his come, he kisses me after he gets down on me, what's the big deal? If you think body fluids (speaking about sweat, come, pussy juice, bit of blood) are disgusting, maybe don't have sex with a real person IRL? ;-)

This wouldn't be my favorite either. It's not a rational thing, like: x,y and z similar things don't bother me, so this isn't allowed to. Squicks don't work that way. It might not have been very important to him, and easy for him to substitute something else if she thought it was important enough to ask. Sometimes 'game' means game to do something different.

...maybe he's deeply concerned (and deeply confused) about his carbon emissions...

Thanks Dan, that gave me a good chuckle.

I think kissing afterward is hot, but given the LW's questions (including whether it's a gay thing), I wouldn't be surprised if it bothered her.

I honestly don't see why this would be considered disgusting. Or a "gay thing". To me it's easier, and sexier, cleanup. I've had boyfriends do it without being asked and they weren't even bi (or, at least, openly so). Why the hangup?

I sort of get why it instinctively "sounds like a gay thing". But honestly, it isn't. I know lots and lots of gay guys who will swallow their partner's load. But I've never once seen a gay guy eat his own load, and I'm old enough to have had a long and varied sex life. I've never heard a gay guy express any interest in eating his own load. I'm sure there must be a handful of gay guys out there who are into that, but it is quite rare. Wherever this kink comes from, it doesn't have anything to do with sexual orientation.

@3 YES

Personally, as a man-liking woman, I don't think there's anything icky about anyone licking or swallowing cum (including their own). It tastes like tapioca pudding and Comet, but whatever, it's harmless.

@3, I've never eaten boogers OR semen. Now I feel like a prude.

@12 You’ve probably eaten boogers when you were a kid.

Haaaa I know exactly which bartender.

She's lucky he didn't want to eat it out of her pussy.

@14 kind of a loose soft-doxxing by Dan to include the specific bar, don't you think? I know I wouldn't want some LW detailing my sexual preferences in such an easily-identifiable manner.

@12 you done ate some boogers, sorry to tell you.

@10 I agree that in reality there is probably nothing particularly gay about it. It wasn't THAT long ago (like, when I was in HS) that a straight couple having anal sex was "kinda vaguely gay". I think the internet destroyed that myth. I guess we need more "seems gay but isn't" porn?

Sounds more like a #humblebrag.

@16 & @14 Oh shit, you're right. Shitty of Dan IMO. If the bartender himself were writing in and choosing to share his personal stuff, fine. But for the LW to do it in a way that could identify him- that's really shitty. Dan, being the professional, should have been more careful here. Hope it doesn't cause this dude any grief.

It's not a gay thing. It's a catholic thing. Gay men typically don't have to pull out and spunk up on someone's tummy. If they did, they might be more inclined to lap it up... after all, every sperm that's wasted makes God quite irate.

@14, 16, 18

I think Dan put that in because he didn’t want to make LW seem like a homophobe. “My bi boyfriend is licking his own cum off me. That’s gross because it’s so gayyyy.”

Seriously, LW, if you hate it, tell him. If you merely don’t like it, let him get his rocks off (its relatively harmless). Who cares why he’s doing it?

@18 The '90s is enormous and comprised of seven or eight different bars (including the one you have to go through a mensroom to get to.) That bartender's privacy may not be in much jeopardy, @14 notwithstanding.

I've lapped up my own cum numerous times during oral sex after cumming in GF's pussy (though more as an incidental thing, not slurping it down). Also I've deliberately drank it after masturbating mostly out of curiosity, and also to see what it tasted like, 'cause if it was gross, I'd never ask my partner to swallow. It wasn't bad, just a little salty, and had a taste that I couldn't compare to any food. Interestingly, it makes my tongue a little bit numb...maybe some kind of auti-immune phenomenon.

Umm that’s really hot- especially if it was a bit lower.

Can I get his number? That's hot af.

LW, there are a lot of women who would think that hot. If you're grossed out by it to the point where you have to write Dan, he doesn't deserve you. Hey LW's bf: DTMFA.

I always find that eating come (the correct spelling, and I'm not giving way to wrongness) is a really appealing idea until I have come.

I've found that if you can trigger an ejaculation without actually climaxing, you can eat your own and it tastes as good as any other guy's.

Maybe the guy in question can stay sufficiently aroused that he enjoys it after the fact or maybe he doesn't completely climax and go into his refractory period.

What ever the case - what the fuck does it matter?

@25- It's possible that they aren't compatible if this is a really big deal for the LW's bf and if the LW really hates it. But I hate the trend that if Person A is not down for Act X, they are not only being selfish or prudish, but they are also assholes who are not deserving of their partners and should be dumped. Seriously? People like different things. You are unlikely to find someone who likes everything you like. The majority of us compromise. That is what the LW has been doing, too, btw.

@19 Thank you for the Monty Python reference! For those who aren’t familiar withvthe hilarious and not-PC reference, here are the lyrics from the movie, “The Meaning of Life”

Every Sperm Is Sacred Lyrics | MetroLyrics http://www.metrolyrics.com/every-sperm-i…
DAD:
There are Jews in the world.
There are Buddhists.
There are Hindus and Mormons, and then
There are those that follow Mohammed, but
I've never been one of them.
I'm a Roman Catholic,
And have been since before I was born,
And the one thing they say about Catholics is:
They'll take you as soon as you're warm.
You don't have to be a six-footer.
You don't have to have a great brain.
You don't have to have any clothes on. You're
A Catholic the moment Dad came,
Because
Every sperm is sacred.
Every sperm is great.
If a sperm is wasted,
God gets quite irate.

CHILDREN:
Every sperm is sacred.
Every sperm is great.
If a sperm is wasted,
God gets quite irate.

GIRL:
Let the heathen spill theirs
On the dusty ground.
God shall make them pay for
Each sperm that can't be found.

CHILDREN:
Every sperm is wanted.
Every sperm is good.
Every sperm is needed
In your neighbourhood.

MUM:
Hindu, Taoist, Mormon,
Spill theirs just anywhere,
But God loves those who treat their
Semen with more care.

MEN:
Every sperm is sacred.
Every sperm is great.

WOMEN:
If a sperm is wasted,...

CHILDREN:
...God get quite irate.
PRIEST:
Every sperm is sacred.

BRIDE and GROOM:
Every sperm is good.

NANNIES:
Every sperm is needed...

CARDINALS:
...In your neighbourhood!

CHILDREN:
Every sperm is useful.
Every sperm is fine.

FUNERAL CORTEGE:
God needs everybody's.

MOURNER #1:
Mine!

MOURNER #2:
And mine!

CORPSE:
And mine!

NUN:
Let the Pagan spill theirs
O'er mountain, hill, and plain.

HOLY STATUES:
God shall strike them down for
Each sperm that's spilt in vain.

EVERYONE:
Every sperm is sacred.
Every sperm is good.
Every sperm is needed
In your neighbourhood.

So it grosses her out and it is discusting so she asks “is it a gay thing?”.
Sounds like she has the problem and that is, if it is gross, it is a “gay thing”

Looks like this thread will be the only interesting thing to comment on this weekend.

I lap mine up. It's not sexual. It's the most efficient way of cleaning it up. Also, a nice, light snack.

This isn't exactly the same thing, but it's the same idea. I've been with women who have put their fingers into their pussy and then licked them, and I didn't find that off-putting at all. In fact, I found it hot. Are there some men who, like the LW, would find this disgusting? I imagine so.

31/Doot: Also, a nice, light snack.

Locally-sourced, very fresh, no added sugar and gluten-free!

I'd like to cross-examine LW on the "obviously".

Mizz Liz and company - Mr Savage might have changed the name of the bar or the city. My ITWMN moment here is to imagine such a name change accidentally misidentifying a completely uninvolved person, and what might come of that.

It's not uncommon in gay porn to see a guy shoot on his partner and then lick it up, or push it around on the other guy's abdomen and chest with his tongue before moving up for a sticky kiss.

@28

Or you could have just pasted this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fUspLVSt…

:)

A quick perusal of Tumblr and you'll see plenty of guys jerking then eating thier cum afterwards.
Could I possibly be watching more open than Dan? Say it ain't so!

A. she seems to regard the male body as a toxic waste dump.
B. 'I never said anything, ' Seems to be the female national anthem.
The guy should dump her.

Post PIV oral? Mostly no, however I had one long-term partner with whom I didn't use condoms and with whom I tended to come early. I've never devoured my own load for it's own sake but I wouldn't skimp with the cunnilingus if that's what was needed to take care of her after I had sped across the finish line. I considered it the gentlemanly thing to do. Call me old-fashioned.

@28 @36 thanks for the quotes from/link to this important documentary.

@22 articulates my own experience best. I’ve never had a penis in my mouth, but I sure love BJs. I exerted a good bit of effort to understand her BJ experience, by inserting objects matching my penis size in my mouth and consuming my own ejaculate. I found the whole experience to be rather benign. I don’t understand the revulsion expressed here by some.

@24 could be - but within an hour a poster here (@14) claimed to know the specific person. They could improperly conflating, but... why give out enough details that a reasonable person could say "oh that's probably so-and-so?". At least go with "a gay bar in my town" or something.

@41 ~ ...by inserting objects matching my penis size in my mouth...
Pencil eraser?
Toothpick?

@41,

Inserting something matching your penis size in your mouth doesn’t cut it.

1) Your mouth is probably bigger than your girlfriend's, so you need something bigger than your penis to get a similar experience.

2) You don`t just “insert it.” You entertain it. All of it, from base to tip. For five minutes. You suck it without making tooth contact. You keep it well-lubricated. You keep going when it bucks and lands in the back of your throat. You make happy faces and gaze into its eyes to show how turned on you are.

Five minutes is a long time.