Lunchtime Quickie: What *IF* Women Were As Horny As Men?

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Ha!
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awesome world would be awesome
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Funny, but incorrect. They're conflating objectification for libido.
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Subversive and brilliant. But, yeah, what #3 said... this isn't a logical deconstruction of the issue, it's a satire.
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I loved the strip club music. :) That was also very hard to watch at work. I think I strained my peripheral vision muscles.
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gaaaaaaaaah!
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@3
No, libido and objectification are inherently conflated. You're conflating libido with wanting a relationship.
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@7 No, I'm not. When I'm horny and want to fuck, I don't treat men as sex objects.
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It is still the typical male fantasy.
10
I NEED that drum and bass remix of Gangsta Gangsta.
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@8: That's because you're able to say phrases like, "When I'm horny". That implies there are times when you are not horny, which means you don't understand.
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@8 I don't. I quite enjoy objectifying men in my quest to sate the libido.
I do have a harder time objectifying women in that same quest...
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those male strippers were pretty flabby looking
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@12 I'm sure your type of lustful objectification of men is the same as mine - harmless and private. I doubt you sexually harass men on the street, fondle them in crowded buses, push your SO to have sex with you even when he says no, and make nonverbal sexually aggressive motions at men who are minding their own business. This video, altho hilarious, is not showing women being horny - it's showing women outwardly treating men as sex objects. That is not about sex, it's about power and sexual objectification.

@11 and you are part of the problem that assumes all men are horny all the time. "Men can't be raped, they always want to have sex!"
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aww don't take it too seriously. it's funny.

but i didn't quite get all that nonsense at the end, after the credits.
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Do women have higher standards for beauty than men do?
The guys in the strip club looked silly and unimpressive.
On the other hand, I know I ogle good-looking guys. If I had to give a number, I'd say 20% of men ages 18-35 are men I'd be inclined to stare at.
Men: is that more or less than the number of women you'd "check out"?
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This should be titled "If women were horny LIKE men."
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Kersy, you're quickly becoming one of my favorite SLOG commenters. I liked the video, but I agree that there's a difference between horniness and sexual objectification.
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I objectified quite a few naked men at The Silverado in Portland last weekend. Not sure it made me as horny as my gay date(s) though
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@17 ftw.

Usually they're way hornier, it's just they express it differently.
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@18 Wow thanks! I sometimes feel like a feminist troll :)
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Kersy (non-serious question but curious nonetheless), is the video saying we shouldn't have erections in the subway?
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@22 I will answer any questions. I'm the new Dan Savage.

Yay for erections, but hide them in public. Displaying your boner is both vulgar and in many ways sexual harassment.
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I don't think there's anything wrong with acknowledging that men tend to have higher libidos than women, especially when they're young. What I don't understand is why it's seen as such a great thing, a source of strength and power, when it is obviously a weakness. Because it makes men easier to manipulate, right? Women have their weaknesses too, of course, but historically it is women whose competence is questioned based on their gender (PMS, being "too emotional", prone to "hysteria"), while men, who will happily acknowledge that they do often "think with their dicks", are seen as sensible and rational enough to be in charge of everything. (I almost said "of fucking everything", which is a pretty good pun, but sexist. Bad me.)

My libido went way up sometime in my early thirties, and to be honest, it's a hassle. It makes monogamy harder, it complicates professional relationships, and is just an all-around distraction. I think I was MORE rational when it wasn't such a factor! I'm not saying that men or women with high libidos should be ashamed of their desires, but men and women with low libidos shouldn't be seen as defective, either. Testosterone causes a lot of problems in this world.
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I feel bad for guys with evident boners. I can only imagine how many I'd randomly end up with in public.
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skweetis, gotta second that...
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@23
Boners == sexual harassment? Well, at least we agree the strip club music was cool.

P.S. You don't understand men.
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@27 Boners =/= sexual harassment. Purposely displaying your boner in a confined public space == sexual harassment.

PS. You don't understand sexual power structures.
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I'm not sure we should worry too much about the opinion of a person who thinks that they;ve added something useful to the conversation when they state that treating people like sex objects is sexual objectification. That's kind of redundant.
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Kersy said:
[a high libido] is obviously a weakness. [...] It makes monogamy harder
Are you a Christian by any chance?
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@30: That was me, and no, I'm not a Christian! I'm an atheist, and I stand by what I said. I probably could have added that there are also great pleasures to having a strong libido, but I think that's kind of obvious.

Look, most men would agree that a very sexy woman (or man, depending) has a lot of power over a guy with a high sex drive. Isn't that the basis of a culture where sex can be used to sell almost anything? Where "trophy wives" seduce men, only to fleece them in divorce court? And isn't the understanding that men have stronger libidos the very reason they claim that monogamy is harder for them?

Are you saying you disagree?
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I don't even know where to start.

Having a strong libido doesn't turn anyone into a sex zombie.
Trophy wives have nothing to do with libido and everything to do with status symbol.
Sex being used to sell has nothing to do with our culture. Just look at animals or any other human culture now and in history.
Women cheat just as much as men.
People cheat for many reasons, not just a strong libido.
And if monogamy is that hard for someone, maybe that person isn't made to be monogamous, just like some people aren't made to be straight.
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" I sometimes feel like a feminist troll."

Only sometimes?