My advice yesterday for a frustrated, sex-starved husband whose wife isn't interested in sex and refuses to discuss it: give the wife a heads-up then go ahead and get it where and when you can. And feel free to skip counseling because...
At counseling sessions you'll be told, over and over again, that you're the problem, that you're doing this, that, or the other thing(s) wrong. After working on this, that, and the others, you'll be told at a subsequent counseling session that you're doing this, that, or the other other thing(s) wrong. With the help of a good counselor your wife will never run out of things you're doing wrong.
Abby's advice today for a frustrated, sex-starved husband whose wife isn't interested in sex and refuses to discuss it:
Good sex is all about open communication. If the subject makes you and your wife both clam up, it’s no wonder your sex life has faltered. Before you and Alana can get on the same wavelength, you need to understand how each of you defines a good sex life. Before deciding to call it quits, ask your doctor for a referral to a sex therapist.